Bevin - Bachelor 10

[sueb1961]

Originally Posted by bevorules

I guess we will never see eye to eye on this issue. I think Andy is 100% in love with Tessa and is only committed to her right now. The process dictates that he date with/be in the moment with multiple women and in that moment for whatever reason he chose to say that he "loved" Bevin. Some were angry or disappointed thinking he was stringing Bevin along, I saw it differently. The moment was solumn almost somber and akward and I thought at the time that he was saying goodbye to her in a subtle way. I definitely see it that way now that we have Bevin's comments on those last couple of days. I think is one where we will just have to agree to disagree.

Yes, I don't think we will ever agree on this. The problem I have is the ILY's and I don't think for one minute is was letting her down. I really do think we were shown different versions of the show. Mine showed a major connection with Bevin and Andy. He sure has an odd way off letting someone down easily. I love you should not be a part of that IMO. And if that was just as a friend I really don't get it. You don't tell someone as a friend you loved them, and make out with them like he did. That is not a friend ILY. Nor is it a way to let someone down easily. I sure would not feel comfortable having my daughter in that position, or myself. So wrong as far as I am concerned.

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[DoodleBug]

Originally Posted by angelic_one2002

In my opinion though, he wasn't told to tell any one woman..let alone TWO women that he loved them. I just don't like it very well when the words "i love you" are taken that lightly, I guess. Part of his game or not, he shouldn't have told another he loved them, if his heart indeed was with Tessa.
Tacky..very tacky.

Handy Dandy Andy was more than tacky. I don't believe there has ever been a bachelor or bachelorette that crossed as many lines as the Tool. He liked to tango with Bevin and he was not fighting her off even up until the final date. In fact there for a minute in the helicopter I tought he really was going to grab the wrong place ,but he tickled her chest just like he did Tessa. I am telling you this Tool only has some many lines and so many moves

[ASassyKat]

Originally Posted by bevorules

I guess we will never see eye to eye on this issue........I think is one where we will just have to agree to disagree.

I agree. We will never see eye-to-eye on this issue, and that's okay. We don't need to do so. I feel we just need to respect each person's opinion and their right to have it whether we agree with it or not.

[sueb1961]

I think I could probably handle the ILY's to both women if he truely meant them. I think for me its how he handled it afterwards. I truely believed he loved both women. I just don't like how he said he said it as a friend. I do not buy that one bit. I would have more respect if he would just admit it. Yeah I loved both women but had deaper feelings for Tessa. That I could respect. I also feel that if he did love both women or was so unsure he should have handled it like Charlie did and dated in the real world first and then propose.

[bevorules]

Originally Posted by ASassyKat

I agree. We will never see eye-to-eye on this issue, and that's okay. We don't need to do so. I feel we just need to respect each person's opinion and their right to have it whether we agree with it or not.

I totally agree on respecting other's viewpoint as your opinion is everybit as valid as mine if not more so. I have also been know to change my mind or heart a time or too by a well backed up opinion of someone that sees something differently than I do. As to Bevin, I wish her only the best. She is beautiful, smart etc and should be happy and hopefully there is someone out there for her to find to grow old with. It just isn't Andy for whatever reason. I didn't see a strong connection between her and Andy on any level deeper than a strong physical attraction, which I think was cooling off a bit in the last couple of dates. He and Tessa's connection was on all levels and continued to grow as the process proceeded. Their last couple of dates sizzled and sparked especially their overnight date. I wish they would release a DVD of the season to go back over every moment, both the ones we saw (I know that they are already available) and the ones we didn't (only can get this if they release w/DVD) to see these moments again knowing what we know now. It would be interesting to see if there were things missed that would have shown more of the heating w/Tessa, cooling w/Bevin and if there was more to the "I love You" comments in either case. It would definitely be worth a second look, on part of both sides with an open mind to see if maybe we were wrong. Just a thought. Hey, have a great day and happy summer.

[Lifeisgood2]

Originally Posted by sueb1961

I think I could probably handle the ILY's to both women if he truely meant them. I think for me its how he handled it afterwards. I truely believed he loved both women. I just don't like how he said he said it as a friend. I do not buy that one bit. I would have more respect if he would just admit it. Yeah I loved both women but had deaper feelings for Tessa. That I could respect. I also feel that if he did love both women or was so unsure he should have handled it like Charlie did and dated in the real world first and then propose.

Did he ever say it was just as a friend I love you? I know he said it was on a different level. He said he did love Bevin and care about her but that he was in love with Tessa. IMO, I never really felt like Bevin was in love with him either. They had a strong physical connection, there is no denying that but I always felt like she loved him but didn't seem to be in love with him. Again, just my opinion.

I would love to see footage that we saw and didn't see, to see the whole story unfolding there on both sides. We will never know what we didn't see and we know they edit it to show us want they want us to see.

[luvlady345]

Originally Posted by sueb1961

I think I could probably handle the ILY's to both women if he truely meant them. I think for me its how he handled it afterwards. I truely believed he loved both women. I just don't like how he said he said it as a friend. I do not buy that one bit. I would have more respect if he would just admit it. Yeah I loved both women but had deaper feelings for Tessa. That I could respect. I also feel that if he did love both women or was so unsure he should have handled it like Charlie did and dated in the real world first and then propose.

This was a REALITY show, so I don't put much stock into the him being a player because of what was done on this show.......This guy has lived a life for 30 years and there has not been much said about him about being a player... Considering that he is in 2 high profile careers where you are treated like a rock star in both...Being a physician you have women throwing themselves at you, and being in the military women come out of the woodwork to try to be with you ( I know because my husband was in the service)...Should he have told Bevin ILY in hindsight probably not, does that make him a player in REAL life probably not........

[ASassyKat]

I think a lot of Bevin fans saw more than just a physical connection. I feel their connection was much deeper than just lust, otherwise Andy's mother would not have picked up on it during Bevin's visit.

She commented on it, so it must have been obvious enough to her, and the grandmother, that there was something deeper between them.

I didn't see a deep connection with Andy and Tessa. I saw Andy chasing after the unsure/hesitant woman. The thrill of the chase, if you will. So yes, we all have differing opinions on what we saw.

[angelic_one2002]

Originally Posted by ASassyKat

I think a lot of Bevin fans saw more than just a physical connection. I feel their connection was much deeper than just lust, otherwise Andy's mother would not have picked up on it during Bevin's visit.

She commented on it, so it must have been obvious enough to her, and the grandmother, that there was something deeper between them.

I didn't see a deep connection with Andy and Tessa. I saw Andy chasing after the unsure/hesitant woman. The thrill of the chase, if you will. So yes, we all have differing opinions on what we saw.

ASassyKat - You and I must have been watching the same Bachelor show, because that's exactly what I saw happening, too. I saw a man not able to keep from touching Bevin, and he just beamed at her when his eyes met hers, to a man who crushed her hopes and dreams when he let her go the night of the frc. She was devastated, and rightfully, so.

[sueb1961]

Originally Posted by angelic_one2002

ASassyKat - You and I must have been watching the same Bachelor show, because that's exactly what I saw happening, too. I saw a man not able to keep from touching Bevin, and he just beamed at her when his eyes met hers, to a man who crushed her hopes and dreams when he let her go the night of the frc. She was devastated, and rightfully, so.

Yes, that was the show I was watching also. I agree with you both on this.

I would also love to see the unedited versions of at least the f2. I know I seen more than just lust between Bavin and Andy. I didn't see much of anything with Tessa and Andy except her reluctance. Maybe with the unedited version I would.