Jason **SPOILERS**

[onlyme]

Originally Posted by SkateMom

I guess we could all ask ourselves the same question, "what kind of people are WE who discuss reality tv shows on discussion boards incognito, instead of communicating with people in the real world. We criticize and analyze people we really don't even know.

There's many ways to meet people, online, in bars, personal ads, at work. What works for one may not work for another.

Jason appears to be a dad who cares greatly for his son and while looking out for his son, Jason is entitled to find love for himself as well in whatever way he feels is appropriate.

Whether it's two single people, one divorced, one with kids...we all take a chance on who we date and who we marry and only after years do we know whether we've made the right or wrong decision.

I agree. My take is I don't know Jason or Deanna (only what TPTB want me to know) well enough or long enough to be making judgement calls. Of course the purpose of these boards is to discuss and with that comes opinions that everyone is entitled to state, but for me I try to remember (doesn't always work) that I don't know the whole story and go with that

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[KareyR2]

Originally Posted by snarkattack222

Deanna choosing Jason is a tragedy waiting to happen.

A lot of overly romantic people wanted to ignore the fact that being a stepmom/dad is 85% grief, awkwardness, sacrifice and self denial.

Deanna is not the type to do this. Her rant during the barbecue tells most viewers that she herself is still a child. A child has no business raising another child specially if that child is a product of a union of your boyfriend with another woman. I cannot imagine she'll have a litany of "ya'll breaking my heart" in front of the 3 year old God forbid.

If she had a breakdown like that when she doesnt have to lift a finger for romantic dates and expensive hotel/restaurant reservations what more if Jason asks her to cook a meal for him and his son and Tyler ended up not liking it?...

Is she the type who can give Tyler a bath and wipe his little but when Jason is out working?

Is she the type who can postpone a honeymoon or a dinner date because Tyler is running a fever and he needs his father by his side?

Is she the type who can prepare a birthday party for a child and invite her biological mother to grace the party and watch the dynamic of Tyler's original family while she is busy cleaning up after the child?

Some romantics here who were stepmoms didnt tell us that they have probably regretted their decisions so many times before settling with that kind of situation. Honestly I wouldnt wish that kind of life to Deanna. A divorced man with kids deserve another divorced woman with kids. Deanna is no Mother Theresa... she deserves a passionate, romantic fairy tale like relationship with her husband before she enjoys having children.

She's better off with someone single who will keep her on her toes playing mind games with her and that is Graham.

WELCOME SNARKATTACK Wow, interesting screenname, and first post too!!!! Wow! And you chose to grace us here at Jason's folder to state your case against DeAnna and your case against single, childless women marrying a man with children, and state your case for Grayham being with DeAnna in the last sentence. Well as I said, interesting. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and although I disagree with pretty much every thing you said, I certainly respect your differing opinion from mine. Thanks...you made me go hmmmmmmmmm quite a bit while reading your interesting thoughts.
Karey

[Maidenlady]

Originally Posted by snarkattack222

Deanna choosing Jason is a tragedy waiting to happen.

A lot of overly romantic people wanted to ignore the fact that being a stepmom/dad is 85% grief, awkwardness, sacrifice and self denial.

Deanna is not the type to do this. Her rant during the barbecue tells most viewers that she herself is still a child. A child has no business raising another child specially if that child is a product of a union of your boyfriend with another woman. I cannot imagine she'll have a litany of "ya'll breaking my heart" in front of the 3 year old God forbid.

If she had a breakdown like that when she doesnt have to lift a finger for romantic dates and expensive hotel/restaurant reservations what more if Jason asks her to cook a meal for him and his son and Tyler ended up not liking it?...

Is she the type who can give Tyler a bath and wipe his little but when Jason is out working?

Is she the type who can postpone a honeymoon or a dinner date because Tyler is running a fever and he needs his father by his side?

Is she the type who can prepare a birthday party for a child and invite her biological mother to grace the party and watch the dynamic of Tyler's original family while she is busy cleaning up after the child?

Some romantics here who were stepmoms didnt tell us that they have probably regretted their decisions so many times before settling with that kind of situation. Honestly I wouldnt wish that kind of life to Deanna. A divorced man with kids deserve another divorced woman with kids. Deanna is no Mother Theresa... she deserves a passionate, romantic fairy tale like relationship with her husband before she enjoys having children.

She's better off with someone single who will keep her on her toes playing mind games with her and that is Graham.

I do not think we can judge Dee on a few hours a night tv show . I see a warm loving person and by way you write about her you see a spoil brat who not grown up.I raise a stepson from age 6 up and just this past mothers day he called me to wish me a happy mothers day . I never regreted having my stepson but then I did not look at him as a stepson but as a son .he calls me mom and I called him son we not blood kin but we are kin by bond of love.
he rather talk to me then his mom or even my husband .his dad as he says if he needs to know any thing I find the answer for him . he now grown with teens of his own and I love them and they love me. I join facebook just so I could spend time on it with the granddaughter. give the lady a break she worth the trouble .I sure if she marries Jason he handle any problems that come up with dee & his son . there be lot unmarried people if everyone look at step children like that . I proud to say I know many happy couples with stepchildren .jmo

[Vet_Tech]

I was wondering earlier today, on the 1st episode where Jason is teaching Dee a dance, does anyone know what dance he was trying to teach her?

[BachfanNY]

Originally Posted by Vet_Tech

I was wondering earlier today, on the 1st episode where Jason is teaching Dee a dance, does anyone know what dance he was trying to teach her?

wasn't it swing???

[Alelady]

Originally Posted by snarkattack222

Deanna choosing Jason is a tragedy waiting to happen.

A lot of overly romantic people wanted to ignore the fact that being a stepmom/dad is 85% grief, awkwardness, sacrifice and self denial.

Deanna is not the type to do this. Her rant during the barbecue tells most viewers that she herself is still a child. A child has no business raising another child specially if that child is a product of a union of your boyfriend with another woman. I cannot imagine she'll have a litany of "ya'll breaking my heart" in front of the 3 year old God forbid.

If she had a breakdown like that when she doesnt have to lift a finger for romantic dates and expensive hotel/restaurant reservations what more if Jason asks her to cook a meal for him and his son and Tyler ended up not liking it?...

Is she the type who can give Tyler a bath and wipe his little but when Jason is out working?

Is she the type who can postpone a honeymoon or a dinner date because Tyler is running a fever and he needs his father by his side?

Is she the type who can prepare a birthday party for a child and invite her biological mother to grace the party and watch the dynamic of Tyler's original family while she is busy cleaning up after the child?

Some romantics here who were stepmoms didnt tell us that they have probably regretted their decisions so many times before settling with that kind of situation. Honestly I wouldnt wish that kind of life to Deanna. A divorced man with kids deserve another divorced woman with kids. Deanna is no Mother Theresa... she deserves a passionate, romantic fairy tale like relationship with her husband before she enjoys having children.

She's better off with someone single who will keep her on her toes playing mind games with her and that is Graham.

Wow! It took me a few minutes to gather myself after reading this.

All I have to say to this is that I have specific cases of people who are close to me (my brother, one of my best friends) who had children and got divorced, and eventually married single, childless people, and are very, very happy! Much more so than in their first marriages, in both cases.

I can't imagine judging Deanna like this after only seeing her on TV for a few short hours. We have no idea what else went on during the show that we didn't see. All I can say is that I don't think it is fair to make such general statements and judgements about the situation, because I personally know of two similar scenarios/situations that have worked out very well.

If Jason is as great a man as he appears to be, and if Deanna is as strong and wonderful as she seems to be (nothing wrong with sticking up for herself, IMO), then I wish nothing but the best for them both.

[SkateMom]

Originally Posted by BachfanNY

wasn't it swing???

Yes, as the commercial was ending they show the mansion and you can hear Jason say "does anyone want to learn a quick swing move".

[missdaisy]

I am a romantic stepmom...and I shudder to think what my life would be like if I had dismissed my wonderful husband because he had a child. Once I saw him interact with his child, I was even more impressed with the man! Regretted my decision? Not once!

DeAnna lost her mom at an early age and helped raise her brother and sister. She has a stepmother. I am sure she is aware of the challenges of raising children (Ty or her own) and being a step-parent.

I also think she had plenty of mind games with Brad... and she doesn't want that....with Graham.....

The whole Bachelor/Bachelorette speed-dating ....with cameras running 24/7.... seems stressful! JMO (I know I could not do it!)

ETA: and I am certainly NOT saintly

[Alelady]

Originally Posted by missdaisy

I am a romantic stepmom...and I shudder to think what my life would be like if I had dismissed my wonderful husband because he had a child. Once I saw him interact with his child, I was even more impressed with the man! Regretted my decision? Not once!

DeAnna lost her mom at an early age and helped raise her brother and sister. She has a stepmother. I am sure she is aware of the challenges of raising children (Ty or her own) and being a step-parent.

I also think she had plenty of mind games with Brad... and she doesn't want that....with Graham.....

The whole Bachelor/Bachelorette speed-dating ....with cameras running 24/7.... seems stressful! JMO (I know I could not do it!)

Great post, missdaisy! Congrats on your marriage and your stepson - you sound very happy!! Let's hope that DeJay are as happy as you are!!!

[Larel]

Originally Posted by snarkattack222

Deanna choosing Jason is a tragedy waiting to happen.

A lot of overly romantic people wanted to ignore the fact that being a stepmom/dad is 85% grief, awkwardness, sacrifice and self denial.

Deanna is not the type to do this. Her rant during the barbecue tells most viewers that she herself is still a child. A child has no business raising another child specially if that child is a product of a union of your boyfriend with another woman. I cannot imagine she'll have a litany of "ya'll breaking my heart" in front of the 3 year old God forbid.

If she had a breakdown like that when she doesnt have to lift a finger for romantic dates and expensive hotel/restaurant reservations what more if Jason asks her to cook a meal for him and his son and Tyler ended up not liking it?...

Is she the type who can give Tyler a bath and wipe his little but when Jason is out working?

Is she the type who can postpone a honeymoon or a dinner date because Tyler is running a fever and he needs his father by his side?

Is she the type who can prepare a birthday party for a child and invite her biological mother to grace the party and watch the dynamic of Tyler's original family while she is busy cleaning up after the child?

Some romantics here who were stepmoms didnt tell us that they have probably regretted their decisions so many times before settling with that kind of situation. Honestly I wouldnt wish that kind of life to Deanna. A divorced man with kids deserve another divorced woman with kids. Deanna is no Mother Theresa... she deserves a passionate, romantic fairy tale like relationship with her husband before she enjoys having children.

She's better off with someone single who will keep her on her toes playing mind games with her and that is Graham.

Well is she wants a guy who may break her heart AGAIN........ she should chose Graham!!

Actually I am single never married & have been thinking how I would react at meeting somoeone as wonderful as Jason & learning he has a child & I will totally admit that I am not & never may be ready to have children & yes I am as you say about Dee in you post a little selfish still & like my freedom too BUT for someone like Jason I would defintely make a go of it & try to adapt because if I had a chance with Jason I would grab on & do my damndest to make it work!!