I thought the same thing gatrmom. I do find that youth pastors aren't the most mature though. I know ours isn't....which is one of the reasons why we may switch churches when my oldest is in youth group...but not going there right now. Anyway, they aren't perfect and we can't expect them to be. BUT they are held to a higher standard and they should be aware of this. But like everyone else, they are exhausted, fatigued, emotionally drained, etc at this point in the game and probably don't realize what their actions are saying....not that it excuses them at all.