Thoughts and Comments in General #3 **Spoilers** Bachelorette 4

[albean99]

Originally Posted by Spartangirl

After reading the interviews by Graham and Twilley (although you have to read a bit between the lines because you know they are coached about what they can and can't say) I think that Graham did choose to leave. The show doesn't want that to be shown so he has to say it was her choice or that it was mutual. There are a few lines that indicate that he did decide to leave though because he wasn't ready for a proposal and that is clearly what Deanna wants. Twilley feels that Jesse is one she is more taken with than Jason and he may be right. But Graham feels that Jason would be better for her. That doesn't mean that Deanna feels that way, however. For those of us who haven't seen much in the romantic way with Deanna for Jason, that makes sense. Jason would probably be a better match for her than Graham or Jesse, but Deanna is drawn more to them than to Jason. It seems that Graham knows Jason would be a better choice but it isn't clear that Deanna sees that. If she isn't feeling it for Jason, I don't know that she will in time for it to work out.

There is more to all of these people than we get to see on TV. I do think that Deanna is not as sophisticated as Jeremy for sure and probably as Jason. She seems a bit more of an adrenaline junkie than either of them as well. It could still work for her with someone who is calmer. It would help to round her out a bit, but we don't always choose to do what is good for us and I question whether Deanna is interested in rounding herself out. She wants marriage and family but I'm not sure she wants calm. She seems to like fireworks and passion an awful lot. Jason seems like a great guy but I don't see fireworks or passion between him and Deanna. I see comfort and friendship. I think they have very different worldviews and she actually has more in common with Jesse than it first appears.

No matter what, I don't see a lasting relationship out of this season. No matter which guy she chooses for the final rose. With Jesse, I see conflict because of the girlfriend/endorsements that Deanna would have a very hard time getting past. And with Jason I see her at most trying it for a while but ultimately being unhappy because there isn't enough excitement for her there. We will have to watch and see but I think once Graham left that the show was essentially over and whatever happens next is just fulfilling the contract.

Sadly I think you're right, Spartangirl. DeAnna may have been locked into a hard place after she put so much effort into Graham but she couldn't make him fall in love with her and propose and she didn't seem willing to compromise. Jeremy would have been a good choice but I think she was afraid of hurting him and didn't want to bring him to the f2. That only left Jason & Jesse. Jesse would be the obvious choice if she wants someone that she wouldn't be hurting with either a rejection at the FRC or an easy breakup after. Jason is the one she should want and is probably trying to talk herself into loving. Unfortunately there's another factor in the equation in Ty. It would be nice to think that she does fall in love and get her "happy ending" but it's hard to see how.

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[ButterflyFaery]

Originally Posted by nuthinsayzluvin

When I think of Jesse ,which is infrequently as possible , eck, I think of the DOOBIE BROS. song selection for the moment...

"What a fool believes" Michael (marbles in his mouth )McDonald,
try to get the lyrics ... cuz anybody that thinks Jesse has a hope... well I'll be obtuse just like y'all

lol..I think that whom ever it was that called Jesse "Jeff Spucolli" that first night hit the nail on the head..thats exactly who I think of when I see him

[Popeyesgal]

How can anyone not see their connection? When they met at the HTD she literally launched herself into his arms and they couldn't quit hugging/holding one another/touching.etc....

[albean99]

Originally Posted by Popeyesgal

How can anyone not see their connection? When they met at the HTD she literally launched herself into his arms and they couldn't quit hugging/holding one another/touching.etc....

Who do you mean? I saw that happen with Graham.

[amsmom2njkz]

Originally Posted by Popeyesgal

How can anyone not see their connection? When they met at the HTD she literally launched herself into his arms and they couldn't quit hugging/holding one another/touching.etc....

I definately see the connection here with Jason., However I felt that she was VERY uncomfortable around Ty. Maybe it was the editing or her nerves, but during the whole time with Ty I felt like maybe she was not as ready for the pre made family. Dont get me wrong I am hoping for the DeJay love story, but I am a little worried that step mom just isnt a title she is wanting.

[Larel]

Well I don't need to try to break down everything Graham says as him hinting that he was the one who choose to leave because I think taking him at his word should mean we believe Dee decided not to give him a rose & that's the end of it since they both realized it would not work in the end!

Anyway it is all done now anyway & they have moved on so this could go on forever & we will be going in circles!

[Capegal]

Originally Posted by BachelorOCD

Maybe i missed this somewhere earlier in the thread. But does anyone have a theory on why Jason acknowledged at least twice on his HTD that he had had a terrible morning, and that something had gone very wrong? Even Ty knew that Daddy had been sad. The edit took special care to make sure we knew this. Why?

Cuz daddy was sad the last time Ty saw him - and now he isn't sad anymore - exactly what Ty said to him - daddy was thrilled to see his son again after several weeks of seperation - nothing more than that.

[nuthinsayzluvin]

Originally Posted by Popeyesgal

How can anyone not see their connection? When they met at the HTD she literally launched herself into his arms and they couldn't quit hugging/holding one another/touching.etc....

WHO? Jesse? say it ain't so

OMG the kissing made me want to barf

uh, kiss him??? double martini pls and a blindfold

[Capegal]

Originally Posted by nuthinsayzluvin

WHO? Jesse? say it ain't so

OMG the kissing made me want to barf

uh, kiss him??? double martini pls and a blindfold

UUUmmmmmmm nope! Jason

[angelic_one2002]

Originally Posted by albean99

Who do you mean? I saw that happen with Graham.

And only Graham. I agree.