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The Bachelor: Ben Flajnik Blogs About His Dates in Puerto Rico : People.com
Ben Flajnik Gets Wet (and Naked!) on The Bachelor
By Ben Flajnik
Puerto Rico does it better! I can't say enough good things about Puerto Rico and the women I brought here on The Bachelor.
I had caught a bit of a cold in Utah the week prior (so please forgive my nasally voice on Monday's entire episode), but I was feeling good about where my relationships were, and knew this week would hopefully bring more romance and feelings. I had never been to the Caribbean before and was really excited for some sunshine and water related dates with the 11 remaining women. I was also really hoping that the drama from Utah would have subsided by now, but boy was I wrong.
Watching the episode I was so flattered to see how excited Nicki got when her name was on the date card. It feels really good to know that she seems as genuinely invested in our relationship as I am. I chose Nicki for my first date in Puerto Rico because I really was starting to like her and considered her somewhat of a dark horse. She would constantly surprise me during our conversations and especially when watching her interact with the other women. She always seemed to have a positive attitude regardless of the situation at hand.
When the rain started to come down harder than I have ever experienced before, I was hoping Nicki could roll with the punches, and she did. It was hysterical! We were getting lost running through the streets, stomping through puddles, and she never worried about her makeup. My kind of woman. And our new garb was so rad I could hardly contain myself. I had a bunch of cigars in my pocket to really finish off the look, but unfortunately wasn't able to smoke any.
Later that evening, the conversation was pretty heavy, and I was happy Nicki felt comfortable enough to really open up to me. We talked about her divorce, what being married was like. To be honest, I wasn't spooked at all. I never looked at her divorce as a negative, rather a life experience and a lesson to grow from. Nicki is still very young and I wanted to let her know that I was here for her and didn't hold her past against her. I love her outlook on what she wants her next union to be, and I know that if we end up together, she is going into it with a clear concept of what it takes to have a successful marriage. Oh, by the way, Nicki is a great kisser.
Take Me Out
Moving on to the Gigantes! Baseball is a huge part of my life, especially the San Francisco Giants, and I thought it would be a good idea to see if any of these girls were interested in sports. Little did I know I was going to be a part of a nail-biting game full of tears, hits and lots of smack-talking. The teams were so evenly matched I couldn't have picked better squads myself. I am very flattered if even a percentage of how hard these women competed was to spend the evening with me. I felt really bad for Jennifer who struck out at the end because she had played so well all day. I know how bad the feeling of defeat can be. All of you ladies were amazing on the field! Seriously, The Bachelor should start a softball team.
I really tried to keep an open mind on my date with Elyse. I think she is a beautiful woman and I love that she risked a lot for the chance of finding love. I respect that type of commitment, but I also had to listen to my heart. I wish I had explained myself better to her on the beach. I feel Elyse is looking for a husband, but not necessarily me as that husband. It's hard enough as the Bachelor to know what a woman's true intention is, and to hear her talk about "not wanting to be single" made me doubt if I'm really what she's looking for. I think she is more in love with the idea of being in love and I knew we weren't headed to that place and I didn't want to lead her on. Elyse is a great woman, and I really want her to find a guy that is right for her.
I won't spend a ton of time on the skinny-dipping, because I feel like I've talked about it so much in the press! What I will say is that I try to focus on all these relationships singularly. It's odd to date more than one woman and in order to do so, you have to try to treat each one individually. If I were in Puerto Rico with a beautiful woman I was dating and she wanted to skinny dip, I would be a fool to decline. I treated this situation the same way. I will admit that at the time I wasn't thinking of the other women and how it would make them feel, and I'm sorry for that, but I can't blame Courtney for going out of her way to spend more time with me – that's why we are all here.
Saying goodbye to Jennifer at the rose ceremony was excruciating. We had such a fantastic date in Park City, but as my relationships with the other women were taking off, I knew in my heart that I wasn't going to end up with her. More than anyone else here, I didn't want Jennifer to invest any more of her feelings in me. She is so incredibly kind, and wears her heart on her sleeve, that I didn't want to risk her investing any more emotion in our relationship when I knew it wouldn't be forever. I will always remember Jennifer and the sweet time we shared together.
What a week. Emotions are running high and they only grow more intense in Panama City, Panama. Thanks for tuning in and going on this journey with me.
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What a tool Ben is -
No matter how he tries to spin this, he's very clear in the fact that he still thinks it's okay. If he ended up with anyone other than Courtney, I hoped she dumped his a$$ last night. To know that he was swimming naked and rubbing bodies with Courtney before he chose me? No thank you!
I will admit that at the time I wasn't thinking of the other women and how it would make them feel, and I'm sorry for that...
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Thank goodness Jennifer is gone! She deserves much better than Ben.
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After viewing an adorable video of Ben at the airport where his personality shines I have warmed to him. Google will bring it up. He is precious. This and his interview with Kimmel shows more of his personality than this show will. The unseen footage on the offical site is another good source of getting to know him more. Why they cut the most genuine scenes is beyond me.
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I love his disguise, no wonder Ashley found him fun, and funny.I wish we saw more of the funny!
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The Bachelor: Ben Blogs About Two-on-One Date : People.com
Ben Flajnik Opens Up About 'Excruciating' Two-on-One Date
One thing I love about traveling to new places is that feeling you get of starting over, like it's a fresh experience and anything can happen. I was ready for that in Panama City, and I knew the women were too.
I've always wanted to visit Central America and I was thrilled to take these nine ladies there on The Bachelor and make sure that every single woman got a date, which was really important to me. I knew there was still a lot of time left in this journey, but at this point, every moment mattered. I had feelings for each woman and every decision needed to be well thought out and in order do so, I needed time with all of them.
From what I hear, getting the first date of the season can be both exciting and hard. I know Kacie B. was really happy to get that first date in my hometown of Sonoma, but she also expressed how difficult it's then been to watch so many other women go out on dates. I've loved all the time I spent with Kacie B. on group dates and I definitely felt our relationship moving forward, but I agree that our first date felt like months ago. I was ready to feel those feelings again and to confirm they were still there. Our date in Panama went so well.
I sometimes worried with Kacie B. that we would run out of things to talk about, but that day we were able to "survive" on an island together while keeping a smile on our face, and then use our time that night to learn more meaningful things about one another. I really appreciated Kacie opening up the way she did. It takes guts to tell someone the things you're not proud of, and I respect her even more for turning it into a positive.
The group date was such a cool experience. Group dates have always been difficult for me, but they gotten harder as time goes on and as feelings have developed. It's awkward to be flirty with one woman while the other women are watching, or to hand a rose out in front of everyone, or to want to kiss someone but then worry another woman is watching. It's not easy balancing relationships while trying to make everyone feel special. That's why I was drawn to Courtney during the daytime portion of the group date – she made it a point to spend time with me. I always knew how she felt and she made sure to let me know that she was thinking of me. I will admit though, I wasn't pleased when she got in the pool during my time with Jamie. I know she was just trying to let me know that she's interested, but Jamie has a tough time opening up and having Courtney out of the corner of her eye wasn't helping.
My date with Blakeley and Rachel was interesting. I was dreading that date mostly because I remember how much Ben C. and William were dreading it on my season with Ashley. I felt for the women knowing they were probably stressed out about having the two-on-one, but I was so surprised when they showed up happy and excited for what was in store. Both of them seemed so confident and ready to make the most of the hand they were dealt.
I actually had a great time that afternoon and it wasn't until the dinner when things got really hard. Blakeley had been an open book since the day one and I experienced more growth with her than I did with almost any of the women. She never ceased to amaze me with her openness and vulnerability. Hearing her comment on how she was feeling made me realize that this woman doesn't open herself up like this very often. I knew I had to decide at that moment whether or not I saw her as my wife. I could've easily dated Blakeley for another few weeks but I knew in my heart it wasn't forever so I decided to let her go.
With Rachel, it was moving a lot slower but I was still open to the idea that something amazing could develop. Seeing Blakeley break down like that was excruciating. When watching it on TV, I wished I had reached out and hugged her. I didn't prepare myself for all the goodbyes I'd have to make in this experience and I hated seeing her cry and knowing I was the cause of it.
After such an intense week, and with such a difficult goodbye, I wasn't prepared for Casey S. to show up at my room. Watching it now I realize I could've been more sympathetic to her. She was clearly involved with a guy that wasn't appreciating her but all I could hear was that she was still in love with someone else. I had just sent Blakeley home, which was really hard on both of us, and I kept thinking, "How could you let yourself be here still if you're not that into me?" I can't change the way I reacted but I do hope Casey S. finds a man that appreciates her like she deserves.
The cocktail party was interesting. What stands out most to me was the bizarre interaction I had with Jamie. I think after watching this season you all know that I've had my fair share of kisses. Having Jamie walk me through one was sexy in theory, but it was so awkward in the moment! I wanted to make her feel comfortable and I know she was really working hard to put herself out there, but I felt like I was taking advantage of her in some way. I knew there wasn't enough time left in this journey to get to a place with Jamie that we would need to get so I had to let her go. She is one of the sweetest, most sincere women I've met and I hope she finds a man that is ready to go from 0 to 60 with her.
Thank you all for watching! Until next week,
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So, Ben doesn't bother to acknowledge that Courtney refused to forgive Emily, though Emily had taken his advice and was treading lightly. Wow, why did he bother to keep Emily around? Just because it was less painful for him to have to deal with her, since he was mad at her for insulting Courtney anyway?
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He avoided talking about Emily's apology to Courtney! He mentions that he didn't appreciate Courtney distracting him while he was talking to Jamie, but he doesn't mention her rudeness to Emily?! It's not all about you Benny! :angryman
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The fact that he so carefully avoids saying anything critical about Courtney (distracting him can be interpreted more as a compliment) suggests to me that she is F1.
Originally Posted by Baby's Breath
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"I could've easily dated Blakeley for another few weeks but I knew in my heart it wasn't forever so I decided to let her go".
I guess he can see himself with Courtney forever.......:rofl :lol :lol
Too bad she doesn't feel the same! :lol
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