Here is what my perception is telling me.....Tenley was put up to that lame attempt at humor by a prompt from a producer. Now we all know that they do it, and we all know that most of the attempts are meant to come out as dramatic.
I have long, long suspected that somebody on the staff (producer, staff psychologist?) has an incredibly deep understanding of human psychology. Whoever that person is perceptively knew that as a man Jake would not think that was funny (regardless of whether we see him laugh). In the same manner, Amanda was led astray by the same people when they encouraged her to believe that Matt would appreciate the parents' HT prank and especially where the (unknown to him fake) mother was rubbing his nipple. Obviously, he did not and neither did the audience.
I knew when I saw Ashleigh (in a bikini) interrupt Gia's time that the symbol was meant to antagonize and stir up Gia who makes her living as a bikini model.
Sometimes it just chaps my buns - excuse me - that someone with such a marvelous perception of human psychology allows him/herself to be used in such a negative manner.
I am afraid that Tenley is quite naive and gullible. For all of Jake's curtesy and apparent nice guy persona, nevertheless, at 31 this guy has been around the block several times. In contrast Tenley has just crossed a busy street.
Out of the 4 she should be the best choice by her qualities, but I am afraid she is just too inexperienced for a 31 year old guy on the Bachelor.