I do not understand the bolded part. At what point after Ed returned did he convince Lindsey to take him back? On June 4th? If so, what happened subsequently after "she took him back"? Just trying to understand the timeline....Originally Posted by cheekychook;3651362;They thought they were in a committed relationship with Ed because he told them it was.
They thought he loved them because he told them he did.
They didn't want him to go on The Bachelorette, but he did, in spite of their protests, and he said it was no big deal and he'd be back in a few weeks. And low and behold, after a few weeks of torture wondering when he was coming home he came home---just like he said he would---and he spent time with them---just like he promised---and he told them he wasn't into Jillian---to reaffirm that they were just being foolish for having worried.
The girls did not know he was dating others---he made sure to keep that secret--I don't know how, but he did, and he's not exactly inventing the wheel here, it's been done by countless people before Ed.
Ed traveled a lot for business. They never knew he was off with other women, then though he was away on business. Often he was. Often he was not. Again, Ed made them feel foolish if they expressed worry in regard to his lines.
When they finally found out he was in Spain they did both tell him to get lost. HE is the one who pursued both of them to win them back. He didn't try hard enough with Bethany, so he didn't get her back---he assumed she'd come running but she didn't. He was left disappointed. With Lindsey they had more history so he had more to draw on---he worked very hard at convincing her to take him back. Her only mistake is believing him. Ed had choices to make all along the way here. He could have opted to not have 2 girlfriends at the same time, period. He could have opted to pass on the Bachelorette when his girlfriends became upset about it. He could have dumped them when he decided to go on the show, instead he strung them along telling them it was no big deal. He could have stayed on the show and not returned home mid-season. If he HAD to return home he could have told both girls "it's over" instead of sleeping with both of them, convincing them the show had been no big deal, and lying to them when he left again. When he "caught" in Spain by them he could have dumped them both permanently. Instead he proposed to Jillian and then STILL went after these other women.
One thing that is not evident from the US Weekly article, but that I know for a fact, is that Bethany and Lindsey are both very, very private people. They were horrified, mortified, and stupefied by what Ed did. They didn't want their names out there---their names came out because people sleuthed them out. They didn't want to be humiliated in front of their friends, family and coworkers, but they were by Ed's actions. By the time these women decided to go public with their story they had no other choice---the story was out there and was spiraling and the only way to get the CORRECT, TRUTHFUL version out there was to speak up for themselves.
I agree, Jillian is a victim. She's a victim of Ed's behavior just like many, many other women. Ed's disregard for other people is, IMO, staggering.