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    Re: Bachelor 11 Aftermath Media Thread

    I almost hesitate to post this, but I did honestly find it an interesting read.

    A Former "Bachelorette" Weighs In On "The Bachelor" Finale Of No Proposals

    Posted November 21, 2007 | 01:49 PM (EST)
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    On Monday night, an old friend sent me a message asking if I'd watched the finale of The Bachelor and to find out what I thought about this season's star, Brad Womack, not choosing either woman in the end. To be honest, I haven't really kept up with the show (I was on The Bachelor in 2003 and was The Bachelorette in 2005) but I knew little things about Brad from reading magazines and seeing commercials (he was hyped as the "millionaire" Bachelor). But given that the show has almost always ended with some kind of relationship -- the one exception: when I turned down two proposals on The Bachelorette -- I was surprised to hear he had walked away a single man. And I was even more surprised by the fallout . . . or lack thereof.

    In the two days after the finale, there haven't been many major headlines about the show. An MSNBC.com article critiqued the outcome, EW.com interviewed the show's creator (he's not happy), and the New York Daily News focused on how viewers felt they were duped by ABC, who promoted the finale as if Brad found his wife. However, the overall coverage has been nothing compared to the negative press I personally received after announcing I didn't want to be with any of the guys I met on the show. Brad faced some criticism from the female participants and host Chris Harrison on the "After the Final Rose" show on Tuesday night, but as of yet, I haven't seen much denouncing him as a jerk (or whatever the male equivalent of a bitch is) or proclaiming he made the biggest mistake of his life and that he'd be single forever. In other words, he's been treated a lot differently than I was when I decided to leave the show a single woman.

    I'm not here to say "poor me." What I'd rather point out is how, when it comes to relationships and breakups, society treats women and men very differently. Look at celebrities like Jennifer Aniston and Jessica Simpson: When they split with their husbands, they received the majority of the negative publicity. People asked what kind of fool was Jennifer that she'd let Brad Pitt go. Critics claimed she was selfish and career-driven and wouldn't give him the kids he wanted, and reasoned it was no wonder he dumped her. As for Jessica, she was deemed too bratty and too wild and other adjectives that explained why it "made sense" that Nick Lachey could no longer live with her. For the most part, the guys were blameless (even Pitt, whose close relationship with Angelina Jolie called his fidelity into question). Brad and Nick walked away from their marriages with their reputations in tact. In the public eye, they've been forgiven for whatever role they played in the breakups. The women, on the other hand, have been portrayed as "needy" or "pathetic." The public worries they'll be single forever -- as if that's worse than being stuck in an unhappy marriage.

    Die-hard Bachelor fans (not to mention ABC) may be mad at Brad Womack for wasting their time and not delivering a happy ending, but I can bet he won't be walking around with a stigma of being "too hard to please." That's what people think when a woman chooses not to be with a "perfect" guy -- as if good looks and money are all she needs. For some reason, it's more acceptable for a man to turn down a woman than it is for a woman to reject a man. There's a fear that she may never meet anyone again -- and then what will become of the poor thing?

    No one seems to be concerned about Brad's future -- except, maybe, the women he didn't choose. On the Tuesday night show, they were still complaining that he didn't give them a chance, that they could have been happy together, and that his actions were unfair. What would have been more unfair is if Brad wasn't honest with himself - or them - and continued a relationship (let alone proposed) when he felt it wasn't right.

    After 11 seasons of The Bachelor and three seasons of The Bachelorette, only two couples are still together. Maybe there hasn't been so much public backlash against Brad because, at this point, viewers have come to expect these romances will fail. But I give Brad a lot of credit for not playing into the fantasy the show creates. What's funny -- and what I learned the hard way -- is that it's difficult for people (and especially Bachelor viewers) to buy the idea that men and women don't always like each other. It's entirely possible to meet 25 beautiful women (or 25 handsome men) and not fall in love with any of them . . . in a matter of six weeks . . . in isolation . . . with cameras all around. It doesn't mean the person is too picky (nor does it mean they are gay -- a rumor Brad has had to shoot down), it just means they would rather be on their own than in a relationship with the wrong person. A sentiment I completely agree with.

    So to answer my friend's question: When I wrote my book, Better Single Than Sorry, last year, my message was that women need to stand up for themselves - and each other - and tell the world that it's better to be single than in an unfulfilling relationship. I still believe that, and Brad showed us that notion applies to men, too. If we could truly started living this vision, maybe then society will realize there is nothing foolish about wanting to wait for the right person rather than making something work for the sake of being in a relationship. Or worse, for the sake of a TV show.

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    Re: Bachelor 11 Aftermath Media Thread

    I personally don't give 2 hoots what Jen says about anything since she broke Jerry's heart but thought I would post it anyway.........

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    Jen Schefft, who turned down two proposals on The Bachelorette in 2005, defends Bachelor Brad Womack’s rejection of two female finalists—but sees a double standard at work.

    “It’s entirely possible to meet 25 beautiful women (or 25 handsome men) and not fall in love with any of them . . . in a matter of six weeks . . . in isolation . . . with cameras all around. It doesn’t mean the person is too picky … nor does it mean they are gay.” Schefft writes on The Huffington Post. “It just means they would rather be on their own than in a relationship with the wrong person. A sentiment I completely agree with.”


    But Schefft, whose book Better Single Than Sorry was published last year, questions the lack of a public backlash against his decision “compared to the negative press I personally received after announcing I didn’t want to be with any of the guys I met on the show.”

    “I haven’t seen much denouncing him as a jerk…or proclaiming he made the biggest mistake of his life and that he’d be single forever,” she writes. “When it comes to relationships and breakups, society treats women and men very differently.”

    Offering Jennifer Aniston and Jessica Simpson as examples of women who “received the majority of the negative publicity” in their divorces from Brad Pitt and Nick Lachey, Schefft writes that the men “walked away from their marriages with their reputations intact.”

    “In the public eye, they’ve been forgiven for whatever role they played in the breakups,” Shefft writes. “The women … have been portrayed as ‘needy’ or ‘pathetic.’ The public worries they’ll be single forever—as if that’s worse than being stuck in an unhappy marriage. For some reason, it’s more acceptable for a man to turn down a woman than it is for a woman to reject a man.”

    With only two couples still together after 11 seasons of The Bachelor and three of The Bachelorette, “viewers have come to expect these romances will fail,” Schefft suggests. “But I give Brad a lot of credit for not playing into the fantasy the show creates.”
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    Thanks for the two interviews with Jenni! She looked radiant and happy!

    It's great to hear she is doing fine with her ex!
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    Re: Bachelor 11 Aftermath Media Thread

    Who is Jenni's ex? Is he a football player?

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    Jenni was dating a guy named Russell when she was with the Dallas Cowboys. She quit the Cowboys to move to Florida with him where she danced for the Miami Heat for a year. He moved to Phoenix and she followed in 2006 when she began dancing with the Phoenix Suns. Evidently she has rekindled that relationship.
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    Re: Bachelor 11 Aftermath Media Thread

    I'm guessing DeAnna is laying low, and not doing any interviews. Can't blame her much

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    so wonderful to hear how great jenni is doing. and do i owe that woman and her fans the biggest apology in the world. i was just so impressed with her on monday night, and especially tuesday night. jenni was a total class act, and had so much more depth than i ever gave her credit for. she was so much more than a laugh and a giggle, and i wish i could have seen that throughout the show. i am so thrilled, she has been able to move on back to russell, and find love again. she deserves to be treasured...i pray he does.

    deanna...where are the interviews with deanna. she was to me the one who seemed to me to be more invested and emotionally connected, and sadly affected and devastated by brad's cruel and callous actions, choices and demeanour. i would really love to hear from her as well in an interview or from friends or family, that she is ok. she will bounce back again too...i just think not as quickly. i pray someone will come here with info. i am so worried about her. thanks
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    Re: Bachelor 11 Aftermath Media Thread

    Quote Originally Posted by KareyR2;2686767;

    deanna...where are the interviews with deanna. ...sadly affected and devastated by brad's cruel and callous actions... i pray someone will come here with info. i am so worried about her....
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    Jenni seems nice and all that but I still say, and the radio interview confirmed it for me, that she was a producer's tool. She and her boyfriend broke up in December?? Yet, he picked her up at the airport from The Bachelor filming and said the 6 weeks she was away were the longest 6 weeks of his life. What about the 6 months they were supposedly broken up? She only went on the show for her career and her wish her well and truly hope she gets more offers, etc. Interestingly enough Brad was right. He knew Jenni did not love him, he was probably just stunned that a girl would go on national TV reading from a so called journal, expressing love. I think he began to question the whole process, second guess himself, and copped out. I'm not sure about Deanna's heart not being hurt, to me she looked like a woman sincerely in love, unlike Jenni.

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    Re: Bachelor 11 Aftermath Media Thread

    DD would be a horrible bachelorette imo, she can come off as bitchy and i dont think that would play well.

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