Originally Posted by nikkij_26;3995246;
Ali in PI @ end of Roberto's HTD:
Ali @ HTD RC deliberation chat with CHris Harrison:
I think what people are seeing is ALi's cold feet. She facing the decision to take the risk to go for love and see if the fairytale she has with Roberto is real at the FRC. She's nervous about it as was demonstrated by how she reacted when Roberto toldher he was falling for her and she was scared he was going to tell her something bad. I think after the Frank debacle that nervousness will increase. However, that intimacy and feeling was still there as was made evidence by TPTB editing out so much of the Island part of their date. Ali's interview where she said the heart shaped island was the most romantic date, things got steamy, and she apologized to her parents for what they might see attested to that.
Regarding Chris' rising arc of storyline, his storyline had to rise in order for anyone to believe he was a real option in the F2 in light of the Frank situtation and her obvious feelings for Roberto. It also started rising so late, much later that hidden F1's of old, because their relationship didn't get to that couple stage really 'til then. Ali's comfort level on showing and sharing that intimacy level with didn't occur 'til then. Hence, the maybe too late issue.
This bolded part higlights the point I've had this whole time. People have said lust/chemistry is not the way to have a relationship it's better to be friends first. I didn't know that these things were mutually exclusive. Most relationships start out with some form of lust or chemistry. Even those relationships that are arranged or spring up between long time friends make the shift to love because that chemistry starts up or shifts into action. Then , you go from loving someone as a person to being in love with them. Yes, chemistry and beauty fades after time, kids, work, etc. However, if you never had that spark or chemistry it doesn't make for a great relationship either. Plus, in those moments when your sick or the kids have taken over your life it's the memory of that passionate chemistry that can get you through those rough times reminding you of how you fell in love and felt for each other. That passionate chemistry develops into a deeper love, and the memory of that passion reinforces it during times when you can't show it as often as you used to.
Also, it's great to have many things in common and enjoy the same things you do with friends in a husband. However, if your husband is open to some of the things you like your friends can supply the rest. However, if you just have the commonalities in common but not the passion with your husband what makes that person different than any of your other friends? What's important is that hopefully you have both. You at least want to have passion along with someone who is your soulmate an dis there for you when you need them. Sometimes the friend prtion of your mate is not that you have all the same things in common but, more so he is your frined in tha he is there for you in whatever you need. He is the person you can always turn to and he's there to support and care for you. Then, you have your best friends to make you laugh, entertain you, and share other commonalities with. Yes, there are solid lasting relationships that start out as friends. Some of those relationships also end just as quickly once they become full blown romance. There are also solid lasting relationships that started with tons of lust, chemistry and even a bit of love at first sight. It's not mutually exclusive. What it's really about is the individuals involved and what they are willing to put into the relationship to make it work. Roberto has shown himself to have tons of chemistry with Ali. However, he's also shown himself to be someone who wants to take care of ALi and make sure her needs are taken care of and looked after. I don't see Roberto after the chemistry has tamed, not being there for Ali in the middle of the night when the baby has colic, etc. His caring, nature, cultural background, and upbringing by his military father make it highly unlikely that Roberto wouldn't be there for Ali even after lust fades. Just my thoughts.
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