I just listened to that segment, and I am trying to be objective.Originally Posted by BlondieGal;3863467;
1. I can see where Tanya has a right to be angry.
2. At the very least, Jake has sent her terribly mixed signals in their relationship.
3. However, he let her know in his actions and words - unequivocably - that he wanted to be The Bachelor. As hurtful as her entire experience with Jake has been to her, right there, his overwhelming desire to be The Bachelor spoke louder than any words of love he could possibly have spoken to her.
4. I listened carefully to the conversations after the FRC. Again, he was sending what sounded like MIXED signals to her. It sounded to her like he was saying that he still loved her.
It sounded to me, however, like the kind of messages the Bachelor starts giving to the F2 where he leads up to the "but" by telling all the good stuff - all the enjoyable times, and what the person has meant to the Bach/ette.
"I never loved you more, ("but)....
It sounded to me like he was trying to work up to telling her about Vienna and what he had done. He was under contract, however, and it was going to be extremely difficult anyway he went about it under any circumstances or conditions. He wasn't free to say what happened, and it was going to be awful to have to tell her he was engaged to someone else.
Notice, he never says to Tanya, " I love you, and I don't love anyone else. There is no one else. I didn't find anyone else." ( Or anything like that)
He didn't say anything like that.
When she caved to a reporter, and it looked like it was going to be outed, by total necessity Jake took the gloves off. By then it was too late to handle it the way it should have been handled.
He acted like they were broken up before he went on the show.
As it stands now, you have a "He says, she says..."
While this looks messy and bad, it still is not as bad as it was hyped up to be. The producers and the show aren't marred, and Jake doesn't look even as bad as Ed did last season.
I think these guys should never come on the show unless they are in a clear relationship. That way there is no excuse for having to call or text someone when they end up as F1 to try and take care of unfinished business.
Jake behaved poorly in that relationship, but revenge is a poor bedfellow as the saying goes. The money, the notoriety, and the revenge will only go so far to assuaging Tanya's dissatisfaction.