I think I get it.Originally Posted by ldcook77;2415627;
I posted last week that if you look at the entire picture ... or at least what Fleiss shows us ... Andy, in my opinion is a caretaker type. I'm not saying that because he's a Physician, I think that's his personality type. Along comes beautiful Bevin who after catching his eye, busts her
buttankle "for him". He said on the boot camp episode that she did it for him. Bevin seems a very dependent personality to begin with, and now we have this injured waif, with a needy (to him) back-story. So he gets hooked on taking care of her because that's his personality. The chemistry skewed things and kind of fooled him into thinking it was something different. Andy's type of guy thinks he can "fix" all that troubles her and by the way, so does she. Even telling her he loved her was taking care of her because it was what she needed at the time. He even felt compelled to say it to her at the FRC. It was no different than putting a band-aid on a cut. Their connection is known in psycho-babbling circles as co-dependency.
Tessa on the other hand is a bright social worker, who I am certain recognized the Andy/Bevin dynamic for what it was and handled the situation perfectly. Tessa during their times together helped him take care of himself instead of Bevin ... she made him smile, laugh until he got side stitches, gave him "secret sweets" Peppermint Patties and in doing so became the antithesis to his relationship with Bevin, and very importantly his respite from the care giving.
Andy said it himself ... Tessa touched his heart more deeply. What he didn't say is she touched his heart in a different way. While Bevin's needs revealed differences, Tessa just let him be himself and revealed herself and their commonalities.
Just my opinion and I hope looking at it this way helps.
Originally Posted by happysammy;2416060;
I would suspect that Tessa knew the reason, which was because Bevin needed to hear it at the time. I suspect there is no problem. Andy couldn't very well say publicly that he felt sorry for Bevin becaiuse that would be unkind and would crush her again and grind her into the ground. Andy's not that sort. In time, Bevin will see it for what it was, maybe she already does ... she's no dummy. She has said she respects his decision, and will also in time see that their "connection" was different than what it seemed.