About the whole "stepkids are baggage" notion, I have a daughter who was married before and has a young daughter. She is now married to a man who was also married before and has a son. She loves her husband VERY MUCH and actually loves her stepson as well but has told me on several occasions how terribly difficult it is. Even in the best of circumstances having step children can be difficult. If you can avoid that kind of drama and stress (with marriage already being hard enough,) why add it in?