Graham **SPOILERS**

[angelic_one2002]

Poor poor Robert, then... geesh. I agree. He was the convenient one to take it out on. I mean he only saw what he saw going on, and went in the house...only to get screamed at by Deanna when she had to have someone to take her frustrations out on. Poor guy.

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[emusha]

Originally Posted by Bambie

Deanna wanted to go to the outhouse party because that's where Graham was. Deanna threw a fit at the party because Graham was inside and wasn't trying to spend time with her. She was already upset with him for not kissing her when she wanted it at the race track and she blew up. I don't think it had anything to do with Robert he was just a convenient scapegoat and she needed someone to yell at. Just my take....

I agree with that, but it was so sad their miscommunication because Graham went inside because he couldn't stand to see her being doted on by Jason, Jeremy and the others. I think his VOs said something along those lines and Jason was rolling up her sleeves - exactly when, it seems, graham decided to go inside. I feel him hurting. I think she should try to understand the situation much more than she is now given that she has gone through the process already...+ build some sort of 'trust' like another poster said. graham really needs to open up and tell her exactly how he feels.

What is JU? which article?

[Bonbonlover]

emusha... I agree. I see Graham as hurting and she seems rather callous towards his feelings. She wants the guys to gush over her, but then gets her panties in a wad when Graham feels tinglings of jealousy

[SweetElvira]

Originally Posted by procheervet

I think Graham is acting like a man, what man wants his woman being intimate with other men - what is more manly than being a little territorial?

Then he shouldn't have gone on the show. It's multiple guys until the very end. Either don't do it or don't whine about it once you've committed to doing it. Own it or leave.

[Mike'sgirl]

The trouble with De and Graham is they each want to be pursued. They each want the object of their affection to be crazy about them, chase them; but if neither side does the pursuing - how can it go anywhere? They are both fearful of taking that emotional leap........

[emusha]

Originally Posted by Bonbonlover

emusha... I agree. I see Graham as hurting and she seems rather callous towards his feelings. She wants the guys to gush over her, but then gets her panties in a wad when Graham feels tinglings of jealousy

wow the wording of that! U hit the nail right on the head!
I think that is exactly what she wants. she wants the guy who will do everything for her, tell her he loves her etc. someone to provide her all the comfort,security, attention, care and affection. Kisses, caresses, talking... this desire of hers is very well founded especially after brad! don't we all want that!
I think she really liked that fred, jerry or jason would say 'i am here for you, i want the very best for you.' (tho IMO that's a little manufactured given that the don't know her bfore the show) She is the one with the cards and she is keeping things going HER way. Looking for the charming prince that will sweep her off her feet!...and I really do not blame her, though no guy can maintain that sweeping forever can he??
...I just really wonder if when looking for that doting and attention, she might miss out on a connection with someone who needs as much from her and would be dependent on a give-and-take relationship. I think Graham and hers' feelings for each other are like that, but she, as the card holder, does not tell him she cares for him or she admires this or that about him, he tells her he cares for her and that its painful for him to see her with others...but she does it with the cameras- I guess she doesn't want to lead him on?? but that kinda contradicts her request asking him to dive in with his whole heart... (Matt did a lot of reassuring with Shayne- Matt was an awesome communicator in this regard)

[cape]

Originally Posted by SweetElvira

Then he shouldn't have gone on the show. It's multiple guys until the very end. Either don't do it or don't whine about it once you've committed to doing it. Own it or leave.

I totally agree...it always bothers me when contestants complain about the situation. They knew the format of the show - they knew how things would work. I am sure that watching the show now De can see how obvious it is that Graham was NOT into her!!

[emusha]

Originally Posted by Mike'sgirl

The trouble with De and Graham is they each want to be pursued. They each want the object of their affection to be crazy about them, chase them; but if neither side does the pursuing - how can it go anywhere? They are both fearful of taking that emotional leap........

Interesting comment...it seems actually that with De having the control in this situation, values of 'southern' charm and courting might have completely capsized on Graham... though he has remained a gentleman, even around the men.

[IvoryMist]

Originally Posted by cape

I totally agree...it always bothers me when contestants complain about the situation. They knew the format of the show - they knew how things would work. I am sure that watching the show now De can see how obvious it is that Graham was NOT into her!!

I agree that Graham is not into her...but why in the heck would he say he does not like seeing her with others...is that just a cop-out?

[Ryvetted]

Originally Posted by Mike'sgirl

The trouble with De and Graham is they each want to be pursued. They each want the object of their affection to be crazy about them, chase them; but if neither side does the pursuing - how can it go anywhere? They are both fearful of taking that emotional leap........

ITA!! It seems like that is exactly what was happening!