Thoughts and Comments in General #3 **Spoilers** Bachelorette 4

[blue valentine]

Originally Posted by Grahamgroupie

He didn't say he wasn't into her. He said he couldn't give her what she wanted, especially in the timeframe of the show. Big difference. He does say that he had strong feelings for her.

But, I really don't care. It's done, it's the horse that's been beaten to death.

Actually if you read the interview he bluntly says that even without the cameras and the other guys he couldn't see himself falling in love with her. He said several times that they had a good time together and there was an attraction but he didn't see a long lasting connection. I don't how much more he could have said to get his point across, it was pretty obvious.

But I don't want to debate, everybody is going to see what they want to see.

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[talldede]

Originally Posted by whimzeegal

I was looking at the pics of Deanna from the MTA and maybe it's just the camera angles and how the caps were done but she is back to having that B**** look like she did in B11. If Jason is truly going for a relationship with her I hope he knows what he is getting himself into.

Shocker - I DISAGREE!

By all accounts, the guys that have left have had nothing but good things to say about her and they've met her, spent time with her and hung out with her.

I'll listen to the guys.

[Grahamgroupie]

Originally Posted by blue valentine

Actually if you read the interview he bluntly says that even without the cameras and the other guys he couldn't see himself falling in love with her. He said several times that they had a good time together and there was an attraction but he didn't see a long lasting connection. I don't how much more he could have said to get his point across, it was pretty obvious.

But I don't want to debate, everybody is going to see what they want to see.

I had already pointed that out in the 2nd post on this thread. ..................

I wasn't blind and I didn't misread anything. He did say what you said and added that he had strong feelings for her and that he was as attracted to her as she was to him (paraphrasing). I didn't see something I wanted to see. I read the black and white just like everyone else did.

[xseannax]

Originally Posted by Grahamgroupie

He didn't say he wasn't into her.

Originally Posted by Grahamgroupie

I find the article/transcript to reveal a lot of things, but mainly that we aren't seeing everything with regard to DeAnna, to which he said "No Comment" and that there is no way he could fall in love with her.

Graham knew that is was attraction and "caring" feelings, but not forever feelings. I think the HTD was an eye-opener for both of them. An "a-ha" moment. Do I believe Graham asked to leave? It's highly likely he may have. I don't think that makes him a bad person. In fact, if he recognized that they just couldn't have forever and bowed out as soon as he could, that makes him a better person. Do I think DeAnna moved on and found love? I hope she did. It CAN happen. I had an a-ha moment myself once--gave up on a guy after going through "the cycle" for about a year. Opened my heart up to a guy who was already in my life, moved in with him a month later, and 10 months after that married him.

[13lahblah]

Originally Posted by xseannax

Graham knew that is was attraction and "caring" feelings, but not forever feelings. I think the HTD was an eye-opener for both of them. An "a-ha" moment. Do I believe Graham asked to leave? It's highly likely he may have. I don't think that makes him a bad person. In fact, if he recognized that they just couldn't have forever and bowed out as soon as he could, that makes him a better person. Do I think DeAnna moved on and found love? I hope she did. It CAN happen. I had an a-ha moment myself once--gave up on a guy after going through "the cycle" for about a year. Opened my heart up to a guy who was already in my life, moved in with him a month later, and 10 months after that married him.

i hope that happens to DeAnna and Jason

[goldie2]

Originally Posted by blue valentine

Actually if you read the interview he bluntly says that even without the cameras and the other guys he couldn't see himself falling in love with her. He said several times that they had a good time together and there was an attraction but he didn't see a long lasting connection. I don't how much more he could have said to get his point across, it was pretty obvious.

But I don't want to debate, everybody is going to see what they want to see.

He said he did not think he could have..maybe he really meant something else...hard to know...maybe there was more to follow that he just didn't want to say there..just a weird thing to say...not something you say about someone you just said you had a connection with like none of the others..

What about the comment about him going on the show about "How when God comes knockin I figure you have to go check it out...That was interesting...

I am not sure given the show isn't over and there are three guys left still he would admit that he would have fallen in love with her or did..
I would like to know what is in the letter...wonder why we don't get to see much about it at the MTnothing...

.seems like a very odd comment to say..given the fact that was not the case anyway..they weren't there without other guys..which was a big problem for him..the whole process of the show...

And yes..I may have my Graham googles on and all....but I am fine with my interpretation..given some of his other comments and how difficult it was for him to leave and all..

He basically only really said the timing was not right for him as far as the marriage concept..not his genuine feelings...


Anyway..not debating anything..just expressing some thoughts...

[StellaGeorge]

Originally Posted by whimzeegal

I was looking at the pics of Deanna from the MTA and maybe it's just the camera angles and how the caps were done but she is back to having that B**** look like she did in B11. If Jason is truly going for a relationship with her I hope he knows what he is getting himself into.

That's not fair - camera edits.

[nutty1]

I am just wondering this out loud....
How many people who really dislike Deanna are Graham fans? Jeremy fans??

If she picked either of them, and they were so happy together, I wonder if you all would feel differently. I think so, if you were to be honest.
Not to say the Jason fans wouldn't be the same way.
Human nature.....it's an interesting thing!

[sueb1961]

Originally Posted by talldede

Shocker - I DISAGREE!

By all accounts, the guys that have left have had nothing but good things to say about her and they've met her, spent time with her and hung out with her.

I'll listen to the guys.

Most of them are pretty much gentlemen. I don't think they would say anything bad about her in public. I remember many of the girls from DeAnna's season saying good things about Andy to that they didn't mean.

[StellaGeorge]

Originally Posted by goldie2

He said he did not think he could have..maybe he really meant something else...hard to know...maybe there was more to follow that he just didn't want to say there..just a weird thing to say...not something you say about someone you just said you had a connection with like none of the others..

What about the comment about him going on the show about "How when God comes knockin I figure you have to go check it out...That was interesting...

I am not sure given the show isn't over and there are three guys left still he would admit that he would have fallen in love with her or did..
I would like to know what is in the letter...wonder why we don't get to see much about it at the MTnothing...

.seems like a very odd comment to say..given the fact that was not the case anyway..they weren't there without other guys..which was a big problem for him..the whole process of the show...

And yes..I may have my Graham googles on and all....but I am fine with my interpretation..given some of his other comments and how difficult it was for him to leave and all..

He basically only really said the timing was not right for him as far as the marriage concept..not his genuine feelings...


Anyway..not debating anything..just expressing some thoughts...

I think he meant what he said - he seems to be programmed as a guy who needs someone more passive, softspoken, etc. Less threatening to someone who is more of an introvert.