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I appreciate your concern for the less fortunate. I read that Emily was given a dress that's worth $40,000-$60,000. I wonder if she ever thinks, "that's too much. I will sell the dress, and donate the money to help the less fortunate."Originally Posted by fireflyer
Agreed. I may cut my own hair and file my own nails, but I have my own indulgences (I collect small silver boxes) and I don't know anyone who doesn't have something that they do for their own pleasure, and it always costs something. Buying CDs/DVDs/books, going to the movies, ice cream, going for a drive in the country, playing guitar or drums (strings and sticks cost) - should all money that goes into these pleasures be donated instead?
I don't believe that anyone is saying that. There's a huge difference between buying ice cream or books, going to the movies or for a drive, etc., and focusing most of your money (or other people's money) and attention on beauty and expensive material objects.
What's the difference? How do the thousands of dollars I spend every year on discs and books (and I literally mean thousands) differ from whatever people spend on their appearance? I could borrow books from the library and spend $8 a month for Netflix, but I want to own this stuff for no more important reason than I want to. I still give to charity, but I'm not about to stop pleasing myself. And I'm honestly getting a little tired of the charity guilt-tripping that is so endemic these days. Appearing on a dancing show? They must donate their salary to charity. Won a lottery? Better donate that to charity. The more people try to make themselves feel like a "good" human being by nagging about charity, the sooner the backlash against charity in general will begin.
Just to clarify, my response was to someone saying what's the difference between making a career of spending most of your money on beauty treatments, surgeries and procedures, as well as closetfuls of expensive designer clothes/shoes/bags, and spending some money on yourself for ice cream, movies, books, or an occasional manicure if that's your relaxation/pampering time when you've been working hard all/most of the time.
Here's the thing about judging someone else for the way they spend, it's much easier to judge them harshly when they seem to have way more money at their disposal than we can imagine. Thing is, we only THINK we know how we would live and how much we would give if we were to have those same advantages. You can only truly KNOW when you are actually in the same boat. Might it be nice to have been blessed enough to have been handed those same financial advantages? Most of the time I would not turn it down, but we really don't know everything there is to know about how she lives regardless of what we think we know. I don't know of a single person who lives exactly as I would feel is the most worthy and honest way to live, not even me. Throwing stones is a very dangerous past time even when it's at someone who's put themselves out there for public consumption, so to speak.
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