Bevin - Bachelor 10

[Jexter]

I liked Andy ALOT!!! I think he was probably one of my favorite bachelor's ever (along with Charlie).

Still, he was WAY too physical with the girls. I might even say that he was very clingy and invaded the girls' personal space. I sensed that this made many of them feel uncomfortable.

I do think he was a bit overboard with his enjoyment of the process.

Yeah, it'll be interesting to see if he and Tessa last. I kind of don't think so.

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[aphijess]

I was on myspace last night and noticed that Bevin (her fanpage) added "andyandtessa" as a friend. Does anyone know if Bevin herself owns that page? It seems like it with all the pictures and details about herself.

[angelic_one2002]

Originally Posted by luvlady345

But why is it soooooooo easy to believe that what Bevin is saying is true? IF Andy did tell Bevin he loved her much earlier why in the world would she believe it? Bevin is not some 16 year old girl who has not had any life experiences, she should go back and recall her advice to Amber regarding age this make NO sense...It's to easy for her to say anything now, because who is going to refute what she is saying....Playing too much of the victim now...

The better question is - why should she not believe Andy??? If you were in this show yourself seeking love with the bachelor, and had fallen for him, wouldn't you believe him if he told you that he loved you? He had gone into this show stating that he was definitely looking for marriage..so his "i love you's" should not have been anything but true. There were plenty of moments also, that we didnt get to see of time spent together..Andy said on the ATFR show, that there were hours together not shown. So the girls would think all the more that he was being truthful when he said he loved them. It's not like they didnt spend time together, and didnt know one another. They did know each other. He spent time with each. His declaration of love should have meant something.

[natashapierre]

Originally Posted by lildago

I'm curious to know when he said this. I mean, how long were they there? Six weeks? If he told her he loved her that soon, it should have been a big red flag to her. Call me a cynic.

Well, it had to have been under six weeks, and well under, in fact, since the whole thing didn't last much longer than six weeks, did it?

[pminn1608]

Originally Posted by natashapierre

Well, it had to have been under six weeks, and well under, in fact, since the whole thing didn't last much longer than six weeks, did it?

It should have been a big flag to Tessa as well since it was only six weeks.

[angelic_one2002]

Well then, it should be a red flag to Tessa, as well. He told them both he loved them.

[girlsmom]

The bottom line is that the show has been over for four months for Bevin. It's time for Bevin to let go and go on with her life. Worse things have happened to people in that time span. They did to me and I'll bet they did to a huge number of our FORT friends. Going on with class and dignity is the best revenge, if revenge is warranted.

[ASassyKat]

Originally Posted by angelic_one2002

The better question is - why should she not believe Andy??? If you were in this show yourself seeking love with the bachelor, and had fallen for him, wouldn't you believe him if he told you that he loved you? He had gone into this show stating that he was definitely looking for marriage..so his "i love you's" should not have been anything but true. There were plenty of moments also, that we didnt get to see of time spent together..Andy said on the ATFR show, that there were hours together not shown. So the girls would think all the more that he was being truthful when he said he loved them. It's not like they didnt spend time together, and didnt know one another. They did know each other. He spent time with each. His declaration of love should have meant something.

Excellent post, Angelic_one.

The info about Andy was released early, per his request, so that the women would all know that he was there with a serious intent to find a lifemate. If he told Bevin he loved her, multiple times I might add, and then asked her to trust him, then his actions are unacceptable. Period.

He should not have passed out the ILY's if he was not completely sure of the F1.

If I found out that the man who had just proposed to me had been telling another woman the he loved her, I would have a hard time buying that he truly loved me.

I hope for Tessa's sake that he truly does, because she is a lovely woman who deserves 100% from a mate.


Also, I'm not sure why one would automatically not believe Bevin. She has given us no reason to doubt what she had to say. She was there, we were not, so I take her word for it when she tells us what actually went down.

[Schooner]

Originally Posted by luvlady345

....Playing too much of the victim now...

I agree.

And sorry, but I cannot get over her having those pics of her and Andy as her pic on myspace. The pic is the one you put of yourself, or representative of yourself...why oh why would you put a pic of yourself with a guy who not only dumped you, but is engaged to someone else.

Tacky, Tacky, Tacky!

[natashapierre]

Originally Posted by angelic_one2002

If you're not going to believe the person you end up falling in love with on this show, then what does trust mean? Trust and honesty to me, mean everything.

He was the first we heard say "I love you" but "trust me" or the like is frequently uttered on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, and they almost always show it being uttered to somebody who gets dumped in the final two or three. Sometimes they show them saying something like this when they already know exactly who they're going to pick, which I don't think was the case this time.

I think what the stars tend to mean by it is -- Trust me that I will honestly try to do the thing that feels right to me .... And they're not kidding about that -- it's just that what feels right to the B/Bette isn't necessarily going to feel good at all to the other person.

There's a level of inevitable self-absorption about being the lead on this show that leads to all kinds of crap like this, seems to me. ... I would think that now that we're in double-digit seasons of it, everybody who consents to going on would realize it. ... I think Tessa realized it, and that's partly why she was so hesitant. She knew the risk of getting sort of half-inadvertently played and she was scared of it. I'm actually surprised that Bevin took his words so seriously, given how early he apparently said them and given that she's old enough to have some experience. After all, I'm sure that she and her husband said "I love you" and "Please trust me" and the like to each other quite a bit, and none of that love and trust panned out either. I guess when you get caught up in your own growing emotions, though, you forget all this stuff. Why do I watch this show?