It really hit home for me last night that Andy couldn't say how he really felt to Tessa (or any of the other girls). Do the girls know this? I guess they do. Even if someone is falling madly in love with you, he can't say this because of the constraints of the show.
IMO, there was never any real struggle between Bevin and Tessa. You either fall in love or you don't. I do think Andy loved Bevin, and Danielle, as one would love a close friend. Andy is an open, affectionate person - you can see his family is too. I'm sure it was hard for him with Bevin, but I think he knew who he was going to choose.
So do all men like women who play hard to get? Sure they're going to be attracted to someone who is all over them, but there is nothing wrong with being a little more reserved and letting him come to you! It's all a matter of two different personalities with two different girls.
Bevin handled things well. Earlier in the shows I wondered how she couldn't see the attraction Andy had for Tessa. But after being here and learning more about the show, I realize that the girls don't know completely how he might relate to the others. So much for me to learn! Now I'm addicted - I'll be back next time!