Jesse **SPOILERS**

[Capegal]

Originally Posted by CoolCruiser

You're missing the point. IF he wasn't that into his GF- whom he was dating before going on the show, - he wouldn't have broken up with her via the email. You don't break up something that doesn't exist.

LOL exactly - or one would break up with someone - before the show - but close to the end of it?!?!? uuummmmmmm

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[FableChild]

I guess I just don't see it the way others do. So what, Jesse was "dating" someone. Were they engaged? Did they live together? Have a child together? Just because someone is dating doesn't mean they can't date other people. There was a time in my life when I dated more than one person at a time, and I didn't consider any of the guys my "boyfriend" and I didn't feel I was cheating on any of them. Maybe when Dee asked Jesse if he had ever cheated on a girlfriend, he really didn't consider her a serious girlfriend, but just someone he was seeing. I don't know.

I have no idea how this will play out, but to me, it's just not that big of a deal even if the girlfriend thing is true. My understanding is that he was made to break up with her, and so I'm gonna say that the producers knew he was seeing someone and made him let her know how far he had gotten on the show, so there wouldn't be a lot of backlash.

[DinD]

Originally Posted by Capegal

The big deal is the lie he told her - he has never referred to having any present g/f in any of their talks - he has stated his EX g/f - if he comes to the show with a g/f - that is a down right out and out lie.

The issue is NOT that he is dating - it is having a girlfriend

I don't remember what the rules state about going on the show if you are in a relationship but I would think that what he did might have been a breach of contract or something like that.

[MissMilano]

Originally Posted by FableChild

I guess I just don't see it the way others do. So what, Jesse was "dating" someone. Were they engaged? Did they live together? Have a child together? Just because someone is dating doesn't mean they can't date other people. There was a time in my life when I dated more than one person at a time, and I didn't consider any of the guys my "boyfriend" and I didn't feel I was cheating on any of them. Maybe when Dee asked Jesse if he had ever cheated on a girlfriend, he really didn't consider her a serious girlfriend, but just someone he was seeing. I don't know.

I have no idea how this will play out, but to me, it's just not that big of a deal even if the girlfriend thing is true. My understanding is that he was made to break up with her, and so I'm gonna say that the producers knew he was seeing someone and made him let her know how far he had gotten on the show, so there wouldn't be a lot of backlash.

FableChild - You might not have a problem with it, but DeDe was very adamant on B11 when she was talking to Brad about the boyfriend who cheated on her and how it broke her heart. We have also seen her and Jenni ask the guys about cheating during this show, so obviously it is an issue with her. I think she would see it as a sign that Jesse was untruthful and not to be trusted (which has also been a big theme in the edit), especially if said GF has to actully be broken up with, which implies that there was some kind of exclusivity agreement between Gf and Jesse - JMH.

[DinD]

Originally Posted by Kresge

He may have.

Misleading both women doesn't necessarily preclude him from developing feelings along the way, but, hopefully, it would preclude him from ending up with either one of them.

If either of the girls were my daughter, I would be "kicking him in the nuts 5 times"!


I don't think Jesse is an evil monster, but I also stand by want I said from the beginning ~ he isn't marriage material (at least not at this point in time).

Jesse may have fallen for Deanna but starting a relationship on a lie is not the way to have a successful relationship.

Funny how his words are coming back to bite him.

[DinD]

Originally Posted by Jammie

I back this 100% as authentic and NOT speculation. I'll even go so far as to say Jesse text messaged Megan on his way to CO telling her he LOVED her and MISSED her and couldn't wait to get back home to be with her. Then, once reaching F2, he broke up via an email with a producer looking over his shoulder.

However, I know you are going to believe what you want. Poor Jesse, it wasn't his fault. It was mean ole Megan's fault.

I hope for Jesse's sake that this will be a life lesson for him and that he can learn from this. I also hope that Megan can learn to trust again also.

[FableChild]

Well, I guess if he is telling the girl he loved her, that is a horse of a different color! Not nice Jesse

[Ryvetted]

I don't get how Megan is the victim.
Megan chose/arranged/allowed for this whole thing happen!
Would any of us trust our boyfriend to go on a dating show (that lasts for weeks) for profit? Let alone, allow it?
I think they got in over their heads and like the other poster said, they didn't realize the weight of the situation and things happened.

[DinD]

Originally Posted by jlccaz

I've posted this before, but bears repeating perhaps. The "show" has a very narrow definition of what it means to NOT be single: Committed and Intimate relationship.

Doesn't mean Jesse was sufficiently candid about his status and availability with Deanna and the GF at any point along the way, but it is interesting to note that boyfriends/girlfriends are not disqualifying.

Here is the eligibility requirement:

All applicants must be single. To qualify as "single" the applicant must not currently be involved in a committed intimate relationship, which includes: any marital relationship (whether or not the parties are separated or currently in the process of divorcing or annulling such marriage); any co-habitation relationship involving physical intimacy.

Thank you for this information. I hadn't got to this post when I asked for this information. Thanks again.

[DinD]

Originally Posted by Ryvetted

I don't get how Megan is the victim.
Megan chose/arranged/allowed for this whole thing happen!
Would any of us trust our boyfriend to go on a dating show (that lasts for weeks) for profit? Let alone, allow it?
I think they got in over their heads and like the other poster said, they didn't realize the weight of the situation and things happened.

Maybe she is a victim with a little "v". I agree she had knowledge of what Jesse was doing but she trusted that he would come back home to her as soon as his stint was over. And no I would not want my boyfriend to be a part of this type of activity. I also agree that they got in over their heads.