Bachelorette 4 Media thread

[Jennifer24]

Originally Posted by dodie430

You're probably right. I was quick to grapple onto a word that explained his "high turnover".

But a "high turnover" definitely indicates something. I don't believe for a second that he'd have that much trouble finding a steady, or something that lasts longer than 4 weeks - if there wasn't something off. What that is is anyone's guess [unless I believe his edit - the reasons then are clearly evident].

Wow. High Turnover. Still find it hard to believe that anyone would admit that publicly.

I'm kind of new here, but thought I'd jump in since I lived in NYC for 7 years. I'm away now in graduate school, but may move back when I graduate.

I think Graham is just talking about the nature of the dating scene in NYC when he's talking about turnover. NYC is a crazy place to date because there is a lot of "turnover", for lack of a better word. You are constantly meeting people who are just in town for a vacation, business, etc.. Not to mention that it's can be incredibly hard to meet nice and genuine people and make real connections. The young professional dating scene is fun for a while, but it's hard to make real connections with good people (if that makes any sense). It also seems that Graham has moved around quite a bit in his adult life, so that contributes to his lack of long term relationships as well.

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[lanikai]

Maybe someone has already posted this but has anyone scanned or typed out the transcript for The Bachelorette's Final Three, from this week's US Weekly (Reese W. on the cover)?

Has a short description of each bachelor and what she thinks of them, kind of "pros and cons..." With Jesse she says "I worried he wasn't ready for me" which sounds like a past tense I've already made up my mind (IMO) Jeremy of course "the perfection" problem. hee hee.

Jason she says he is "loving, caring and generous. He goes out of his way to make sure I'm happy." Caveat? With his son Ty, 3, "I'd have to be sure I was ready for this immediate family."

Let me know if someone has already posted it, or if you want me to type it out. It isn't much longer then what I posted here.

Okay already got a request to type out the article...(very short)

Has a picture of Deanna is like teal blue halter dress and the title is

The Bachelorette's Final Three
Deanna Pappas gives Us the scoop

next to her picture there is a quote:

"I have no regrets," Pappas tells US of her experience. The finale airs on ABC July 7 at 8 p.m.

Jesse Csincsak, 26

Georgia real estate Pappas, 26 loves pro snowboarder's Csincsak's adventurous side ("He always trying new things!!) but wonders if the Colorado resident was too young to commit. "I worried he wasn't ready for me."

Jeremy Anderson, 30

"We related on such a different level," she says of connecting with the Texas attorney over loss (her mom passed away; he lost both parents). Of concern: "He's the perfect man, and I've never had perfection in my life. It scares me."

Jason Mesnick, 31

Pappas dubs the Seattle-area business man "loving, caring and generous. He goes out of his way to make sure I'm happy." Caveat? With his son Ty, 3, "I'd have to be sure I was ready for this immediate family."

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That's it. Maybe someone can scan it. I don't have a scanner. By each guy's name there is a picture but just their bio pictures that are on the ABC site.

[dodie430]

Originally Posted by Jennifer24

I'm kind of new here, but thought I'd jump in since I lived in NYC for 7 years. I'm away now in graduate school, but may move back when I graduate.

I think Graham is just talking about the nature of the dating scene in NYC when he's talking about turnover. NYC is a crazy place to date because there is a lot of "turnover", for lack of a better word. You are constantly meeting people who are just in town for a vacation, business, etc.. Not to mention that it's can be incredibly hard to meet nice and genuine people and make real connections. The young professional dating scene is fun for a while, but it's hard to make real connections with good people (if that makes any sense). It also seems that Graham has moved around quite a bit in his adult life, so that contributes to his lack of long term relationships as well.

I completely respect and appreciate your opinion, especially having lived in NYC. I personally believe however, that the whole dating scene in NYC has taken on a "Sex & The City" pop-culture mentality. I find it hard to believe that dating in NYC is any more difficult than it is in other major cities, or small towns for that matter. Meeting genuinely nice people to date is a challenge anywhere, not just NYC, and you'll hear similar complaints from single people everywhere.

That being said, I still can't believe he admitted that he has a "high" turnover rate. Even if his reasons are as inculpable as some of those you've stated above, the statement infers a negative to me [hence my initial, but probably inaccurate assumption that saw me use the word "player"]. So yeah, he could just be having a hard time finding someone suitable to date, he could be a player, or he could be exactly as closed-off as depicted.

Who knows? I still wouldn't have admitted it...lol

Thanks for your reply and a great big WELCOME Jennifer!!!!

[NoLongerALurker]

Originally Posted by dodie430

I completely respect and appreciate your opinion, especially having lived in NYC. I personally believe however, that the whole dating scene in NYC has taken on a "Sex & The City" pop-culture mentality. I find it hard to believe that dating in NYC is any more difficult than it is in other major cities, or small towns for that matter. Meeting genuinely nice people to date is a challenge anywhere, not just NYC, and you'll hear similar complaints from single people everywhere.

That being said, I still can't believe he admitted that he has a "high" turnover rate. Even if his reasons are as inculpable as some of those you've stated above, the statement infers a negative to me [hence my initial, but probably inaccurate assumption that saw me use the word "player"]. So yeah, he could just be having a hard time finding someone suitable to date, he could be a player, or he could be exactly as closed-off as depicted.

Who knows? I still wouldn't have admitted it...lol

Thanks for your reply and a great big WELCOME Jennifer!!!!

I second what Jennifer originally said. I lived in NYC for 5 years before moving to LA last year for school.

Sex and the City is more of art inspired by life, than life by art.

New York is a fascinating, fast paced place. It is unlike any other city in America because it also has in a 13 mile by 2 mile island that is Manhattan, over 8 million people. All stacked up on one another-- and MOST of them are Yuppies! Young, single adults.

Unlike most other places, in New York being 30s and single is normal and accepted. There are constantly more people to meet every day.

So, when Graham says there is "high turnover," yes there IS high turnover in the city because its a city of singles, many of whom are more concerned about their career. Sure, there are families in the city, but given the environment and cost most people move away or to the 'burbs when they get married. So the predominantly single city is bustling with dating singles all the time.

A long term relationship is harder because of the hard work many people put in and constant temptation of new relationships.

[pajamasam]

Graham's teleconference call transcript is posted at ABC: Daily News Releases Here's a chunk of the middle of the interview that I found pretty informative.

Graham Bunn: You know, I feel, personally, that Jason offers her the best well-rounded choice and someone that she can fully fulfill, you know, all her needs and wants in life. But that doesn't mean that that's how she feels. That's just my opinion.

Derek Santos: There have been some rumors floating around that you had actually tried to quit the show and then was convinced to stick around for that ceremony. Is there any truth to that at all?

Graham Bunn: You know, I have not heard those rumors. And, no, you know, no there's no truth at all to that.

Derek Santos: So even though you weren't surprised you, you know, you still planned to stick around and see how that ceremony had played out?

Graham Bunn: Yes, I, you know, I was there and DeAnna made her decision. And I was supportive, as much as you can be. It was, you know, a difficult thing to go through for her and I both but, you know, everything happens for the best. And I am totally in support of her in whatever she chooses to do at the end of the next two weeks.

Derek Santos: What would you have done if she had given you one of those three roses? Would you have accepted it?

Graham Bunn: I'm honestly not sure what I would have done. And she actually asked me that afterwards. And I wasn't sure. Going into the ceremony I didn't know what would have been the best thing for her, and myself included, because I was not getting to where she needed me to get.

But, you know, fortunately for us both, it was kind of a mutual thing. And she took the initiative and, you know, seeing her - I did have so much fun with her. And being around her was cool.

And it's just - marriage is very important and marriage is a very serious thing. And I think that she took a lot of onus in that concept. So, you know...

Derek Santos: When did you write that letter and what was its goal? Was it really like a good-bye letter you had planned on giving her, expecting to leave, or was it something you were writing with a goal of, you know, opening up and trying to tell you how you feel about it - felt about her?

Graham Bunn: Well, the letter was a lot of all of the above. It was a way to open up. It was a good-bye. And, you know, it was something that I had written after the hometown date. And just some things that I had realized about her and myself and what she and I shared.

And it was just kind of a - what I wanted to leave her as a lasting impression of me as a person more so than me as someone that she can never get to open up or get out of me what she needed. And it was just something that I felt like she needed to hear or needed to read.

And I knew that if that was the time for me to go, that I might not be able to put into words everything I wanted to say in the brief amount of time that I was given.

So, you know, it was just a way to make sure that she had something from me to let her know how I was feeling about the process and about her, and what I wanted for her in life, and that I was grateful for the time that she and I had spent together.

Derek Santos: So you had (unintelligible) the letter was really meant for her only?

Cathy Rehl: I think that - let's leave the rest - excuse me, let's leave anything else about the letter...

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Originally Posted by Spoil Me

I think the key sentence is: I knew that it hurt at the moment, but that everything was going to be for the best. She and I both knew it.

I take that to mean that both he and DeAnna knew that while it hurt at that moment, both of them knew that it was the right thing to do. In another interview I read (I think from the ABC medianet conference call) he said that he wasn't sure he would have accepted a rose even if DeAnna had offered. He also said that he told her that when they were on the bench outside. They weren’t made to be forever. They wanted & needed different things. Graham isn’t the right man for DeAnna & DeAnna isn’t the right woman for Graham. Recognising that doesn’t mean that is doesn’t hurt.

People come into our lives for a reason - how many times have we heard DeAnna say that. Graham was the guy DeAnna always went for and yet here she is back with the same type of guy that she knows isn't right for her. She needed to be in this setting, (with all four of these men to learn what she needed to about herself), especially, at this time with Graham to show her that she has grown and changed and as much as that hurt & as scary as that is, she had to let go of the familiar in order to really take a risk and truly find what she is looking for - a relationship that works for all the right reasons

Graham, being here with DeAnna has learnt that he needs to open up and also that he is ready to do that, but he has to be with the right woman. And DeAnna has to be with the right man.



That?!?! right there is what makes the relationship developing between Jason & DeAnna different from all the others. They have spent time talking about day-to-day details. They have spent time talking about the life changing experiences they have gone through, the experiences that brought them to this point, that have helped define them. Again, how many times have we heard DeAnna say "everything happens for a reason" - they need to see if they believe they have same reason.

Jasons’ world was changed by the birth of his son. DeAnnas’ world was changed by the death of her mother.

Who would have thought? Certainly not DeAnna - I think her body language spoke before her heart did - but once she had both in sync

I don’t know, but I find something truly beautiful in that …

I agree with everyone else this is a fantastic post great job and as Deanna has said in all her interviews that everything happens for a reason and she uses that phrase again during Jasons HTD at the duck pond with Jason and Ty altho it is a vo.

[April49]

Originally Posted by lanikai

Deanna Pappas gives Us the scoop[/i][/b]

next to her picture there is a quote:

"I have no regrets," Pappas tells US of her experience. The finale airs on ABC July 7 at 8 p.m.

What about this comment? Is it just me, or does that sound like a comment made by someone who didn't find what she really wanted? If she found her "husband," wouldn't she say something a little more enthusiastic (without giving away any details) than just that she has "no regrets" about the experience??

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