IMHO, doesn't it seem that the AJ's are missing a winning strategy? Having lived their lives being "the friend" and not the "boy friend" why aren't any of these guys doing what they do best: offering the Target a few sympathetic words? Lord knows she needs a friend, she knows she is facing potential world wide ridicule and humiliation. Wouldn't a greeting something like, "how are YOU doing? This must be VERY difficult for you," be not only a winning strategy but the decent thing to do? And in the first night's interview instead of trying to impress her, why not ask her about HER life? Maybe if an AJ could build a bond of trust and friendship he could rise above the hunks coming up later. Of course I do wonder if this has been done and but edited out, as it would expose the producers of what I believe to be one of the meanest shows I have ever seen.