And if you look at the finale ceremony - holding hands at her waist with Amanda and up in front with Jen - is that telling ? But what bothers me is that all along, Amanda has seemed to really be caring for Mark - she looks at him as if she really cared for him. I don't see that in the way that Jen looks at him - the feeling is missing for me. Hard to tell where Mark's feelings are - he has never said anything like "I'm speaking from my heart" or "I've missed you" to Jen but of course those could be just lines to Amanda. I am not bothered by Amanda's telling Mark where her feelings are - and that so and so telling all about making out or the massage business would truly bother me too. Why isn't Jen bothered by his spending the night with Amanda ? Amanda is not being presented in a positive light with all the doubting/tattle taling but Jen (disregarding her youthful body etc) is so calm(boring) and seems mainly interested in a physical interraction with him. What will she be like with his younger friends and visa versa ? If I saw more with Jen I might be able to adjust to his picking her - but Amanda seems to have more zip, more fun - maybe not as sexually experienced but just hard to tell what he is really looking for. I think obviously he hasn't fallen in love and it would be to his advantage to pick Jen for her networki experience but is it really believable or acceptable to the viewers ? The polls say that he will pick Amanda (or a kitten). Are we being fooled - if you think you know who he is picking - guess again !! Is anyone else having a hard time adjusting to the possibility of his picking Jen???