Jason **SPOILERS**

[Katydyd]

Speaking as a single mom, timing is definately important. If the guy doesn't know me well enough already to know I have a child, then that means I don't know him well enough to bring that into the equation either. I'm not talking about a long period of time, but if at the end of a date or two, I know I don't want to see him again, why bring it up? Since Jason has a son, I would think this is a very different process for him than the other guys. If he's half the man he appears to be (and he certainly appears quite the man ), he's not going to stick around if he isn't really into DeAnna. And Blu is right...it's definately not a conversation you can have if the timing is rushed, or if you're unsure about how much alone time you actually have.

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[nhromantic]

I think he was going to tell her, but maybe got a signal that there would be no time just then for discussion. The true 1:1 is a better time to tell her. It was easy to see how nervous he was though, as he well knows Ty could make or break the deal as any single parent dating knows.

I also think it allowed the producers the opportunity to have the convo between Ron and Dee about dating someone who is divorced. We now know that is not an issue for Dee, so it can come down to that if she lets Jason go.

[anders332]

Originally Posted by MissMilano

I think he probably did want to tell her at the Magic Castle, but maybe he knew they would only have a limited amount of time or was afraid one of the other guys would pop in to interrupt. I noticed again last nght, that Jason seems to lead the conversation at least as much as Dee, if not more. The only other one I noticed doing this was Ron. I think this may factor into Dee's attraction for Jason.

When they were at the Magic Castle in the 'secret' (pun intended) room, the other guys had no idea where they were, no one was going to walk in on them. IMO, he should've told her then, it would've taken 3 seconds and he could've followed that by saying something like - I know this comes as a shock to you, so we can talk about it when you've had time to digest it.

[chrisg]

Originally Posted by nhromantic

I think he was going to tell her, but maybe got a signal that there would be no time just then for discussion. The true 1:1 is a better time to tell her. It was easy to see how nervous he was though, as he well knows Ty could make or break the deal as any single parent dating knows.

ITA. He brought up kids with the intention of telling her. He knows that professionally her experience is in real estate and doing some bartending so why would he bring up working with kids without the intention of creating a seque to tell her? He just backed off and the moment was gone. He probably shouldn't have told the other guys first, though. He was spending more time with them so I guess it just slipped out. In the previews, DeAnna's mouth literally drops open when he tells her so I'm glad she didn't hear through gossip before he told her.

[sclilred1]

Originally Posted by anders332

When they were at the Magic Castle in the 'secret' (pun intended) room, the other guys had no idea where they were, no one was going to walk in on them. IMO, he should've told her then, it would've taken 3 seconds and he could've followed that by saying something like - I know this comes as a shock to you, so we can talk about it when you've had time to digest it.

I have to agree with you Anders. I was a single mom for 3 years. During that time any guy that I dated knew right off the bat that I was a single mom BUT they never met my daughter unless I was positive that it was going to be a serious relationship. Jason and his son are a package deal, DeAnna can't have one without the other. Being a father is who Jason is so all the talk about De getting to know him before he mentions it is confusing to me. He had the perfect opportunity to tell her and he didn't. There is something about Jason that I am not sure of at all and I am hoping that De watches herself with this one.

[chrisg]

On another topic, I think--overall--Jason came across much better last night. I thought the first week he seemed a little desperate, pushy and competitive but that seems to have worn off. (In fact, if it weren't for the adorable interactions with Jason and his son in the intro bit of the first show I would have been pretty turned off by him)

But he seems to have calmed down a lot and is a good match for De in many ways. I also really liked--even though it inadvertently set him up for the stalker moment--how he encouraged Twilley to share his feelings with De. It showed what a good hearted guy he is and drew a sharp contrast with Jeremy's competitive and over-the-top pushy display at the rose ceremony.

[shirin]

Can it be all wrong?
Can it be guessing that Jason is the f1 be all just a guess and it appeares wrong?
Can somebody tell me for the last bachelorSBcheloretts,how many times this board made mistake for guessing the F1,or F1/F2?
Please somebody tell me ,I canot wait until the show ends and figure out who F1/F2 is.It is killing me.

[BluIsDixie]

Originally Posted by chrisg

ITA. He brought up kids with the intention of telling her. He knows that professionally her experience is in real estate and doing some bartending so why would he bring up working with kids without the intention of creating a seque to tell her? He just backed off and the moment was gone. He probably shouldn't have told the other guys first, though. He was spending more time with them so I guess it just slipped out. In the previews, DeAnna's mouth literally drops open when he tells her so I'm glad she didn't hear through gossip before he told her.

IMO, I think he brought it up was to find out is she around kids alot and yes, even though she says she wants them, what her reaction if any was towards other peoples kids. The "leave them at home" statement(even though it was made light-hearted), may have been a "kill" to him bringing it up.

One of the guys may have walked by or overheard the conversation he was having with his son, so before he could go any further he nipped it in the bud.

[librarylady]

Originally Posted by pakacat

My own opinion is that Jason should have told DeAnna about his son as quickly as possible, so that if she knew that situation wasn't for her (even though we can assume now from spoilers that she is fine with it), she could cut him quickly before either of them got too attached and so that he could get back to his son as fast as possible.

I think we need to remember that "filming time" is much shorter than real time. While it might look like he doesn't tell her til the following week since it's in the next episode, it might have only been a few days between the Meet and Greet and their one-on-one date.

[chrisg]

Originally Posted by sclilred1

I have to agree with you Anders. I was a single mom for 3 years. During that time any guy that I dated knew right off the bat that I was a single mom BUT they never met my daughter unless I was positive that it was going to be a serious relationship. Jason and his son are a package deal, DeAnna can't have one without the other. Being a father is who Jason is so all the talk about De getting to know him before he mentions it is confusing to me. He had the perfect opportunity to tell her and he didn't. There is something about Jason that I am not sure of at all and I am hoping that De watches herself with this one.

The thing about this, though, is that they've only had a few moments of time together. They haven't even been out on a proper date yet. I say cut him some slack on this. I'm not a single mom, but I don't think someone should have to wear a 'single parent' sign around their neck constantly. If a guy were to date someone for weeks without mentioning it, I'd say that's skeevy and the above is an appropriate reaction but the interactions De and Jason have had--in my mind--haven't qualified as even a FIRST DATE yet.

If someone asks you out, do you immediately tell them--I'm a single parent--or do you at least wait until that first date? Many times, when someone asks you out they know you in a work or social context and would just know that you have kids but this situation doesn't qualify as that. So what would be appropriate if you meet someone at a cocktail party, speak briefly and they ask you out? Just blurt out, I HAVE KIDS! That, to me, seems awkward.