Case in point, it is just not in my nature to say or do things that I know or even suspect will hurt others. There is no way that the producers would have ever been able to get me to say those means things, even strictly in the interviews away from the other women. I am not trying to say that I am perfect, but I will say that living in that sorority beehive (as you like to say) would not have changed my basic personality...period. Courtney said and did those things, so just let her claim them without trying to whitewash her intentions.
Ben has defended Courtney by saying that those mean things were circumstantial. That is another way of shifting the responsiblity off of Courtney and making it appear that the mean side of Courtney just isn't the real her. But it is a real part of her personality, just like the other nice side that Ben got to see is a part. So, even if the circumstances of living with a lot of women competing for the same man are meant to get all of those good soundbites and good footage, it is up to the individual as to how they act and respond when the producers are egging them on. Courtney has only herself to blame.
The drama that Courtney created was boring. Courtney is annoying. Courtney skinny dipping and hugging Ben while naked after the skinny dipping is something that belongs on 'Bachelor Pad.'
But we don't know everything that went on in the house. It could well be very much like Lindzi's experience with her "call me" joke. Editing put it out of context. Which is not to say Courtney didn't say hurtful things, but perhaps she was telling the truth when she said she made an effort to be friendly, but just didn't fit in.
In an early season, we saw much the same thing, but Fleiss framed it more sympathetically to the outcast. More a Mean Girls type of scenario. A very attractive woman who clearly has the Bachelor's eye might be rebuffed if she tries to make friends.
As for the ITAs, sometimes these women don't know how they'll be portrayed - it's very unrealistic. When Rachel did her little smug thing with the rose after Blakeley was eliminated, that seemed very much like a camera crewperson was egging her on. "Hey, Rachel, Blakeley was sure making you feel like you had no chance today, and here you are while she's on her way home. How do you feel?" We see Rachel's reaction, but not the lead-up that produced the reaction.
This show is all about reactions, and very little about context.
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But every woman knows about what you call this "sorority hive mentality" and the editing when they sign up for it.
They know they will have a role and I think many are even selected/cast with the desired storyline in mind.
One would expect that each woman has a "strategy" for coping going in and I believe Courtney and Lindzi both had that, albeit different. Both strategies were actually effective and I think both women had a plan for the end game, regardless of the outcome.
"The way to become boring is to say everything." Voltaire
" The greatness of a nation can be judged by the way its animals are treated. "
And, I think he's very particular and none of the girls this season did it for him. I don't think he is dumb. A dumb person doesn't get to the point of creating a successful winery. And a dumb person doesn't fall for a U of PA graduate student and vice-versa.
What I got from this season is that none of the girls in the bunch had the combination of intellect and general chemistry that did it for him.
Courtney was at least "fun". He said once that Courtney "got it", i.e. she understood how to operate on this show. None of the others did. And, I think he detested the tattle-telling.
I'm no Courtney fan....any girl who skinny dips on national television and/or hugs a guy while completely nude (I didn't see that episode ... this is what I understand happened though) - any guy - is lacking self-esteem and a certain amount of moral character. Still, I get why Ben picked her - esp. if none of the others were to his taste. He just picked the one whose company he enjoyed the most. No love was invovled as far as I can tell. I really don't have a problem with her behavior or his decision.
The one area I take issue with has to do with Ben's post-show dalliances. Out of respect for all involved, including himself, he should have waited until after the reunion to start babe-hounding. That was rather Courtney-like of him. I can only guess that after watching the show on TV, he realized Courtney wasn't going to be "it" for him.
Anyhoo...this season is best forgotten about. Kind of a waste of everyone's time.
Last edited by Jexter; 03-16-2012 at 04:40 PM.
From what I have been reading, the ratings for this season's "The Bachelor" have been below what they have been for other seasons. So, maybe, just maybe, MF will take heed and return the show to it's original premise. Which I thought was...finding true love. Not finding the trash. I dare to hope.
I think a lot of people agree with you. I have spoken to a few people about this show( this year and last) online and in RL. For the most part they have said it's been a time waster. Thank goodness we have a choice, nobody makes us watch it. I wish somewhere TPTB could see what they are turning this show into. I do not think it will change, because ratings high or low, doesn't seem to matter to them. They have a formula, and they keep thinking its working I am sure on that cutting room floor they have really nice footage of all the contestants on this show .Nice doesn't seem to work does it? Emily's show in May will still have the most ___ ever. There will be a guy that needs to tell her about another guy, who is there for all the wrong reasons. I think I could write the dang thing! LOLAnyhoo...this season is best forgotten about. Kind of a waste of every one's time.
As an aside, it interesting to hear Chris say she is playing the game .Or, she just isn't good at the game. It just goes to show what this is really all about, its a game.Nothing more, nothing less.
Last edited by Fanny Mare; 03-16-2012 at 05:48 PM.
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