Graham **SPOILERS**

[hotlanta babe]

Originally Posted by shellys

Or he's been a serial dater who never allows him to get that close to any woman...maybe he ends it before he gets too serious?

Or realizes the woman he's dating is not who he wants to marry and ends the relationship.

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[goldie2]

Originally Posted by Bloomers

I am going to watch very, very carefully. However, I am not convinced that she fell in love with Graham to the extent that when he left at F4, she just settled for someone else. If there really were more indecision like tonight, then the editing will grab hold of it and point it out. If not, it will be like with Amanda where we couldn't tell why Matt really did let her go because it did appear that the chemistry and everything really was there. We will have to watch carefully how Graham is edited. Do they edit doubt? If they do, is it because he gives them something to edit with? That isn't good for a great unrequited love story when he leaves at F4.
Now, if there is no more doubt brought up and they continue to light up the screen ( and he will have to wrap both arms around her in the hammock - that kind of thing), then we can question if the rumors are true and maybe she was left still loving him and having to try to make herself care about some one else.
I think we need to keep a very sharp eye and a very open mind - sleuthers!

she seemed extremely into him tonight,almost looking for a guarantee on their first date that he "would not' hurt her..

She is massively into him..given a 4 week shoot for him,(to th F4 spot),she probably was still heavily into it..
unless she was so protective of her heart..whe wanted the for sure thing,and went with another more openly expressing his love for her,that could guarantee her ending..
JMO

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Originally Posted by CindyBee

Graham is really sexy but there seems to be just something off about him. Dee does seem still smitten so I do like them together.

I also think something is off about him. Maybe he came on the show to just have some fun and put whatever past relationship he had behind him (I have no idea how long ago it was). He could have done this on a whim hoping for an adventure and to stay in the background. (Like that was going to happen )

Possibly, he didn't expect DeAnna to get so intense at this stage and to start with the heavy hitting so early. Which, in my opinion, I think she pushed too early with some of the guys tonight. She's been through this before, but it's all new to them, especially the cameras. Each individual has a different way of handling the start of a relationship, and he might not like how fast she is trying to get to know him.

And, just because DeAnna may be attracted to him, doesn't mean he has to recipricate those feelings.

[pminn1608]

Originally Posted by Bloomers

Notice that he came in and told the other guys that she was going to ask them some tough questions. First, I think that was left in the editing to show that Graham had been unprepared for how deep and personal the questioning immediately went. Second, I think we are being given foreshadowing ( as if we needed it) that DeAnna means business about finding love with her opportunity to the point blank extent that if someone isn't serious he just needs to leave - now!

Why if this is the first time Graham has been with her on a date should he be required to make a decision that he wants to marry her or he needs to leave. That is unrealistic! I certainly would not expect my child to go out one time with someone and come home saying they were getting married. More power to Graham to take his time and determine if in fact she is what he is looking for and even more power if he walked away knowing the feeling wasn't there.

[bamabrain]

To each her own, and I know that DeAnna was very serious about the "process" and about its ultimate outcome.

Hearkening back to previous seasons, I find something "off" about those who on the first episode are already declaring their love, especially if they don't have the power in the situation. I find the participants like Tessa, for example, who express concerns about the process (or who are otherwise a bit uncertain and awkward at the beginning or even skeptical) to be refreshing. As Fleiss has gotten more and more canned, I prefer more and more the seemingly less stock characters.

[Bloomers]

Originally Posted by pminn1608

Why if this is the first time Graham has been with her on a date should he be required to make a decision that he wants to marry her or he needs to leave. That is unrealistic! I certainly would not expect my child to go out one time with someone and come home saying they were getting married. More power to Graham to take his time and determine if in fact she is what he is looking for and even more power if he walked away knowing the feeling wasn't there.

All of this is speculation that Graham had imput ( say so) into his leaving at F4, and this is the editing that would indicate why he leaves. Of course, we probably would never hear him ask to leave, so the editing would have to indicate the reason for his departure; hence, the kind and nature of the above discussion.

[goldie2]

Originally Posted by Bloomers

All of this is speculation that Graham had imput ( say so) into his leaving at F4, and this is the editing that would indicate why he leaves. Of course, we probably would never hear him ask to leave, so the editing would have to indicate the reason for his departure; hence, the kind and nature of the above discussion.

maybe she never fully "let' herself get emotionally bonded to him for fear of his possible rejection..maybe she did guard her heart around him and opened it up to another...I can't see that yet though

[anxieuse]

Originally Posted by goldie2

she seemed extremely into him tonight,almost looking for a guarantee on their first date that he "would not' hurt her..

She is massively into him..given a 4 week shoot for him,(to th F4 spot),she probably was still heavily into it..
unless she was so protective of her heart..whe wanted the for sure thing,and went with another more openly expressing his love for her,that could guarantee her ending..
JMO

I did not see that tonight. Something looks really odd to me. I am sure that Deanna was involved in the casting process, so when she said "I don't want to choose soomeone who would turn around and say thank you for the ride" that seemed very odd to me. Was there something about Graham that made her think that from the start that we did not get to see? And did you see Graham's face when she said that? I think something is not right.

I did not see her that wrapped up with Graham, it was the opposite for me, I thaught Graham was more willing to get closer then she was, she seamed very closed off and guarded to me, so no I did not see the connection the way I saw it in the first episode. I thaught she was very attracted to him in the first episode, where as tonight she was more worried. She knows something about him that we don't obviously.

Well, I had great expectations for this season, but I am affraid it won't be. Let's see what happens.

[theboies]

I'm wondering now if he was suppose to meet up with her for dinner, and instead he sends her this note. After all she is all dressed up. That would be cold hearted but it looks like that is how it plays out.

[Kresge]

Graham seems like a sweet, but reluctant suitor at this point......with Dee being more into him than him into her.

Though, I have to say, that kiss.....complete with lip bite, was smoking hot!!!


Now that we hear the story of his latest girlfriend, and find out it was his first love, I am wondering if THAT is why he ends up leaving. Perhaps, like Br*d, he finds that he has unfinished business at home before he is truly free to move on.