Is it really important to tell someone "I love you" or "I'm in love with you" all the time. Who needs to be convinced? Don't actions speak louder than words. The little things that a mate does to show he/she cares and puts their partner's needs and interests a little ahead of their own? But what does it mean to say those words all the time anyways.?Originally Posted by Alanna;3581371;
People toss the love word like candy on Halloween night to mean a whole range of feelings. It has become such a generic term for feelings that are not really so deep. Examples, I love how you think, I love to go shopping, I love hanging out with you, I love pizza, I love going to the movies, I love my sister, and so on.
Then you have the Deannnnnna's of the world who use "love" as a cop out of a relationship with "I love you" but "I'm not in love with you".
Haven't we heard of long time best friends who suddenly say they are IN LOVE and get married? Whether by choice or unconsciously we often choose mates who mirror back to us who we are. Opposites attract and get along great bec' they complement each other. Sometimes people marry someone who share their views, values, interests, personalities. They could still clash if for example they are both equally stubborn. Ultimately it's a mix bag of candy/chocolates. We choose who we do by design, by accident, by choice or claim to settle for what comes our way. Call it fate or destiny, but it sure plays a role in our finding our mates, whether they are soul mates or not.
When one loves somebody doesn't it really imply you accept them quirks and all, in spite of the neurosis, even their sometimes embarrassing behavior. It's supposed to mean total acceptance.
Jillian wants Reid to verbalize with the "L" word. He is reluctant to say it but uses "I like you a lot", "I have serious feelings for you" to express his feelings. Somehow she is still caught up in the "L" word as the only acceptable word in the dictionary that she wants to hear from him to express his feelings. If it came from any one other than the one she really wants to hear it from will she settle for him just bec' he said the "L" word? In Spain she told Reid she is not someone who needs to hear it every day from her mate. Did she even realize what she was saying? It's like someone who decides she must marry her Prince Charming, just the way she fantasized him to be? What if her Prince Charming turns out to be a bit on the chunky side, with thinning hair but had a heart of gold, with a personality to boot?
I don't get Jillian's fixation with wanting to hear the "L" word. Oh well!