The Aftermath

[atem]

It's not just the edit. It's the guys at the house as well. There's nothing negative from them about Jason. Jason knew Graham was someone DeAnna was falling for and hated it, but that didn't stop him from being friends with him. So, I don't think it's just edit.

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[moxie 48]

I can't believe how many of you DeJay fans are jumping ship!!
No disrespect to Cape and her inside source, but everyone seems to be taking that for the gospel and forgetting everything we have seen with our very own eyes.
People are turning on Deanna and saying some very unflattering things before we know for a fact that she does dump Jason. Until we see it and know it for a fact, I think people should reserve judgement. There is just too much evidence that Jason is the one, their interaction together is amazing to watch and her statements before regarding what type of person she was looking for (jason fits the bill) Remember how she cried when she let Richard go? God, she barely knew the guy and she didn't want to lead him on----I refuse to believe she would be able to turn around and hurt Jason, who she obvisously has a connection with.(Especially after seeing his whole family crying when Jason had to leave Ty)
Hang in there guys. Keep the faith.

[MOM23boyz]

Originally Posted by StanleyCupCanes

If she has to be #1 which is what she herself says she loves (see her conf call regarding her description of why loves Jesse) he puts me first then she had to know that being the stepmom to a child wasn't going to work for her. Ergo, she should have sent Jason home sooner than later.

I won't comment further on how selfish I think that sounds and is totally contradictory with her statements of wanting "3 little people".

Any one that is married or in a serious relationship knows that a partner can not always put you first nor should it be expected. When you put children into the equation, you are NEVER first. I didn't watch DeAnna on the season with Brad, but I fell for the whole "America's Sweetheart" having gotten her heart broken by Brad. If DeAnna were truly over Brad, she would not have had the need to bring up his name on every episode this season. She also said on a number of occasions that she is "never wrong". I don't have a preference over Jesse or Jason, but I do believe that DeAnna is immature and selfish and not ready to be married, much less a mother or step-mother. If her choice is Jesse, she has not been with him long enough to see what he is like during competition season for snowboarding. When Jesse is in training or traveling, does she think he will be able to put her first? As far as the Maserati is concerned, that car is not conducive to becoming a step-mom to a 3 year old.

[KaraT]

Originally Posted by TVJunkie1963

From the tone of your response, I get the feeling that you totally missed the point of my post.

And I never implied that having a child should make him any less subject to being dumped--because I don't believe that way. Perhaps that part of your post wasn't directed at me, but since you quoted my post, it certainly appears so.

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This is "ridiculous."

My original post said that I could not understand the backlash against DeAnna simply because she did not choose the fan favorite.

pondsbb replied to my post, saying "I so agree..what is wrong with people?"

Your reply began with: "Maybe this will help explain it."

Thus, I took your post to be a general attempt to explain the overall board backlash against DeAnna choosing Jesse and that is why I quoted your post. If you were explaining the general backlash of Jason fans against the latest revelations, I felt it appropriate to incorporate a lot of the "backlash" themes I have been reading here in my reply, many of which have been the things that I alluded to in my post. I do not believe I ever said that you specifically posted any of them, so I guess it's mea culpa for having the poor etiquette of quoting you.

However, I think you deliberately mistook my post as some kind of a personal accusation, which it was never intended to be, so again I apologize if it came across that way. I do not come here looking to pick a fight, only to raise issues for discussion. Believe me, lesson learned.

[southerngal]

Originally Posted by addison h.

all true - and you know what I was thinking. if she did stay in real estate - and everyone still loved her she'd be a huge success! It's like being a big fish in a small pond. She should use her notoriety to help her be better at what she's already doing - I think it could only be a huge career boost for her.

I have been doing mortgage loans for over 20 years so I was interested in what real estate company DeAnna worked for. I went to the National Association of Realtors website and I could not pull up any information on her. I also searched for her in her hometown of Georgia. I wonder if her real estate license is still active. Does anyone know?

[girlsmom]

[quote=StanleyCupCanes;3106473;]

Originally Posted by girlsmom

YES grneyedgirl People were appalled and furious at the very idea that Jason having a child would make any difference in her thought process, now they're ready to crucify her for doing just that. She treated him like any other guy. Why couldn't she have fallen for Jason, but just not enough to commit him? How could she predict that she would ultimately not decide to choose him? Should she have not kept him if she wasn't SURE that he would f1? That would have outraged people. I'm not one to defend D, but just what was she supposed to do? Jason could have been CLOSE, but not quite there. It's Jason's fault for being away from his son, not Dee's. Now, if she purposely led him on, knowing he was not her f1, but was good press for the show, that's an entirely different thing. People say they saw her fall in love with Jason, so I would assume that's why she kept him, because she felt that he COULD be the one. In the end he wasn't. How is that her fault?.[/QUOTE]

If she has to be #1 which is what she herself says she loves (see her conf call regarding her description of why loves Jesse) he puts me first then she had to know that being the stepmom to a child wasn't going to work for her. Ergo, she should have sent Jason home sooner than later.

I won't comment further on how selfish I think that sounds and is totally contradictory with her statements of wanting "3 little people".

My point: What did people want her to do about Jason? Get rid of him because he might not be f1 or keep him because he was one of her f2 and might be her f1? If she thought he might be f1 he sure would have wanted to stay. He probably kept him as long as she thought he could be the one for her. What's wrong with that?

Now if she knew that Jesse was the One all along than she was certainly in the wrong. Jason is the one who created the situation and expected to be treated just like anyone else. Posters expected her to disreguard the fact that he had a child and judge him on his own merits. What is to say that this exact thing didn't happen, but when it got down to the final choice it just wasn't Jason. He took that risk, just like everyone else.

I've never cared for D, didn't watch Brad's show, didn't watch much of D's, but honestly, I don't get this: What could Dee have done differently other than discrimate against Jason because he's a dad? Why don't you think Dee was attracted to Jason, but just not enough to spend her life with him? It happens all the time in real life and this is Dee's real life.

[ducky2]

Originally Posted by atem

It's not just the edit. It's the guys at the house as well. There's nothing negative from them about Jason. Jason knew Graham was someone DeAnna was falling for and hated it, but that didn't stop him from being friends with him. So, I don't think it's just edit.

The great guy that his edit is showing us, I'm sure is a true picture of his genuine self. But my point is, since it looks like he is F2, and if they had something in a contract to prevent TPTB from "throwing him under the bus" like they have with so many, (most recently, sweet Amanda and the prank) maybe it was tough to give us doubts about him. I do think that Jesse's edit has been good, but Jason's has been stellar. Why, I wonder?

[maryhse]

Originally Posted by moxie 48

I can't believe how many of you DeJay fans are jumping ship!!
No disrespect to Cape and her inside source, but everyone seems to be taking that for the gospel and forgetting everything we have seen with our very own eyes.
People are turning on Deanna and saying some very unflattering things before we know for a fact that she does dump Jason. Until we see it and know it for a fact, I think people should reserve judgement. There is just too much evidence that Jason is the one, their interaction together is amazing to watch and her statements before regarding what type of person she was looking for (jason fits the bill) Remember how she cried when she let Richard go? God, she barely knew the guy and she didn't want to lead him on----I refuse to believe she would be able to turn around and hurt Jason, who she obvisously has a connection with.(Especially after seeing his whole family crying when Jason had to leave Ty)
Hang in there guys. Keep the faith.

Um... she's not dumping anyone. She isn't in a committed relationship with any of them. She's choosing who she wants to be in that type of relationship with.

[TVJunkie1963]

Originally Posted by julianna

ROFLMAO!!!

Have there been ANY Bachelor/ette people that have gone on to anything?

That first guy, I called him rubber face, got a bit part on a sitcom and didn't he act as spokesman for Match.com or something?

And Bob married a soap opera lady.

Am I missing anyone?

Yep, Bob married Rebecca Budig from All My Children. And don't they look like a match? I'm still trying to figure out that one!

And speaking of Bob, wasn't his season successful? Somewhere between Trista and his season, he lost part of his charm. Could it be that, with the edits I now know of, he never had any to begin with??

Wonder what Erica and her Tiara are doing these days? She's probably looking in her mirror and thinking !!!!

[librarylady]

Originally Posted by cape

First a HUGE Thank you to Jammie....I was given those details about the wedding date and honeymoon as well but was not allowed to post them at my source's request...she has a different source that did not mind the info being posted...but now that it is out there I do not mind verifying all of it. There were people who did not receive the email or took the chance by showing up anyway and they were allowed in - so even though some were paid...others were not. There were definately people from the FORT as well as several other message boards in the audience.

This situation is so difficult and amazing that it is really hard to make sense. The thing is that who De picks doesn't mean anything in my life. I hope that she is truly happy.

Here is where the problem comes in. I am mad at the DeAnna that has been on my TV. THAT girl said she is ready for commitment, wants 3 kids in the very near future, is ready to settle down, was CLEARLY head over heals in love with Jason AND seemed awkward with Jesse and the deepest conversations they had seemed to either be about farting or used the words dude and ridiculous. The girl I thought I knew would never pick Jesse. The girl I thought I knew would have NEVER let Jason get down on his knee to propose - I think it must be hard for a man to propose in any circumstance and I think it was wrong to let him do that.

But now she is driving a Maserati, has a home in Atlanta that she has no intention of selling yet has relocated permanently to LA. Hardly the simple girl who says she wants to stay close to her family and is ready to settle down. Seems to me her payment for doing the Bachelorette must have been significant. Do I blame her for wanting all that - not at all. Shoot - before I got married I would have jumped at all of that as well.

I really blame Fleiss for showing us this girl who seemed to only have eyes for Jason, for leaving no questions with Jason - most of us will ever understand why the DE ON OUR TV - did not pick Jason.

I will say from what I have heard - Jesse was not very popular in the house...in fact I was told if Jesse if F1 - then they will all have to wonder the Hell the rest of them were even there for.

Thanks, Cape. Sadly I do now believe she chose Jesse. But my thoughts about Deanna are just the same as yours. They presented this sweet, want to settle down and have children image. I know that must have made Jason believe it would work. What was going on behind the scenes with Jesse all along? Or maybe it was that she did think she would choose Jason and right at the end she realized she just wasn't ready to settle down and Jesse would offer a more "adventurous" choice. My heart aches for the hurt Jason must have felt by being rejected, but in the end he is probably the real winner!