Ladies, you will not believe this. I found out that a friend from home knows Kiptyn Locke, the finalist from The Bachelorette! Soooooo, I decided to track him down for an interview while I am still in San Diego!
We met at an outdoor French bistro in Encinitas. We talked about the show, of course, but the only thing I did not find out was whether Ed was cheating on Jillian. (Kiptyn claims not to knowóother than the rose ceremonies, he never saw Ed in Spain or elsewhere after his return because they had separate hotels and flights.) I might have dug deeper, but it was hard to focus, what with all the Kiptynness that was in front of me. Sorry, girls. I justÖI donít know, I kept trying to figure out which was nicer, his personality or his body. Iím still deciding. Both were exceedingly wow. Anyway, hereís how our conversation went. (This is VERY long. Youíre welcome.) Enjoy!
Erin: What is the origin of ďKiptynĒ?
Kiptyn: My parents just liked the name Kip, and the -tyn, my dad wanted to make it unique. Or weird.
Erin: What did you guys do all day in the Bachelorette house?
Kiptyn: When we werenít filming, weíd hang out, drink, and occasionally work out. We couldnít have radio, music, TV, internet, ipods, magazines, or books. At first I thought, Iím a grown-ass man, Iím 30, but now I get it, thatís how you get to know people. Itís forced interaction. Thatís how stuff comes out. Someone could fly under the radar for 2 months under a different situationóbut this way, itís hard to hide true colors.
Erin: So like, you had to rely on each other for entertainment? Like the pioneers?
Kiptyn: Sometimes we got creative. We would do a mock pre-fight meet. ĎLetís talk about this guy, against this guy,í ridiculous stuff. You get to know all the guys really quick, and then you get to know Jillian really well, and I could just see who I could see her with, or not. Like within a week, I could think of all my female friends and which one of the guys I would set them up with.
E: I thought guys didnít think about setting people up and stuff.
K: Youíre forced to think 24 hours a day about compatibility. I knew, but the question was, will she know?
E: Explain the term, ďMan code.Ē
K: Man code is a couple of things. One is, if youíre going to say something that will make a guy look bad, just donít say it. The other side, with reference to Dave, is to be real with guys. Basically, be man enough that if you donít want to do something, be honest. Donít put on a front to appease a guy or fit in. When Juan didnít take a shot, that got carried away on the show as this big man code violation. The issue couldíve been handled differently. Dave has a tattoo that says, ďDeath before Dishonor.Ē He is the ultimate guyís guy. To Dave, a violation of trust is the ultimate.
E: Which bachelor would make the worst roommate and why?
K: The worst? How about the best roommate?
E: Fine. Youíre very positive. I can tell I wonít get any dirt out of you.
K: Michael Stagliano. Heís funny. I couldnít see him with Jillian, but he was a good, respectable guy. Robbie is fun too.
E: During taping, did you think about the competition, the way some guys bothered with Wes or Juan?
K: I didnít. Itíll get in your head too much. You have to think about your connection with Jillian. If her connection was with someone else, then I knew I shouldnít be there. Itís not a competition; itís about chemistry and compatibility. Thatís where people were mistaken. A lot of great guys went home early, but they werenít losers, they just werenít the fit for that particular girl.
E: What was up with Tannerís foot fetish?
K: I wasnít even really aware of it during the show, and he was like my good buddy. He was funny. I knew he appreciated feet but not to that extent.
E: Jake said nice guys finish last. Do you believe this?
K: He was a nice guy. I donít know if I totally agree with that. I could use that as my excuse for why I didnít get picked. Sometimes nice guys finish last but you should never change yourself to get the girl.
E: Letís talk about Ed leaving. I sound like Chris Harrison.
K: I got along with him. I didnít want him to leave. It wasnít a competition for me. I wanted the best two people for Jill, and I didnít want to be that guy by default. I could sense she really had feelings for him, and my ending up with her because heís not there, is not a win. You want the two most right people. When he came back, I was glad, and if I went home because Ed came back, Iíd be glad about that, too.
E: Whatís going on with Ed and Jillian? What do you know?
K: They are still together. Today.
E: Who is going to be the next bachelor?
K: Mike Fleiss, the creator of the show, said last week that it will be either Reid, Jake, or myself. I swear on my life I donít know.
E: Take your sunglasses off and tell me that.
K [Takes glasses off]: They are talking to all of us and they donít know where it will go. I donít think it will be me.
E: It probably also depends on what kind of talent is applying to meet each Bachelor. Would you want to do it?
K: Iíd be open to the idea, but I have a few questions. I think itís a good opportunity because having been through the process, I believe it can work.
E: When will we know?
K: I will know within the next couple weeks. Chris said it will be announced within a month.
E: What if they edit you like crazy and you come out looking like a jerk?
K: They canít create [a jerk], you have to give them something to work with.
E: What surprised you about Jillian?
K: A lot of things. Just her high energy, lust for life, a go-for-it mentality. She could adapt to different situations and she was low-maintenance. Sheís a very strong woman. People questioned her decisions, but they donít know the background. Itís about what she wants, not what America wants. She didnít make any decisions that I didnít guess myself. I usually knew who was going home. Even the Wes stuff, I got why she was into him.
E: Thoughts on Wes?
K: Wes was a friend of mine on the show and I think heís a better guy than was shown. I wouldnít hook him up with my own sister, but heís a good guy. Heís sarcastic, and that was miscommunicated on the show. Not intentionally, but if you donít see the background, you donít know.
E: What scenes were embarrassing for you to watch?
K: The flamenco dancing and the tightrope were humbling. They didnít show [most of the tight rope]. Jill was laughing so hard, and the more she laughed, the less I could do it. The flamenco pants revealed everything. I was waiting for that episode. I was thinking, ĎThe whole worldís going to see my junk.í
E: Lucky for you, the pants were black. We couldnít see anything. After doing this show, are you burned out on dating, or are you more serious about finding someone?
K: Iím not burned out on dating. Iím excited. I learned a lot from the show. I know that sounds clich√©d, but for the first time in my life, I really sat and reflected on a daily basis how I felt. You think about big picture things, and toward the end I stepped out and went for it. Iíve never really done that before, but thereís something liberating about that. You feel better about having tried, and you learn. I have a better idea of who I would be compatible with. Jill and I didnít work out, but maybe itís the type of person I realize I want to have.
E: What is one quality or trait you look for in a woman?
K: I tend to like active women and quirky women who go with the flow.
E: Why do men always want a spontaneous woman?
K: Men overuse or misuse that word. It probably really means someone who is down to do anything at any time. If someone says, ďLetís go to Vegas,Ē letís do it. For us small bird-brained men, that means spontaneous.
E: What is the biggest mistake women make on a first date?
K: Not being themselves, putting on a front. I never want to like someone because of something theyíre not. Iíd rather get the real person, good or bad.
E: Well, what about TV? Are people being real on TV?
K: Well, for me I was just dating Jillian, and I donít think she acts.
E: What did you do last night?
K: I whored myself out for the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. I was a live auction item. I gave away a date. We ended up giving it to the top 2 bidders. It was flattering but amazing, too, and CFF is a great organization.
E: How much were you worth?
E: No way! I better appreciate this lunch. What did the girls look like?
K: One bidder bought it for her daughter who wasnít there. And another girl bid for her friend who was on the phone and couldnít be there.
E: Okay, for the diehards, letís do some Kiptyn Trivia. Favorite beer?
K: Karl Strauss Amber Lager.
E: Angelina Jolie or Jennifer Aniston?
K: Iím going to go with Jennifer Aniston.
E: Favorite sport (to play)?
E: Longboard or shortboard?
K: Shortboard usually. Long when there are small wavesóonly when I have to.
E: Boxers or briefs?
E: Favorite TV show?
K: I just read Lone Survivor, by Marcus Luttrell.
E: How many hair products do you own?
K: One. I either use it or I donít. Itís some CREW thing.
E: Do you go to chick flicks?
K: If Iím with a chick.
E: What about with your sister?
K: I donít think my sister would watch one. But Iím secure in my manhood. If itís what the woman wants, Iíll do it for her.
E: What made you go on TV?
K: About 4 or 5 months after Iíd been in my last relationship, a friend called. He had given my name to a recruiter for The Bachelorette. I said, ďThanks, but no thanks.Ē He said, ďWell, at least talk to the guy.Ē The guy said to throw my name in the hat, keep the door open, think about it, so I did. Then 5 months later, Iíd had a lot of time to think about it, and I said, ďWhy not?Ē I thought there was a small chance Iíd end up falling for the girl, but I would be true to myself, and I didnít have anything to lose.
Okay! So there you have it! I must say, over the course of our interview, it was fun watching Kiptyn get recognized. When he got up to get our food, hordes of women blitzed him and asked him for photos. He was very gracious. And at lunch, he shared his nicoise salad with me and even gave me some avocado to put in my turkey sandwich. What a guy!
What do you think? Will Kip be the next Bachelor? And don't you think we girls should have a woman code? I think we should stick together a bit more. Anyway, please leave a nice comment for Kip, and feel free to ask him a question. We might still be able to get some answers from him.