Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna - Page 4

simplechef · 01-31-2008, 11:23 AM

I agree that women should want financial stability in a man.. .meaning he's gainfully employed with career plans for the future. He doesn't have to be wealthy but fiscally smart... What girl would say, "Oh I want a guy who still lives for his parents, doesn't have a job and would prefer to live on welfare or L&I claims for the rest of his life"... No girl would say that. I think she was brave to say what we all think, but feel it might be tacky to say.

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gurlbrit · 01-31-2008, 11:24 AM

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Originally Posted by kwtaylor

but the end was august---so in real life time it's been 7 months--almost 8

Kw, I believe the last time Deanna and Brad were together as a couple was in August, but they taped the AFTR in November and it was broadcast the next week. Until that time Jenni did not know that Brad hadn't chosen Deanna and Deanna still wanted to know why he didn't choose either of them.

In November she said she was still wondering what had happened between her and Brad and that she was hoping that he and she would have another chance.

MsFroggy · 01-31-2008, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by shoepie

Her comment is NOT about money. It is about finding a gentleman with old fashioned manners. This is an expression that has been used for decades with this definition. It means more than dinner, it is an all accompassing statment about being taken care of, doors opened, etc.

"Being taken care of" is just another way of saying "not having to pay for dinner". All encompassing term or not, it smacks of a certain something that not even my grandmother subscribes to anymore and she's going on 95.

bevorules · 01-31-2008, 11:27 AM

I am really excited that DeAnna is the next bachelorette. She is a smart, feisty, charming young lady and would make an excellent wife and mother. I think she has a good head on her shoulders and knows what she wants. It has been awhile since the end of taping (Aug) and this won't tape until the bachelor is done taping so it will be a few more months before she goes. She will have plenty of time to get over any hurt she may be holding on to, if she is holding onto anything at all. I want to see her get her happy ending, and I think she will at least make things work for a little while. I hope her "Ryan" is out there and that she can have everlasting happiness like Trista. If, though, it turns out like Meredith's season, at least they stayed together for a year and gave it a good go. I am excited and can't wait until her season starts.

simplechef · 01-31-2008, 11:28 AM

It will be 4 months of closure before they start taping in March... Remember the best way to get over someone is to have something else to focus on... I think this qualifies. I am sure now that she's the bachelorette she'll only be thinking about the potential with other guys and not give Brad another thought. I know I wouldn't.

cape · 01-31-2008, 11:30 AM

My sister used to tell me - if a guy can't afford to buy you the engagement ring you want don't say yes-

I know that sounds HORRIBLE - but this is what that meant...

If he was not in a place where he could buy me a ring that I would be happy with - then he was not in in a place where he was financially secure enough to marry me and start a family - I knew what I wanted in life and I did not want a man who was not financially stable

DeAnna is saying she wants a gentlemen and someone who is financially stable...I have no issues with that...

simplechef · 01-31-2008, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by MsFroggy

"Being taken care of" is just another way of saying "not having to pay for dinner". All encompassing term or not, it smacks of a certain something that not even my grandmother subscribes to anymore and she's going on 95.

Well, this is true, but I ascribe myself in this category. I love being taken care of by my husband. I am very independent and didn't get married until I was 31 years old, so I had taken care of myself a long time. I LOVE that my husband takes care of me... It's a wonderful feeling to be able to rely on someone and to know he LOVES paying for dinner, loves opening doors for me, and loves being my biggest fan... Plus, he is very financially stable.. All of these things were appealing to me. I still see nothing wrong with what Deanna said. Some women out there may not want it, but I think the majority do.

By the way, we're still waiting for someone to post a play by play of today's Ellen segment with Deanna... Is there a media thread opened yet?

shoepie · 01-31-2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by MsFroggy

"Being taken care of" is just another way of saying "not having to pay for dinner". All encompassing term or not, it smacks of a certain something that not even my grandmother subscribes to anymore and she's going on 95.

Again, not financially. It is about being tended to with manners and respect. So she wants a guy with old fashioned manners. Why is that causing such criticism? If that is what she desires then so be it.

Someone who spouts that old expression, "I don't want to pay for dinner" could easily have independant career goals. It is about how you want to be treated.

Some women prefer to keep their finances seperate, others don't want officially marry their love, some want to stay at home others want to persue their careers. There are as many ways to design a marriage as there are couples.

Go after what makes you happy and it will be easier to negotiate the minefield of marriage.

sueb1961 · 01-31-2008, 11:45 AM

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Originally Posted by cantstopwatchin

I really hope you're right b/c I'm not excited by this news by any means. Of course, I wasn't looking forward to Trista being the Bachelorette either, so maybe that bodes well for this season.

I'm interested to see this interview with her-- her 'list' of things she looks for in a man-- well, it just reminded me of her LC dinner conversation with Brad when she told him she'd let him slide with the toilet seat ONCE before she laid down the law.... [insert big eyeroll]!!!

I am so with you on this. I am not looking forward to her again at all. I will probably watch because I like the show. I really don't like her personality at all. She seams to into herself for my tastes. I think I would rather have any of the previous ladies but DeAnna. Yuck.

shoepie · 01-31-2008, 11:51 AM

I just watched the show. Ellen put her on the spot and asked what she was looking for. She was not prepared. Flustered she said, "I want a southern gentleman, someone who will open doors, open the car door and pay for dinner no matter how hard I try."

To take this this dinner thing and run with it nutsy. She was still reeling from the news.

For this precious woman to start her journey as the Bachelorette with an onslaught of criticism for words flung out in excitement is unbelievable. We have already seen her to be fiercely independant and outspoken.

01-31-2008, 11:23 AM	#31
simplechef I've got a gorgeous hubby Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Treasure Valley Idaho Posts: 3,256	Re: Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna I agree that women should want financial stability in a man.. .meaning he's gainfully employed with career plans for the future. He doesn't have to be wealthy but fiscally smart... What girl would say, "Oh I want a guy who still lives for his parents, doesn't have a job and would prefer to live on welfare or L&I claims for the rest of his life"... No girl would say that. I think she was brave to say what we all think, but feel it might be tacky to say.

01-31-2008, 11:27 AM	#34
bevorules FORT Fanatic Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Leander, TX Posts: 581	Re: Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna I am really excited that DeAnna is the next bachelorette. She is a smart, feisty, charming young lady and would make an excellent wife and mother. I think she has a good head on her shoulders and knows what she wants. It has been awhile since the end of taping (Aug) and this won't tape until the bachelor is done taping so it will be a few more months before she goes. She will have plenty of time to get over any hurt she may be holding on to, if she is holding onto anything at all. I want to see her get her happy ending, and I think she will at least make things work for a little while. I hope her "Ryan" is out there and that she can have everlasting happiness like Trista. If, though, it turns out like Meredith's season, at least they stayed together for a year and gave it a good go. I am excited and can't wait until her season starts. __________________ "We were just going to do whatever it took to win."--Texas Longhorn Quarterback Colt McCoy

01-31-2008, 11:28 AM	#35
simplechef I've got a gorgeous hubby Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Treasure Valley Idaho Posts: 3,256	Re: Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna It will be 4 months of closure before they start taping in March... Remember the best way to get over someone is to have something else to focus on... I think this qualifies. I am sure now that she's the bachelorette she'll only be thinking about the potential with other guys and not give Brad another thought. I know I wouldn't.

01-31-2008, 11:30 AM	#36
cape FORT Fogey Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 3,267	Re: Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna My sister used to tell me - if a guy can't afford to buy you the engagement ring you want don't say yes- I know that sounds HORRIBLE - but this is what that meant... If he was not in a place where he could buy me a ring that I would be happy with - then he was not in in a place where he was financially secure enough to marry me and start a family - I knew what I wanted in life and I did not want a man who was not financially stable DeAnna is saying she wants a gentlemen and someone who is financially stable...I have no issues with that...

01-31-2008, 11:51 AM	#40
shoepie FORT Fogey Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 3,241	Re: Bachelorette 4 - DeAnna I just watched the show. Ellen put her on the spot and asked what she was looking for. She was not prepared. Flustered she said, "I want a southern gentleman, someone who will open doors, open the car door and pay for dinner no matter how hard I try." To take this this dinner thing and run with it nutsy. She was still reeling from the news. For this precious woman to start her journey as the Bachelorette with an onslaught of criticism for words flung out in excitement is unbelievable. We have already seen her to be fiercely independant and outspoken.