Beautifully expressed! I am in tears...Originally Posted by lanikai;3624554;I love your post!! I was a Reid fan (he didn't have me at "hello though") I had a negative reaction to him cause he reminded me of my first husband in physical looks. Same hair color, style, crinkly smiling eyes, slightly big nose, and smile.(Who looked like Reid, but acted more like Ed, or my impression of Ed)
So I remember when he was brought in in the 2nd batch (isn't interesting, the two men that really intrigued Jillian were in the 2nd batch. ) I remember thinking "Jillian DON'T pick the Reid guy...I don't like him" Make him go away (totally personal biase) But my ex looked like Reid, but was more of a party boy like Ed.
Well that was the last time I ever thought that. I loved Jesse (I loved him and Jillian's date on the Glacier) but my feelings for Reid were developing. I saw it through Jillian's eyes, how she kind of just always had that special sparkle and connection for him. It was like she was always hoping for time alone with him, so she could get to know him. Their flirty witty banter was something out of a old time movie. I loved how she was with him, and every time she was with Reid I thought she was at her most beautiful.
I think I saw her through his eyes...with Kip it was like the handsome guy going out with the so so looking girl he probably wouldn't date in "real life." (I think Jillian thought that too) With Ed, its almost like I thought he's kind of handsome but average looking at the same time. And so is Jillian, she is beautiful and attractive in her own way, but kind of average looking. They level each other out.
When Reid looked at Jillian, it was like he was so intently focused on her, she just lit up, like a woman that knows she is being adored. I think for her, bottom line she wanted to hear the words that validated what she felt from him, (and didn't he say as much during the AFTR ceremony and his proposal) Now he knows he needed to say it for it to be validated. I think that is why she kept fishing for his feelings, its like they both felt it, and knew it on one level but she need to hear what she thought validated by his words. Ed gave her the words...
But Jillian and Reid, their connection was very deep, very much like soul mates. A good balance of physical attraction, mental attraction. I get that Jillian is attracted to Ed, but they just didn't even seem to "fit" together they way Reid and Jillian do, they are so closely connected, that they just turn towards each other, embrace, put their heads close together no matter what circumstance they are in. Even at the ATRC he had his arm out on the couch to keep some appropriate distance, but he was turned totally towards her, an
she in turn towards him. Even at the ATRC ceremony, I was like "this is intense..she is walking away from her soul mate..." and on some level she knows that. I think Jillian knows it too, I mean she almost gets shaky around him. She was disorientated and confused when he comes back at the final rose ceremony, but someone that says to CH..."How is a person supposed to make a decision in a situation like this?" Doesn't sound like someone trying to figure out how to let someone down. It sounds like someone that is trying to figure out who to marry, when the "other" man she loves comes back.
Some comparisons to the movie the "Notebook" have been made, but I can see why. People say Reid was arrogant, when he came back. But that is how he sees it, their connection was so undeniable...I can totally agree with his viewpoint. If he is angry or a bit bitter (which I think is honest emotion) he is going to come off politically incorrect. He wasn't worried about a TV show, he made the leap, faced his fear and told the woman that he loved he wanted to marry her and he was hurt. He was hurt watching the proposal scene again with tears in his eyes. I'm glad he showed us his honest reaction and feelings, and not just give us a politically correct version.
I love Kip, (not for Jillian though) He is a classy guy, who seemed like he might have fallen in love towards the end. He is a dutiful moral person (admirable qualities) but he might have fallen in love so late in the process, he wasn't in too deep, and his recovery I'm sure is well on its way. I saw their sensual connection, and love for outdoor activities, and a great friend connection as far as Kip being solid, and caring. I think he genuinely cares about her as a friend, and wants her to be happy. But I just don't think he was invested as Reid was.
I think Jillian's regret maybe that she didn't take Reid to F2. He didn't meet her parents...I mean Jillian said family was important, and now she is marrying a man that she didn't get a hometown date in his town (to really see how he lives) She met his parents in a very surreal way in Hawaii. I personally didn't even like Ed's parents that much. I thought they were kind of odd, esp. the Dad) I thought Reid's family was great, and the kind of family you'd go, okay great Mom in law, great Dad in law, great nieces and nephews...neat to be a part of....neat to see how this man loves kids etc...
But these are my impressions. What Jillian wanted "maybe" she got. I agree at the end of this season with something Reid said as far as he'd fear that she'd go with the guy that told her what she wanted to hear (paraphrasing) And I think that's Ed. He might have left and came back (which might have seemed romantic to her) but then he started being the guy, that validated her with his "feelings" and with a proposal. Once he got back in, he did everything on her time line, as she anticipated. Reid lost her and realized what he had lost.
I think its like the Notebook, as far as the soul mate connection and Reid's tunnel vision, but unlike the book and the movie, she ends up with the other guy. She might be happy, and they may last...but she will never know what she had with Reid. In my opinion....Someone said in another thread that if this was a movie, Reid coming back, he would have got the girl. Agreed.
So it's been the most ROMANTIC season in Bachelorette history for me...just with this most bittersweet ending. I feel like this is the first season I've watched with a real romance. It just happened between the two people that didn't end up together.
If Jake is the Bachelor and his robotic Tom Cruise laugh, I get a hiatus from this nerve wracking show. If it's Reid, I'm back in, with all my chips....At least there is a 65 percent chance. LOL
Thanks to all the posters and to all the sleuthers that make this board so great. Also a great board for Reid love....