Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna

[nennie]

Originally Posted by MsFroggy

I have a hard time believing that she was completely surprised on Ellen. What? Nobody from ABC approached her to test the waters and see whether she wouldn't mind being their "star"? They probably did and they probably already had at the very least a tentative agreement with her because I don't see ABC taking a risk on Deanna saying "thanks, but no thanks" on national television. Besides, she was booked on Ellen.

As for all her sweetness and graciousness on MySpace, that is also called campaigning.

I agree with you about knowing something about it otherwise she could say not going to happen.

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[soccermama]

Originally Posted by KareyR2

Hey Soccermama
Yes..it is wonderful news. I am so excited for DeAnna. It was clearly obvious by both interviews that Ellen really adores DeAnna. Anyway regarding Brad...I haven't watched it again yet, but from memory, Ellen mentioned to DeAnna that last time, she stated to Ellen that she would have taken him back, if he said and did the right things, and Ellen had told her not to, and she asked DeAnna if she still felt that way, or some such thing...and DeAnna said she was totally over him, and basically pretty much had been since the ATnoFRC. Ellen asked if she had spoken to him, and DeAnna said they talked after he was on her show, and I wondered if she meant when Brad the lying conman called DeAnna seeking info after DeAnna's appearance...and then she stated more than once, that she had not talked to him since, but that he was in a good place, or some such thing. Don''t quote me verbatim on this. Ellen commented about having him on the show, to hear his side of the story and he was a good guy or some such warped thing....Ellen seemed oblivious to the fact the man lied to her face, and to her audience, and there was no mention by either of them that Brad was back with his ex....in fact I don't think anything more was said about him. Ellen then mentioned about saying DeAnna should be the next Bachelorette on her previous appearance, and showed the clip to prove it, and then said she had some news...that the president of ABC had seen that episode, and that he had arranged for Ellen to have DeAnna come again, to announce that she was going to be the next Bachelorette. DeAnna was stunned, and shocked and kept saying "OMG! OMG!"...she stated she was so excited...and that is how the question came to be out, what she was looking for. I think DeAnna was still in shock...and was grasping a bit for what to say. I took no offense to her comments about him paying for dinner...I thought it meant she wanted someone who cared about her enough that he would want to....but her, having been already sucked out in by Brad's whole poor WOE is me southern gentlemen routine, I fear for DeAnna going through that again. Anyway hopefully this time the guy will be legit, and there for the right reasons, and can look anyone in the eye and tell them, and DeAnna the truth!!!! I just am so beyond excited with this news....and can't wait to see DeAnna have a chance at love and happiness. I think she is feisty, lovely, gracious, engaging, funny....and interesting. I think she will make a great Bachelorette....and it seems others who claimed to love Brad were able to get over him even much quicker than DeAnna did....thank God for that. Thanks
Karey

Karey ~~ Thanks for giving me a recap of the show!! I still have to wait 4 hours to watch the show!

I can't wait to see DeAnna's reaction. I will probably cry right along w/her!!

Your feelings on DeAnna are the same as mine -- I think she is just wonderful and will be an awesome bachelorette!!

[simplechef]

I think we should sincerely give Deanna a chance. All of us looked so forward to Jen's season because she was so likeable in Andrew's season and she turned out SOOOOO aweful. Boring and the capital B is intentional. At least with Deanna, we won't have boring. I agree that she came across as harsh and bossy on the show, but I think that may work in her favor on Bachette because it means she won't get railroaded into to doing things like Meredith did (we all remember Mer telling Matt she'd accept his proposal). I say give her a chance, she may surprise you.

[RomanticHaze]

Originally Posted by nennie

I agree with you about knowing something about it otherwise she could say not going to happen.

Well, I was not crazy about her on the show and have warmed up to her since. And am happy that she will be the Bachelorette.

I don't think they gave her advance warning. Unless it was to say that she was among the ones being considered. So it was still a surprise. They knew from her answers on myspace that she definitely would accept being the Bachelorette, so there was no fear in her saying no and they got an honest surprise reaction out of her.

[soccermama]

Originally Posted by Estella

Okay, now there's a lot of people who are really happy about DeAnna being the Bachelorette, and there's also a lot of people who would have prefered any former bachelorette to her... well, all I can say is if I hated a girl from a former season so much, I simply wouldn't watch (for example Jade...). Or I would try to find out if I could warm up to her... DeAnna has proven to be an absolutely lovely girl on her myspace page. She has taken so much time to answer every single message we've sent to her and she answered tons of questions for us (and she was very open with her answers!). She seems to be very down-to-earth and said she would prefer real life dates to all those over-the-top things. The guys who will apply for this show know who they're going to meet, so they should be the same way, down-to-earth, funny and willing to say what they think. Now imo that sounds very promising for a fun Bachelorette season!!!

Great post, Estella!! I guess it goes to show you that no matter who is going to be the bachelorette that it isn't going to make everybody happy.

For those that are not happy w/her being the bachelorette, maybe just try to go into it w/an open mind and give it a try? Fleiss edited her to be a certain way on the bachelor -- I am sure she will be edited in a completely different way in the bachelorette show. If you don't like what you see you can always turn the show off. I believe she at the very least deserves a chance at this! Thanks!

[soccermama]

Originally Posted by RomanticHaze

Well, I was not crazy about her on the show and have warmed up to her since. And am happy that she will be the Bachelorette.

I don't think they gave her advance warning. Unless it was to say that she was among the ones being considered. So it was still a surprise. They knew from her answers on myspace that she definitely would accept being the Bachelorette, so there was no fear in her saying no and they got an honest surprise reaction out of her.

I agree that she probably had an inkling that she was strongly being considered as the bachelorette, but to get the actual news that she was the bachelorette must have blown her away when she heard it on the Ellen show!!!

[canuckinchile]

Well, everyone wants to want to be treated nicely, and Deanna probably didn't think about the implications of her statement regarding wanting her dinner to be paid for. However, the statement about not paying is outdated and not flattering to her, IMO. Why should the man pay? My husband and I were a team from the start, and he didn't have a dime (we were University students). I fell in love with the person, and saw his potential, etc. He bought me the best ring he could, and I loved it. Twenty one years later, he can afford much better, but I wouldn't part with that ring for the world.

[Estella]

I think the fact that DeAnna says things that could have been worded in a better way makes her more REAL!! Would you prefer someone who always waits a minute to answer a question just to make sure they say what everybody wants to hear, even if it's not exactly what they're thinking? I don't for sure... Maybe that's because I also tend to speak my mind freely (and sometimes without thinking first)... she didn't insult anybody, she didn't lie to anybody, she just said that she likes a gentleman who will not let her pay for dinner (hey, that doesn't mean she can't surprise him with taking him out for dinner in return or surprising him with something else). So what's the problem??? I guess it's that DeAnna simply can't do it right for some people, no matter what she says and how she says it, she'll be torn to pieces, just like she was during the Bachelor...

[double_standard]

I do not buy that she's not as mean and hateful as portrayed on the last Bachelor. Those were her true colors, not the ones she's polished up for her MySpace page.

No way will I wish anything but a total trainwreck on that mean little biatch!! I think Fleiss has set up the potential for a Jen2. I'll only watch to laugh at her hopefully becoming the most hated Bachelorette ever!!

[RomanticHaze]

Anyone on here ever read the 'Mars and Venus on a Date' book? What Deanna said is in line with what is espoused in the book. That men want to give to women they want and when women give too much or give 'back' or pay, it takes the man's interest away from the woman and onto himself, it makes a man self centered and selfish. A man giving to a woman, brings out the best that is in the soul of a man. I can certainly agree with this view as it has borne out in my life. I'm certainly in the seat titled 'women who give too much' and have seen the effects of it in my own life.

Before you jump on me and pound me out, please read the book first. I'm still digesting it as a modern day book with interesting insights.