I have been sitting here thinking about how to sum up this season and how I feel about it and read your post. I could not have said it any better but I am gong to try to add some additional thoughts. I think that along with all that was phoney and contrived this year, we also got a look at the most real bachelorette and most real bachelors that we have ever seen. We got to see Jillian, warts and all. She is more of the every day girl than any other bachelorette. Not looking for fame and fortune but just looking for someone that she can love. Someone who will love her back. I really liked all 3 of the final guys but admit I was mostly on the Reid train all the way.Originally Posted by smilingmomof3;3622837;
Kip: I think mostly has a pretty full life and is content with where he presently is in life. He has not reached the point where he is actively seeking to share it with someone. I think when he met Jillian he saw her as someone who would fit nicely into the life he would like in the future but I really think his level of love was more in that she was a woman he could live with but not necessarily a woman he can't live without.
Reid: Reid is quirky, sweet and slightly OCD. I see in him a kind of loneliness where he really wants someone to share his life with. He is slow and hesitant but the type of person who when they finally commit, it is total and from the heart. Some have said that he was arrogant in thinking that if he went back for Jill that she would "fall into his lap" I don't think it was arrogance. I think that with all the so called prodding and poking at him that she did to get the words from him, that he really believed that she loved him and love for him is total committment so he could not vizualize that if she loved him that there would be any question that she would accept his proposal. He hesitated for so long to say the words because he wasn't looking for a woman that he could live with he was looking for the one that he couldn't live without and the minute he left Hawaii he realized that it was Jillian. He had to come back to propose because the OCD part of him would have driven him crazy with the thoughts of "What if?"
Ed: I think Ed originally came on the show as a lark, as a fun experiment. He never expected to fall in love with Jillian and when he did, he panicked. He didn't know what to do with a girl that he was falling hard for and who he was in competition with so many other guys for. He ran away and probabely tried to forget her by returning to his old life and girlfriends but in the end couldn't forget her. I think he came back because he had to know if what he was feeling was really love. I think Ed has as many insecurities as Jillian when it comes to women. I think this because a man who is secure in who he is, does not have to be a womanizer. He does not need the validation.
Jillian and Ed: Will they last? Who knows, like any other couple in love, they have a chance. Life is about what we do with our chances. What matters is not what has happened with them up to this point, it is what they do with it from here on. Do they work at it and build a life together or do they just go along for the adrenaline of the moment. It is up to them. I wish them well.