Bevin - Bachelor 10

[Arielflies]

With my sincere apology to Don McLean for this abuse of his wonderful lyrics for "(Bye, Bye Miss) American Pie", "Vincent" and "Crying".

Paint your palette red and gold
Catch the breeze and hair that blows
In colors on the white-washed deck
I don't understand what you said to me.

Swirling clouds in violet haze
Colors changing hue
You could not love me
Still my love was true.

Then you said so long
Left me standing all alone
Now you're gone
And from this moment on
I'll be crying over you.

Bye, bye miss american pie
I took my heart to the deck
But the deck was dry.
Andy and Tessa drinkin' beer in a toast
The day my heart broke.

I truly hope this past couple months, Bevin has been able to find her strength and heal her wounds. It was a pleasure to watch a woman of free spirit let down barriers and allow in a spark of hope that love would be returned in full and in kind. The anguish in her eyes, the shock and despair was too much to bear. Being struck mute by the emotional overload was the only response she could give, and I was mute with her.

Thank you, Bevin for allowing us a small glimpse into your life.

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[fanoffort]

I appreciated Bevin's transparency--I liked how what you see is what you get with her. I'm sorry Fleiss used that personality trait against her in the early edit of this show. She has nothing to be ashamed of. I hope most viewers saw in the end that she really is a quality person. Bevin, if you ever read this I hope you find a man who appreciates and loves you with the same intensity you love him. I wish you the best.

[cafegirl]

Originally Posted by Bonbonlover

Wondering why everyone is so certain that Bevin went out with class? Is it because she didn't yell at him? I really thought she was biting her tongue because she wanted to yell, but ouch, not on TV. Was her being silent and not saying a word, classy? was it classier than, say Sadie who told Lorenzo that he was a wonderful man and hoped for nothing but happiness for him? Was it classy because it was not filled with the same 4-letter words as Amber used?

Bonbonlover, I guess you and several of us have a different perception of "classy" and that's fine, because there are many interpretations. (I'll edit this to add that I saw marleybone call it dignity and that's a great description as well )
However, I'll just state my interpretation. Someone who is classy in this context of Bevin and how she handled the Final Rose Ceremony and the follow-up rejection, to me, is a person who can find strength from within. Who was able to hear a person whom she had fallen in love with, who only two days before, told her he loved her, reverse the hopes she had built up and defensive walls she had allowed to crumble enough to be vulnerable through faith in what she felt they had together and still accept the rejection with as much graciousness as her heart would allow. Class was being able to hold your head up and not allow first impulse words that would represent the devastation of the moment and possibly a rambling of emotions w/o being able to clarify to herself and rectify to herself what happened and why, without hurting back the person who had just hurt you. Even if Andy's was a forced situation of "do it now because you're working with our time frame, Fleiss instigated requirement", the words still had to rip her heart because there was no way Andy could really explain away on TV what struggles he had gone through, or rectify in that moment how he could love her and Tessa.

As for who is classier, I personally don't see how we can compare the hearts and thoughts at the moment of each rejection to a blanket check list of what's classy and what isn't. Because Sadie said words of respect for Lorenzo and wanting him happy does not (to me) make her rejection any less or more dignified than the way Bevin handled hers with silence. We have two different people with totally different circumstances and personalities who each handled their situations with behavior that many of us respected and definitely consisted 'classy"!!

[hardamber]

I hope Bevin reads these heartfelt messages. I cried so hard I was sobbing last night. I hope Bevin has a network of friends and family around her to comfort her. It's too bad she had to keep playing the game and act as though her world was just hunky dorey and all along she was suffering rejection.

This is a cruel show. It is not a sport to watch. I'm not sure if I can watch it anymore. Fleiss needs to seriously change it so the rejected one doesn't have to suffer. I liked how Charlie controlled it to some degree and refused to put the one he didn't chose through that humiliation.

[PaulNYC]

Yeah. What Andy Baldwin did to Bevin was cruel.
The night before he dumped her, he said... quote...
"I'm in freakin' love with you."
Yes, go back and watch. He used the word 'freakin'.
Baldwin, you're a small man in deed.
Anyway, Bevin is too hip and cool for that stiff military nerd.

[angelic_one2002]

This show IS cruel in that it allows or suggests that the bachelor/ette string along two women or men at once, and tell them each that they love them...etc. Yes, Bevin left the show with CLASS and dignity. She's a bigger better person for it, too. Some luckiER man will come along andappreciate her tenderness, caring, and all of her deep-felt compassion and passion she has to offer. She couldnt have handled herself any better than she did while Andy was still holding her and caressing her. The man was clearly VERY confused..still up to that point, which is quite sad for Tessa. I'm glad Bevin just stood there and had nothing more to say to him. what did he expect her to say??? Beg him?? She has her dignity. Let her rise above all this, and find better.

[lopevian]

Oh Bevin, I hated to see you so hurt, but I was very relieved for you at the same time. You dodged a major dullsville bullet there darlin'. The reason this keeps happening to you "over and over", is because none of those other guys were your soul mate. He's out there, and he'll be your dream come true. Best wishes to you!

[gardenia36]

Originally Posted by lopevian

Oh Bevin, I hated to see you so hurt, but I was very relieved for you at the same time. You dodged a major dullsville bullet there darlin'. The reason this keeps happening to you "over and over", is because none of those other guys were your soul mate. He's out there, and he'll be your dream come true. Best wishes to you!

I love this board. People are so nice and reasonable. Over on the ABC board, posters get rude and obnoxious beyond belief. Thanks Fort folks. Enjoyed watching the show with you.

[Cleocatra]

Originally Posted by PaulNYC

Yeah. What Andy Baldwin did to Bevin was cruel.
The night before he dumped her, he said... quote...
"I'm in freakin' love with you."
Yes, go back and watch. He used the word 'freakin'.
Baldwin, you're a small man in deed.
Anyway, Bevin is too hip and cool for that stiff military nerd.

Great post PaulNYC!.... I agree completely!

[21longhorngal]

I felt really bad for her last night because he told her he loved her and then rejected her. I would hate to have my heart broken like that but when you go on that show you have to remember that there are other women involved.