Your choice of words came across as a specific jab at Dave because of the way people who like him tend to describe him. I actually didn't mention anything else about that post only that "St. Dave" stuck out for the reasons I mentioned. It sounded like it was being used to target his nice guy persona (and those who believe him to be a nice guy). That's what I extrapolated from your word choice in connection to how I and others like me view and describe Dave. It's really no big deal. I was just talking about the extreme reactions people have posted about Dave and how for me and others, it's surprising the depth of the negativity expressed since I perceive him as an overall nice guy who, imo, is being judged more harshly because of that niceness.
As for the use of the word hate, The Klu Klux Klan and Hitler using the word (as two of many examples) is horrific, but a person using the word to describe their feelings toward a person who has raped them or murdered someone they love(as an example) cannot be judged as being used in the same way. Denying a person the use of those words to express what they went through, because the word hate is always bad, can traumatize the survivor further. Nor can Dave or my use of it during a game be judged as having the same intent as when used by the Hitler's of the word. To me, the word can indeed be morally lethal, but it can also be used in a way that helps a human being cope with the complexities of surviving a traumas that goes beyond the average persons experience with painful situations.
We bring our life experiences to this and so I don't think, for me, at least, absolutes always apply to the use of a word.