I challenge anyone to find ONE child psychologist or child-rearing expert of any kind who says it's a good idea to raise a child to be dependent -- to completely support her financially (not to mention lavishly) -- well into her 20s and perhaps even beyond, when she is perfectly capable of learning self-supporting skills, with no direction or even encouragement to become a self-sufficient person or independent in her own right. I don't call that being lucky. I call that a shame. And it has nothing to do with anyone who says they had a career and willingly gave it up to be a SAHM. That is not Emily's situation at all, so there is no comparison.