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SAVE THE WHALES..THE OCEANS DIE..WE DIE!!!
First Ashley rejecting him, now the way it has been edited that Courtney is just playing with him.
Ben did not react well with Ashley. Up to that point I didn't really have an opinion of him...he seemed like an OK kind of guy, not better or worse than many his age, boring and with bad hair, but just blah. But, with his reaction there, I saw someone who had a temper and didn't like to be crossed. Still didn't think of him as a bad guy, and I could give him the benifit of a doubt, but it showed a hint of who he is...and we all know that the producers like to throw in hints of the real person in the editing...to keep themselves amused and to tease us. His reaction was out of proportion to the amount of time he spent with Ashley and how he had conducted himself up to that point.
This season, that same behaviour was brought out by Emily's warning about Courtney. How he reacted to her...both times...was telling to me. That man does not handle criticism well. Not a crime and doesn't make him a horrid person, but telling nevertheless.
I think all these things, coupled with the fact that he is not supposed to give away his feelings (good or bad), or the ending, make him frustrated...and I don't think he handles it well...but then, how many of us truly do?
I've finally discovered what's wrong with my brain: On the left side, there's nothing right, and on the right side, there's nothing left.
You could be right, yes. Its hard to handle something when emotions and feelings get in the way, harder still when you are on TV.I think all these things, coupled with the fact that he is not supposed to give away his feelings (good or bad), or the ending, make him frustrated...and I don't think he handles it well...but then, how many of us truly do?
I do think Ben is immature in how he chooses his girlfriends but he is still young. Plus, he did mention in on of th early shows that normally his friends like to put in their 2 cents about who he dates which leads me to believe that they are used to Ben making wrong choices.
I do still hope that Ben learns from this and that if Courtney is truly how she has come across on this show that they do break up in the end. I still like Ben a little, at least better than Courtney and want him to be happy in the end.
As for the producers motives, at this point, I couldn't give up watching The Bachelor/ette if someone paid me. I still love it and definitely am enjoying this season much more than Jake and Vienna's season. Vienna wasn't evil, she was just yucky. Courtney seems more evil which at least is not boring.
Didn't they bring in old bachelor and bachelorettes during Brads season, and Ashley's season. I cant remember, but why on earth do they think these, who failed in their relationships are suddenly experts.
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My guess is damage control. [Courtney's mother is] trying to take the spotlight off her daughter's bad behaviors and turn it on Ben. I just can't wait for WTA and AFTR!
Last edited by Arielflies; 02-15-2012 at 06:31 PM.
Ask me to show you poetry in motion, and I will show you a horse.
I get what you mean Ija, we don't know what it's like to date several people at once with camera's following you around. plus I'm sure TPTB make them re-do shots over and over again or for lengthy periods. I bet it gets a little frustrating and crazy. I absolutely cringe at the thought of any of my dating life in my 20's being filmed and shown on TV. People would defintely think I was a loony tunes. I'm sure there are a few guys in past who think that as well. Thank the lord I'm older and don't give a c*#p anymore.
Anyway... even though I think doing this show would be frustrating, that doesn't excuse nasty behavior or being a dumba*$s.
What if it was as simple as Courtney wanted exposure? She chose to go on this show and be the villian - and give them tons of material so she got air time and was the one we talked about? Does that mean she is a bad person? I don't know. Does it mean she didn't fall for Ben? I don't know. Does it mean the person we see on TV is anything like the real Courtney? I don't know. Ben definitely appears to be smitten with her. But again, I don't know. I have seen this much more with the Bachelors then the Bachelorettes, right or wrong - THEY DON'T CARE HOW THE PERSON IS TO THE OTHER WOMEN. It is all about how she treats him. We have seen that phenomenon time and time again on this show. And unfortunately, I have seen this in real life too - guys don't really care about how a woman treats other people, they care about how she treats them. And no, not all men are this way, thank goodness. But enough of them are.