Thoughts and Comments in General #3 **Spoilers** Bachelorette 4

[seeker]

Originally Posted by Calypso

I think Graham was a wake up call for DeAnna. He was chemistry without substance, and so was Brad for that matter. Maybe now, DeAnna has come to the realization that she has been attracted by physical attributes rather than looking at the person as a whole.
She has said that she found herself attracted to someone she wouldn't have considered to be her type. We know she wasn't talking about Graham because she said that Graham was 100% her type. I hope Graham was a learning experience for DeAnna and that she can now move on to a person who will love her in return.

What is interesting is that Deanna has said the same thing Trista said during B'ette 1. Charlie was her Graham and Ryan was her Jason. Makes one wonder if the PTB scripted some parts to show Deanna and Trista in similar light...........


Trista and Deanna both from families where parents were divorced. Both are upfront and outspoken........Trista a little more subtle IMO

Trista was rejected at FRC by Alex after he told her he was going to choose her at FRC and she left shocked and devastated

Deanna was rejected at FRC by Brad after he told her it was going to be a good day for FRC and she left shocked and devastated

Trista and Deanna - both seriously wanted to find Mr. Right and settle down

Trista made note to self to keep an eye on Ryan right out of the limo
Deanna right after meeting Jason wanted to get to know him better

Trista didn't want to leave the South (Miami) prefered warm weather but ended up moving to Vail,CO to the cold mountains with Ryan Sutter all for love

Deanna also said she prefered warm weather ....BUT will she move to rainly Seattle for love?

Trista wanted to get married and have a family right away
Deanna wants to have a family with 3 kids before she is 30

Charlie was 100% Trista's type (was her f2 was shocked he wasn't f1, ended up being at Trista and Ryan's wedding), she was shocked she fell in love with Ryan at FD in Seattle, he wrote her a poem
Graham was 100% Deanna type (was f4 and he knew it was coming). Deanna said she was surprised she fell in love with someone that wasn't her usual type

Trista's HTD was in CO, FD in Seattle (where she fell in love wtih Ryan)
DeAnna's HTD was in CO and Seattle (where she fell in love with Jason after seeing him with Ty - she said so in PIs - edited that way in epi 6)

Deanna to Jason - I know/heard Seattle is a place where people fall in love
Jason to Deanna - You said Seattle was a place where people fell in love, I'd like to find if that's so.........(summary)

Maybe, Seattle is a place where people do fall in love.:love struc.........ya think?

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[Phyllie]

Originally Posted by n2shabbychic

Are there a lot of people here who are still in love with their high school boyfriends who treated them like crap? Just wondering.

That's not relevant unless they were high school last week. Or if we are talking Brad...then last year.

[azadee13]

HI
I was just reading the ABC board and I don't know if anyone posted this yet. Someone there posted an interview with Twilly and in the interiew he said that the most hated guy in the house was actually Jesse. This is how the person summerized the interview : ") Jesse was full of himself, talked down to a lot of the guys. For example told the guys that he wasn;t going to talk to them about SnowBoarding because he was so good they wouldn't understand. Told everybody he was in the show for product endorsements and to try to get into more reality TV shows. Still thinks Jesse fell in love with DeAnna in the end but Twilley really doesn't like him.

[azadee13]

link:97.1 ZHT then hit the tab that says ZJ booth. Then press the morning zoo.

On that page in the yellow on the left it says PODCASTS FULL SHOWS. Download part 1 on 6/26/2008
fast forward to 41.55

[atem]

I cannot believe that no one would have even told DeAnna about what Jessee was up to! Doesn't that surprise anyone else?

[Lifeisgood2]

I think we will see Jeremy telling her Monday night after he is let go at the RC. That Jesse is no there for the right reasons anyway...

[seeker]

Originally Posted by Shannonm93

I agree Just Sayin ... I too think she is physically attracted to Jason and the difference between what she has with Jason and what she had with Graham and B.ad was that was all that I think she had going on with Graham and B.ad and there is obviously so much more going on between her & Jason ... not just physical attraction (which of course is always a plus, but not enough to make a relationship work all on its own). Thanks!

During her 1:1 date with Jason she made a comment that in all her 26 years not one of the guys she had dated before ever asked her about her mother.........maybe bec' they WEREN'T THE RIGHT ONE. She trusted him enough to share that part of her life. The beginnings of more than just attraction she had felt for Jason that she had repeated several times in PIs and VOs, not to mention she COULDN'T THINK OF ANYONE ELSE she rather be with when Jason comforted her after she returned to mansion to spend two days with him.

With Graham in her own words it felt like she was a giddy schoolgirl. She was trying to force more than Graham was willing to reciprocate in that scenario with many guys around .....he rejected her request for kiss after track date, didn't want to be one of the pack.......... In the end did she give herself a course of self-therapy to deal with all that pent up emotions from her ex-bf and Brad "breaking her heart" when she laid it all out to Graham after RC, somethings she couldn't say to Brad after B11. She said in her gut she felt Graham was meant to be there. Sure, as a reminder of Brad it seems (since she brought him up with Graham frequently) for her to deal with the past and the hurt and pain of B11.

[jelle]

The story being told here - the one we are watching - is that Deanna fell in love with Graham and he did/could/would not return her feelings. If you were watching the story unfold with no internet interferrence, that is where we would be today. Deanna broken hearted having released the love of her life and wondering if she could ever love again. [Intermission]

It is no wonder that many are questioning whether she is ready to find another love in such a short time. And the fact that she talks about a former lover continuously - either positively or negatively - also makes one logically wonder whether she has really resolved those feelings and moved on, ready to accept another lover.

Now these things may not be reality for any of the characters, but that IS the story being told. From the beginning the question of the story has been "Will Deanna be able to find true love this time, when she is in control, or will she end up roseless again?"

Right now the viewer is supposed to be questioning whether Deanna has screwed her chances for love again, is there still hope, or can she pull it out? In the coming weeks, we will find out whether she succeeds or not.

IMO we will see her direct her attentions and her focus on three greatly different men, all of whom seemingly are falling in love with her. The question to be resolved ... is she able to fall for one of them. We will see the story shift, from her failures to the search for a reationship, and the eventual choice of her final suitor. And the happy ending. [Curtain down]

Again, this is not real life but I think it is the story we are being told. We are seeing the pinnacle of her difficulty now and we will see her "redemption" and success on the remaining dates. When we come back to pseudo real life at the ATFR, who knows what we will find

This is a story taken from real events and real people, but the pieces are rearranged as needed. No matter how the story is told, it is not non-fiction. Even the aftermath of many of these stories is fiction for awhile. Story by illusion.

[thethreej's]

Originally Posted by atem

I cannot believe that no one would have even told DeAnna about what Jessee was up to! Doesn't that surprise anyone else?

I think the guys this season really respected eachother's privacy. The guys could have easily told her about Jason's son, but they all respected the fact that it was Jason who needed to tell her. Even though it was a shady thing for Jesse to do, I think the guys felt it should come from Jesse not them. I have to say, she really had a great group of guys, except that sleezy guy that wanted Jenni to sit on his lap.

[chrisg]

Originally Posted by Phyllie

The problem is that she is doing this in less than two weeks. He hard to believe that she has an epiphany that she can live with long term in that short of time. I really hope she can...For the show, and the place we see DeAnna making these choices is only a few days.

I'm not sure of everyone else's age range, maritial status and potential dating location is, but as a single, 20something New Yorker, this is what my girlfriends and I go through on a somewhat regular basis. We are often in situations where we are dating a couple of guys very early on in relationships and we DO make these decisions in a few days because when you have the potential to go out with both of those guys next Saturday night you have to CHOOSE. And you LEARN to make your choices wisely and you learn the difference between mere potential and potential WITH reciprocity.