Thank-you - I am glad you shared your knowledge!Originally Posted by VAgirl79;3573745;I respect your opinion, but I have to completely disagree with you because that's not narcissism defined. What you're talking about is whether a person has an internal or external locus of control. Internal = They think they are largely the cause of their own fate. External = They think forces beyond their control are largely responsible for their fate. This has to do with how people view the world and themselves, and is tied to self esteem. Not narcissism at all. Unfortunately, narcissism has been warped by society into a word that people thinks means something it does not mean. Narcissism is defined as having 5 or more of the following traits:
1. has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
2. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
3. believes that he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
4. requires excessive admiration
5. has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
6. is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
7. lacks empathy and is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
8. is often envious of others, or believes others are envious of him or her
9. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
That's what narcissism (specifically, Narcissistic [Personality Disorder]) actually means according to the DSM, and I definitely don't think this applies to Reid. Seems like he just has an internal locus of control, to me. Who knows, may not, may just have said what he did because Jillian essentially said it was his own doing he went home.
Sorry if it sounds like I'm giving a class on all this; just an area I've studied in college and graduate school repeatedly, so I felt compelled to respond.