I would never be on a reality show because I know how phony this is, and I could never be phony enough to pretend I'm on the show to find true and lasting love! I'm sure Emily is being directed just like every other lead has been, but she seems to be calling the shots more than any other in the show's history, too. I really have no idea if Jef is nice or smart because all I see is a scripted version of Jef.
I know guys who are very introspective. There are men out there who can write a better love letter than I ever could. I'm married to one. Truth is, we don't know these guys so we don't know that they only think about sports and sex. I think that's a myth anyway, for the most part. I'm also sure that since Emily has been on the flip side of this, she's aware of how the it all works.
I hate when the cops throw me in the back of the squad car ....like they didnít hear me call shotgun.
Boy (n) : Noise with dirt on it.
Even though Emily has been a contestant on this show, I bet she gets caught up in the bubble, too. They all do. Look at all the poor final choices the leads historically have made, except for 2 or 3 exceptions that miraculously worked out. Weeks and months later, they start to sort it all out. That's why the vast majority of these relationships don't last when everyday relationship reality sets in. I like what Steve Harvey says about men ... and of course there are exceptions, with some men being more introspective than most ... and how their needs and desires and what they want from a relationship are much simpler than they are for women. But ... this would be getting more philosophical, sociological, and OT!
If we don't know who the real Jef is then it's really not fair to make all these assumptions about him and call him a " loser" don't you think?
I've been thinking lately that the real them is probably more portrayed by what we don't see on camera anyway. Just like someone mentioned that somebody that knows Emily says she isn't like what we are seeing. I do believe they get to know each other after spending so much time cloistered with each other but it's more from their behavior while the cameras aren't rolling. I just think like in any relationship it takes time to get over that infatuation period where everyone is on their best behavior. Not to mention that someone else is in control of so much of what they can and cannot do during this trip.
I do hope they have some real moments and some real emotions. I don't believe these folks are that good of actors to fool us completely. But then again, what do I know?
I'm going back to iljaland and pretending that even if these lines were pre-written, not all of them were. I want to keep enjoying this show and suspect that someone is going to be in big time trouble for these recent gotcha lines.