Bachelor Jake Pavelka’s Violent Body Language, Smugness, Emotional Abuse, and Lack of Empathy Towards Vienna on Bachelor Reunion Showed A Toxic Man
JAKE’S VERBAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Jake showed that he was arrogant, smug, cut off from communication, unsympathetic, completely into himself. He clearly showed behavior of a control freak who demanded that he be listened to! When Vienna tried to apologize to him, he could care less. He was detached and arrogant. He then told her in the most gruff and harsh tone to “BE QUIET!” How dare he speak to anyone like that! One wouldn’t even speak to an animal in that tone of voice. It was highly abusive and very disturbing to watch.
JAKE’S HOSTILE AND ABUSIVE BODY LANGUAGE
When Jake told her to “BE QUIET” his body language was abusive as well, in that he presented his back hand to her. This is a very hostile gesture and can often be a precursor towards physical violence. When a person shows you the back of their hand during an argument, if they are angry enough at you and out of control enough, they could literally “back hand you”.
Jake also kept shaking his foot indicating that he wanted to get out of there. His body language was saying that wanted to leave and be far away from Vienna. If the backhanded violent gesture wasn’t enough, Jake then did something very shocking. It actually repulsed me to the point that I lost complete respect for him. If Jake could be this violent body language wise when telling her to stop interrupting him on national television, what could he do to her when the cameras were off of them and they were in the privacy of their home?
Jake did a mock karate chop on his thigh when he yelled at her to stop interrupting him. This is a HUGE red flag in my view. Gestures like that can and have often lead to physical violence. When someone punches a wall or punches their fist, or karate chops their thigh to get a point across it may be a dangerous signal and something to watch for.
JAKE’S ABUSE MAKES VIENNA CURL UP INTO A BALL
Vienna was so devastated by the Karate chop, the yelling at her, and the verbal abuse that she retreated into a fetal position while sitting. She literally curled up into a ball with her head on her lap as she sobbed. What was even more disturbing to see what Jake had done to her through his emotional abuse was to see that Jake didn’t even bat an eye. He could care less. He showed absolutely no humanity. Instead, he was focused on himself. He leaned away from her and tried to explain himself via anger, with his fist-like hand clasped to his shaking foot. He showed no compassion towards her whatsoever.
The selfishness and lack of compassion on Jake's part can never be forgotten. It reflected who he truly is as a human being.