GREAT post lookinout !!!Originally Posted by lookinout;3068470;1. Nothing against Jason, from what I've been shown, he seems like a great guy but I think it would be a little irresponsible for him to propose to De @ the end of this. It's one thing for De to meet his son and spend a day w/ him but it's a whole other thing to be there day in and day out. I think if he's the F1 they would need to venture out into the real world and really see how the the 3 of them interact b4 any sort of proposal is made. I know De wants a husband but not sure she's ready to be a mom.
2. I don't know if Graham tames De but he certainly challenges her, which is a good thing. W/ Aaron & Helene, Byron & Mary, Meredith & Ian, and even Trista & Ryan (those r the seasons I know best) the F1 didn't exactly make it easy for the person that was doing the choosing. They offered a little bit of challenge and every time the bachelor/ette was w/ the one they eventually chose, there was a difference in the way they behaved as opposed to the way they behaved with the others (something De has admitted herself) It's almost as if the F1s in those cases put the shoe on the other foot w/ the bachelor/ette and I think that's something that's definitely been going on w/ D&G. While nothing should be dismissed b/c it comes along easily, I think that a little bit of conflict, or difference in personality, or way of thinking, is what helps keep the passion going and what is going to keep a relationship interesting 5, 10, 15yrs from now.
3. D&G totally remind me of Meredith and Ian. Matthew was the perfect guy and the on Meredith "should" pick, and Ian seemed genuine but he didn't exactly have his life together/figured out. Ian was complicated and he and Meredith struggled a bit. And while M & M certainly had a connection (I'm beginning to hate that word) it was clear M&I had a stronger, deeper, different connection. Although, I must admit that I was rooting for Matthew. But, looking back on it, I realized I was rooting for him b/c he was such a great guy and not because he was the best match for Meredith.
That's how I see D&G. Their relationship might be a bit more challenging but I believe it is still the best relationship for De, even if it ends some day. At least, like M&I she will have taken the chance and seen what it was like. The way I see it, why choose a relationship w/ someone u have a lesser or more ordinary connection as opposed to someone u have an obvious undeniable chemistry b/c ur afraid of how things might end some day. Some pple never get that so if u find, I think u should ride that wave for as long as u can (the cynic in me is really hating the romantic in me right about now).
I really would luv for De to take a chance on Graham but unfortuantely I don't think that's going to happen. I've prepared myself for it but it doesn't keep a little part of me from hoping there is some twist or that in 6 months we'll find out that they've been seeing each other again.
4. If Graham is in fact gone after this next episode, it will be interesting to see what he has to say on MTA, if he's even there. It's been awhile but isn't the bachelor/ette at the tell all? Seeing them reunite and talk about their relationship should be interesting to say the least.
I really hope De knows what she's doing/has done is comfortable/happy with everything and so is her F1. She, Graham, and Jason all seem like decent pple and I really do just want the best for them.