Too lazy to go back and quote.....I have no problem with him saying he's confused. My memory seems to be that there have been few who haven't said they were confused at this point.
Also, can't remember which actual thread it was in but someone expressed irritation at the idea that he's said to be engaged but has no wedding date planned. Ummmmm, considering the "courtship", a longer engagement would be wise. I think it is entirely appropriate!