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I was thinking of the immortal words of Socrates, who said, "... I drank what?"
I saw Bentley's ex-wife on Access Hollywood. They showed his daughter, too. She made a couple of snide remarks. She alluded to the idea that it's ridiculous that Ashley would be in love with him after spending "a total of 63 minutes" with him. When Billy Bush asked her what she would say to Ashley, she turned it all around and made it about her discussing how difficult this has been for her and essentially blaming Ashley. She also claimed Bentley was, "having fun with it." She said Bentley is really good with their daughter and she lets him take her whenever he wants b/c in her words, "I'm one of those cool ex-wives." She came across as narcissistic, IMO. I think she is trying to get air time to sell her "Cozy Couture" headbands. Billy Bush asked her if she would consider being the next "Bachelorette" to which she said she hadn't considered it but would definitely think about it if the producers approached her. As a shallow aside, she is way prettier in photos I've seen than she is on t.v. She has a very small forehead.
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I saw a short clip of the interview online. I was surprised that she has the same "look" as Emily, at least that Emily had on the show: Overly bleached long platinum blonde hair, heavy dark eye makeup, small petite build, young face, dimples. To the point that at first glance, it could have been Emily.
I could see that Bently definitely has a taste for a certain look in women & they both had it.
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He was rude, mean, unkind, etc etc but to say emotional abuser implies that Ashley played some part in it and she was actually totally unaware of what he was saying.
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Bentley, I think, hated the concept of shows like The Bachelorette and wanted to make fun of it. He wanted to make a 'statement' re his disdain by belittling and insulting the star but it backfired badly. Practically everything he did was deliberate. I think he found the 'journey' stupid and ridiculous so he did what he did. Also, the fact that he was supposedly attempting to reconcile with his wife spoke about his emotional/psychological state at the time he signed up. He reportedly had a crush on Emily who closely resembled his wife but would he pursue her if she was the bachelorette? Based on his background, he probably would for fun but I doubt he would really go for her. Emily is an unwed mom (I have nothing against unwed mothers ... I have friends who are) and Bentley is supposedly a staunch Mormon who does not subscribe to premarital sex. His comment on Ashley's 'straddling' him showed his disdain for women with values so unlike what he's been taught. His comments and actions in the show expressed his obvious disdain ... and not so flattering view of the show and he probably signed up so he could mock or ridicule the show and the concept. Bentley's very naive ... and still very bitter. He essentially committed 'suicide' by acting out this bad energy in him. Poor guy! I don't think he is a bad person; just very naive, bitter, sarcastic, and immature.
I watched his wife's interview with Billy Bush. She's, by the way, 4 years older than Bentley and seems 'sassy' like her 'ex'. Anyway, I hope Bentley takes the time to address his issues. He has so much to offer and he's way too young to remain bitter over a failed relationship. I wish he gave Ashley the chance as, I think, she would be good for him. She's very accomplished _ very well-educated just like him and she seems to really like him. As regards her falling for him in 9 days, hey, i married my ex 2 weeks after our first meeting and that marriage lasted for many years ... and we've remained friends. It's possible to fall in love that quickly. Love sometimes comes like a thief, it comes at the most unexpected moment ... often catches one off-guard. Just my 2 cents!
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Has anyone seen anything from Bentley defending his actions? Saying he was "taken out of context"? If the guy isn't even TRYING to offer his side of the story, then I don't believe there IS another side. The guy is a pig.
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This whole Bentley thing has made me like Ashley less....how can you "love" someone you barely know? the fact that Chris Harrison says she was "warned over and over" makes me wonder about her thinking process. Bentley's an ass pure and simple, he was not taken out of context, that's ridiculous, he also wasn't kidding when he was talking about Ashley.
Not sure I even want to watch anymore since my respect and liking for Ashley has now dimmed quite a bit.
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