Jason - Bachelorette 4

[AJane]

Originally Posted by LuvThisStuf!

Seems like a nice guy. I really liked him in the beginning, when he was with his son. But with DeAnna....Hmmmmm....I dunno. Something a bit clingy and needy in the way he looked after her all the time. I might be wrong. I thought the first show was hysterical!

Funny, I liked him quite a bit when watching him with his son but didn't like him at all during the show. (I was having a hard time telling him and the oyster farmer apart.)

To Jason's credit, though, I think he might have regretted not mentioning his son right off the bat. I initially was shocked he didn't - I'm a mom and it would be the first thing I'd say if someone said, "Tell me about yourself" - but I think perhaps he was a bit overwhelmed by the whole situation. He really did seem like a very devoted father. I would be surprised if he didn't tell Deanna at the next opportunity.

LG., the last paragraph of your post gave me a chuckle - when my husband and I were watching on Monday, he said someone Deanna's age wouldn't be interested in dating a man with a child. I said that if she's still single in 10 more years, she won't be interested in dating a man who doesn't have one.

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[girlsmom]

Originally Posted by weary

Is he the one with the little son?

Yes, I just can't get over a custodial single dad leaving his three year old for so long, I just can't. I don't buy that he couldn't find a mother for his son without doing this. I think it shows an agenda which we don't know. I know this is a VERY unpopular opinion, but how would people feel if he were a woman who left her son alone for 5 or so weeks to appear on a reality show? Sorry, I just don't get it. If he feel for a Fleiss edited character and had to meet her and compete with 24 other guys, sorry, that doesn't work for me either. That poor little boy without his dad for 5 weeks and he's not with his mom either? SO SAD. I'm a mom and I just can't get there. Having said that if Deanna doesn't mind and chooses him good luck to everyone.

[Estella]

I just looked up the origin and meaning of the name "Jason". Here's what I found:

From the Greek name Ιασων (Iason), which was derived from Greek ιασθαι (iasthai) "to heal".

Doesn't sound too bad...

[sirlurksalot]

Girlsmom, I am glad you said that. I totally agree. That has been my thought from the outset. Whether people here realize it or not, the idea that this show is a good way to find a mate is absurd. Even if you make it all the way, at the end, you and the other person have had virtually NO time truly ALONE together. Yes, you have had lots of time when none of the other suitors are around, but there is still the matter of all the handlers, producers, camera people, etc. around pretty much constantly. And even if the do give you a few hours or even a few DAYS to be truly alone together, that just generally is not going to be anywhere near enough time to really get to know each other. So the idea that this is a good strategy for finding your mate and completing your family just doesn't wash with me.

I have also seen lots of comments from posters in Jason threads romanticizing the sacrifice he made for a "chance" at finding love. That just doesn't wash with me either. This CAN'T be the only way he could find love and complete his family. There are MANY other ways to meet people, and most of them do NOT involve leaving your young child for an extended period of time. There was a sacrifice here alright, but it seems to me it was much less Jason's sacrifice and much more his son's. So this just doesn't seem romantic to me at all. Frankly, it seems pretty selfish.

I don't mean to trash Jason. He may well be a great guy and a loving and devoted father, and for his son's sake, I hope so. But as a father of a young son myself (fortunately happily married to my son's mom), I know I would never willingly CHOOSE to leave my son for an extended period of time, particularly not for something like being a contestant (and that is really what this show is--a contest) on a reality TV show.

So as nice as this guy seems, I just can't get past the fact that he left his son for up to 6 weeks for this.

[FableChild]

Originally Posted by LuvThisStuf!

Seems like a nice guy. I really liked him in the beginning, when he was with his son. But with DeAnna....Hmmmmm....I dunno. Something a bit clingy and needy in the way he looked after her all the time. I might be wrong. I thought the first show was hysterical!

That's pretty much what I felt too. I liked him when they first showed him, but then I started getting a negative impression later in his initial interview, when it dawned on me that he was going to be leaving his son behind for an extended period to do this show.

I found his neediness a bit off putting and creepy also.

[toni]

Jason seems like a nice guy and he's nice too look at.

[AJane]

Originally Posted by girlsmom

I know this is a VERY unpopular opinion, but how would people feel if he were a woman who left her son alone for 5 or so weeks to appear on a reality show?

It happens all the time. Just off the top of my head - Survivor, Biggest Loser, ANTM - all have featured moms with young children.

Personally, I would have a very, very hard time doing it myself. My youngest gets upset when I work an evening shift, and that's only being gone a few hours.

[momsunshine]

I would have a hard time leaving my kids for 6 weeks to go on a show like the bachelor but i could see why people do it for survivor. Who wouldn't go for a 1 in 20 (or how ever many start) chance at a million dollars. That is far different then getting a ring and a pseudo romance.

[WickedElphie]

Originally Posted by sirlurksalot

Girlsmom, I am glad you said that. I totally agree. That has been my thought from the outset. Whether people here realize it or not, the idea that this show is a good way to find a mate is absurd. Even if you make it all the way, at the end, you and the other person have had virtually NO time truly ALONE together. Yes, you have had lots of time when none of the other suitors are around, but there is still the matter of all the handlers, producers, camera people, etc. around pretty much constantly. And even if the do give you a few hours or even a few DAYS to be truly alone together, that just generally is not going to be anywhere near enough time to really get to know each other. So the idea that this is a good strategy for finding your mate and completing your family just doesn't wash with me.

I have also seen lots of comments from posters in Jason threads romanticizing the sacrifice he made for a "chance" at finding love. That just doesn't wash with me either. This CAN'T be the only way he could find love and complete his family. There are MANY other ways to meet people, and most of them do NOT involve leaving your young child for an extended period of time. There was a sacrifice here alright, but it seems to me it was much less Jason's sacrifice and much more his son's. So this just doesn't seem romantic to me at all. Frankly, it seems pretty selfish.

I don't mean to trash Jason. He may well be a great guy and a loving and devoted father, and for his son's sake, I hope so. But as a father of a young son myself (fortunately happily married to my son's mom), I know I would never willingly CHOOSE to leave my son for an extended period of time, particularly not for something like being a contestant (and that is really what this show is--a contest) on a reality TV show.

So as nice as this guy seems, I just can't get past the fact that he left his son for up to 6 weeks for this.

Great post. I was just saying something very similar to a friend of mine. I just can't get on the Jason love train because I'm bothered by the fact that he left his son to do this show.

I'm also bothered by the amount of camera time his son has gotten. He's 3-years-old, and IMO, has already been through too much upheaval in his life. I just can't see how daddy dragging home some strange lady and a bunch of cameras could at all be conducive to a healthy environment for the little guy.

I'm not saying Jason is a bad guy, or a bad father. Not at all. Like some others have mentioned, as a parent myself, I just have a hard time imagining making the same choice Jason has made. Especially if my child had already been through so much in his young life.

[K9Mom]

I think Jason is adorable as is his son. I hope he finds a loving woman to complete his family whether that is DeAnna or someone else. He seems like a real catch and quite genuine in his desires.