Graham **SPOILERS**

[lalou]

Originally Posted by Kresge

Graham is a hot guy with a good heart, but he is not ready for a serious relationship.........run DeAnna run.

And don't look back! However hot Graham may be, Ellen was quick to pick up on his fears and unreadiness to commit. We women are so often drawn to that, thinking that we will be the ones to "change" the guy. If Deanna is serious about marriage, then she needs to avoid getting serious about Graham.

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[stacerace]

Originally Posted by lalou

And don't look back! However hot Graham may be, Ellen was quick to pick up on his fears and unreadiness to commit. We women are so often drawn to that, thinking that we will be the ones to "change" the guy. If Deanna is serious about marriage, then she needs to avoid getting serious about Graham.

That was the "red flag" for me. He doesn't seem to know what he wants and he's a bit immature. I still don't think his lack of relationship experience has anything to do with that (I stated my own reasons for that in a previous post) but it might be a reflection of his inability or being too afraid to commit.

[Estella]

Originally Posted by mindy384

I'll be honest.. I didnt watch Brad's season but Ive seen a million clips of him and Dee and I swear.. Graham really sounds and kind of 'acts' like him...
anyone else get this impression?
If so, Dee fell in love with this type of guy before right? And wasn't there speculation that they slept together as well (both her and Jeni?)?
thanks!

Heck no... Brad swore a couple of times that he didn't touch any of the girls on the FDs and I think both DeAnna and Jenni denied it as well. I remember Jenni saying in an interview that she didn't sleep with Brad and that she's absolutely sure DeAnna didn't either. If there's any Bachelor whom I believe he didn't sleep with either girl, it's Brad, and I definitely wouldn't believe this guy everything he says.
Graham is exactly DeAnna's type, but I think she realizes throughout the process that Graham isn't right for her. Even Ellen voiced concerns about him already...

[twinnies]

I think it is okay to be totally frustrated with the experience. I think many past "cast members" have confessed that they were totally surprised about how intense the whole thing is. Graham got his 1 on 1 right off the bat and who knows maybe with more time he would have been more at ease but now he is seeing all these other guys getting their time.

I would not be surprised to learn that Graham is one of those people who has tons of friends, both make and female. Sounds as if he was totally into basketball for a long time. I can see him not getting serious with anyone in college if he knew that his plans included playing pro wherever he could.

I certainly don't believe you can fault someone for not going through a string of women (which I think would have been easy for him) and for holding out for the right person and time. Not saying that it is necessarily Deanna though.

I guess I don't fault him for his shyness or being "scared." I do worry that, like Deanna, he may have come into the process with high hopes.

When Carolian GIrl was on here I asked her if he specifically went on the show to meet Deanna but she didn't answer me but I wonder ?

To each his own but I find him totally hot, really sweet, and a great catch. Truely hope he is doing well!

[Bloomers]

Originally Posted by sueb1961

Well I was thinking more like RUN MEN RUN, and fast. IMO DeAnna isn't so hot or that great of a catch. She is way to full of herself IMO. I really think she thinks she is God's gift to men. I think all of these guys could do much better than her. JMO

Whose show did they come on? Did they know that she was going to be the Bachelorette when they signed up to come on the show? It certainly was advertised. If they signed up specifically to be on the show to date just her, could she maybe have a plausible reason to think she is special, or in this particular case "a gift to men" to them? If they could do so much better than her, why haven't they done so already, or why did they waste this much precious time in pursuing her instead of someone better?

It may or may not be true that these contestants can "do better" than the the Bach/ ette when they come on the show, but we hear them say time after time when they are interviewed that they have tried every avenue they can find, and they have been unable to locate the "right" one, or it just hasn't been the right time, etc., so they thought maybe this might be the avenue.

[cupcakes]

One of my many favorite parts on last nights show was when Fred and Graham were sneaking in the dark to surprise DeAnna... It was hilarious! I still think Graham is adorable, but I agree that they are setting him up for his fall at final 4.

Originally Posted by twinnies

When Carolian GIrl was on here I asked her if he specifically went on the show to meet Deanna but she didn't answer me but I wonder ?

I was told he was aware what happened to DeAnna before the show, and went on the show for the right reasons.

[goldie2]

Originally Posted by twinnies

I think it is okay to be totally frustrated with the experience. I think many past "cast members" have confessed that they were totally surprised about how intense the whole thing is. Graham got his 1 on 1 right off the bat and who knows maybe with more time he would have been more at ease but now he is seeing all these other guys getting their time.

I would not be surprised to learn that Graham is one of those people who has tons of friends, both make and female. Sounds as if he was totally into basketball for a long time. I can see him not getting serious with anyone in college if he knew that his plans included playing pro wherever he could.

I certainly don't believe you can fault someone for not going through a string of women (which I think would have been easy for him) and for holding out for the right person and time. Not saying that it is necessarily Deanna though.

I guess I don't fault him for his shyness or being "scared." I do worry that, like Deanna, he may have come into the process with high hopes.

When Carolian GIrl was on here I asked her if he specifically went on the show to meet Deanna but she didn't answer me but I wonder ?

To each his own but I find him totally hot, really sweet, and a great catch. Truely hope he is doing well!

Great post and I agree with you..but I feel alittle different in one way..

I think that Graham did NOT come into this show at all with high hopes of finding true love..probably thought like others it would be fun , a once in a lifetime experience..
probably was completely thrown that he really did develop very strong feelings for her..probably, even maybe, fell in love with her it seems..

I am guessing he did not expect to feel as strongly as he did..given how much more reserved and nervous by the whole process he is..
He probably found himself completely fallen for her and getting upset that she was dating the others..probably not something he is used to at all and would be hard for any guy..previews from next week suggest..

Completely see a strong emotional connection between the two..am so confused by the rumors that he leaves at f4...

[cupcakes]

I agree with DeAnna, I wish Graham would take his shirt off and keep it off! ... I think each of the final 4 guys are attractive in their own ways, but this boy is 'smokin hot'

[albean99]

Count me as one who likes Graham a lot and finds him smoking hot like DeAnna does. So far she's saying she's concerned but it's not showing up in her actions with him. Right now I'm surprised he didn't make it to the f2 because it's so like Meredith's season with Graham being the not ready to commit but hot guy and Jason is the one you should want to pick but is there more guy.

[Capegal]

Next week may be very telling as far as to what happens - or starts to happen between D and Graham. In the previews - there is dissention in the air - him having a hard time with her dating all the other guys .