Graham **SPOILERS**

[2observe]

Originally Posted by 2observe

I really do believe that if Graham left on his own, and it wasn't due to a family emergency, then he wasn't readly to propose marriage given the circumstances. Maybe his feelings were not as strong as he would like going into the FDs. I get the feeling that Graham would rather take things much slower than what happens on the show, especially if he was developing feelings for DeAnna. JMO

I posted this prior to the show tonight and I think it still holds true.

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[bamabrain]

Originally Posted by cupcakes

Actually thats how I took his comment. I read it as he has had relationships in the past, but there was only one that was serious enough to move to the next level.

ITA, cupcakes. Personally, that bothers me much less than someone who has "fallen in love" numerous times.

[cupcakes]

Originally Posted by bamabrain

ITA, cupcakes. Personally, that bothers me much less than someone who has "fallen in love" numerous times.

ITA with you bama For me, if someone expressed that they have fallen in love numerous times, it would be a red flag. I think Graham is one who takes "love" seriously, and that is why he has only experienced that once IMO.

[Bloomers]

Originally Posted by shellys

I think it was very telling that during Dee and Graham's date tonight...Dee was talking about the show and the process, and said something along the lines of... if you're not feeling it...just say so and end the process and make it easier on everyone.

I wonder if this comment was left in there for a reason...given the rumors of his departure for "personal reasons".

Bingo! I am thinking that although I don't understand all of the whys and wherefores this is basically what happens and how Graham ends up leaving at F4.
I believe that whole scene may have foreshadowed the F4 to F3 decision.

[goldie2]

Originally Posted by bamabrain

ITA, cupcakes. Personally, that bothers me much less than someone who has "fallen in love" numerous times.

I agree completely....seems like he may be a deep guy who would take falling in love very seriously

[goldie2]

Originally Posted by Bloomers

Bingo! I am thinking that although I don't understand all of the whys and wherefores this is basically what happens and how Graham ends up leaving at F4.
I believe that whole scene may have foreshadowed the F4 to F3 decision.

In that scenerio,I feel bad for the "winner' then ,that if it were his choice to end because he wasn't "feeling it' then deanna would have been upset..right?

[Bloomers]

Originally Posted by goldie2

I agree completely....seems like he may be a deep guy who would take falling in love very seriously

Notice that he came in and told the other guys that she was going to ask them some tough questions. First, I think that was left in the editing to show that Graham had been unprepared for how deep and personal the questioning immediately went. Second, I think we are being given foreshadowing ( as if we needed it) that DeAnna means business about finding love with her opportunity to the point blank extent that if someone isn't serious he just needs to leave - now!

[goldie2]

Originally Posted by Bloomers

Notice that he came in and told the other guys that she was going to ask them some tough questions. First, I think that was left in the editing to show that Graham had been unprepared for how deep and personal the questioning immediately went. Second, I think we are being given foreshadowing ( as if we needed it) that DeAnna means business about finding love with her opportunity to the point blank extent that if someone isn't serious he just needs to leave - now!

I agree,she is very serious about not having another repeat ending,almost to a fault.like one of the guys said tonight,"there are no quarantees and no one is perfect"..

but could it be fate that this time she would have to take that risk again,say for graham,to find real true love and happiness....

[shellys]

Originally Posted by goldie2

I agree completely....seems like he may be a deep guy who would take falling in love very seriously

Or he's been a serial dater who never allows him to get that close to any woman...maybe he ends it before he gets too serious?

[Bloomers]

Originally Posted by goldie2

I agree,she is very serious about not having another repeat ending,almost to a fault.like one of the guys said tonight,"there are no quarantees and no one is perfect"..

but could it be fate that this time she would have to take that risk again,say for graham,to find real true love and happiness....

I am going to watch very, very carefully. However, I am not convinced that she fell in love with Graham to the extent that when he left at F4, she just settled for someone else. If there really were more indecision like tonight, then the editing will grab hold of it and point it out. If not, it will be like with Amanda where we couldn't tell why Matt really did let her go because it did appear that the chemistry and everything really was there. We will have to watch carefully how Graham is edited. Do they edit doubt? If they do, is it because he gives them something to edit with? That isn't good for a great unrequited love story when he leaves at F4.
Now, if there is no more doubt brought up and they continue to light up the screen ( and he will have to wrap both arms around her in the hammock - that kind of thing), then we can question if the rumors are true and maybe she was left still loving him and having to try to make herself care about some one else.
I think we need to keep a very sharp eye and a very open mind - sleuthers!