I'm probably "middle of the road" in terms of age (mid-30's) and I can take a stab at why some (not all) within my age group don't like Jake. (And for the record, I did like him the first night. He was good looking, respectful and invested in Jillian. It was starting with the 1:1 that he started giving me the heebie-jeebies.) I think that Jake's "perfectness" is two-fold: on one hand, he really is perfect looking, driven in life, goes to church, just an all round nice guy. If the perfectness just stopped there, and there were other sides to his personality, then I would be fine with him. But, on the other hand, his perfectness is something he appears to be working for, something that is ingrained in his self-image, and that he will protect at all costs. He is so invested in always "doing the right thing" that he is allowing that image to drive his personality. He therefore watches his words, doesn't seem to let loose for fear of looking goofy/stupid, and doesn't seem to have a sense of humor about life. The frustrating thing about watching Jake is not that I think he is putting on a "perfect" act, it's that there's just not much more beyond his perfectness. I could also go into a whole discussion about how he treated Jillian like a little lady who needs to be protected instead of an equal partner, but I digress.Originally Posted by french dip;3670715;
I think the thing with my "middle of the road" age group is that we are relatively independent women who don't need someone to take care of us, and are looking for a life partner not a father/big brother. In that sense, we want someone who we can dance goofy with at weddings, who we can wake up next to and have bad breath and no makeup on and not feel self-conscious, who will still be with us if we gain some weight, who won't make us feel guilty for throwing a temper tantrum and cursing when our computer freezes or we burn dinner, who won't judge us if we have a little too much to drink at our high school reunion, and most importantly who will laugh with us. I'm not saying that Jake couldn't be that life partner for someone, but he just doesn't seem to be the type that fits the mold I described above.
This is all JMHO.