"Infiltration" in Real Life
In James' final tet-a-tet with Franklin, James said, in essence, that the gay community has enough to worry about without the fear of being "infiltrated" by outsiders. His comment seems to suggest that such "infiltration" did not commonly occurr in real life . . . but is this true? Just how frequently do hetorsexuals try to pass as gay?
In a recent VH1 show on gay culture in the media there was brief mention of "fag stags" in reference to straight men crashing gay bars to meet women that VH1 intimated were attracted to the more shapely, well-groomed and sensitive gay men. Certainly, there are also likely plenty of folks trying to pass as gay who are experimenting, confused, or curious. What is interesting to me is the suggestion that folks try to pass as gay socially either because "gay is 'in'" (to echo Ru Paul's proclaimation in "Wigstock the Movie") or to otherwise take advantage of perceived social benefits of being gay. Such social intrusion seems to have motivations which are perhaps more sincere than those of fag stags yet fundamentally less about sex than those who are experimenting, confused or curious.
With the advent of shows like BMB, Queer Eye, etc., etc., straight men are exposed to male bonding which is decidedly friendly and affirming and an environment that has cultured a keen sense of acceptance and belonging. Important too is that the gay community offers a male culture alternative to the oaffish, brash, machismo-driven culture that the media has used to define the "straight male". ("The Man Show" and even Queer Eye have capitalized on this image.) Perhaps some white males are influenced by the lack of other positive social groups or identities (compare, for example, the culture of street gangs or white supremacists).
What do you think -- How common is heterosexual "infiltration" and what motivates those who try to pass as gay?