I use my own experience as an example: I was married 25 years, divorced for 13 years, before he died 2 years ago. I was over it a long long long long time ago but it still galls me that I am considered divorced and not single. Some things you cannot explain; they just are part of you.
ETA: GO! sdl
At least there is something interesting Hadn't we heard form someone earlier that Jake dumped her when he found out he was oing on the Bachelor?