What I really think is that we all see what we want to see. This season, I really liked Jef and I saw real feelings between them. I did see the beginning of a love story. Others didn't. Happens every season. Ali's season, I couldn't see the story with Roberto for anything - I was totally in love with Chris. That was really the season I realized that I needed to step back and not look at who I liked but to really watch the signs and see who the lead liked. I didn't see love with either Chris or Sean. With Sean it was more about worship and thinking she SHOULD love him. I did see feelings with Arie, but no depth. They were all about passion, no substance. Whether that was true of their relationship or whether that is just what MF chose to show, that is what I saw. With Jef, I saw passion (not as in your face as Arie, but it was there), but I also saw friendship and respect. That is why I think she chose Jef. Whether it lasts, who knows. They have as much chance as any of the rest of us. One thing I will disagree with that others have posted before - I don't consider a relationship a failure because the couple doesn't get married. Yes, there have been only two marriages out of this show. But there have been a number of couples that have lasted for a year or longer. To me, that is a real relationship. After a year, there are real feelings involved.
You and I were watching the same show, KatesMom. I agree with how you said with Jef, there was passion, friendship and respect. She and Jef shared it all. With Arie, I just saw passion only.
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Notice that Neil Lane provided a very small selection of rings from which to choose. The show pays for the ring (I'm sure they get a product placement discount from Neil Lane Jewelers) and if the couple breaks up within one year, the ring is returned to the network or production company.
Shane Lamas wanted to sell the ring on ebay, but lawyers stepped in and she had to return the ring to the show.
Andrew Firestone did indeed buy his own ring so it would have more personal meaning to his fiancee.
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